So, we can have a maximum of 200 people (comfortably) at our venue. When making the guest list, we factored in most everyone having a guest/+1, just so we would have a small cushion on our numbers. My fiance is inviting almost all of his coworkers, though, & it is a pretty big group. Most of them are married, with a few singles.
A couple of weeks ago, I was working on our invite spreadsheet, and one coworker was over at our house. He is single, lets call him "Steve". I thought it would be a good opportunity to drop a hint that we may not be giving +1's to the singles, without coming right out and saying "We are only inviting you - you can't bring a date". So, the three of us (myself, FI & Steve) had the following conversation:
Me: Hey, baby - do you know if *other single coworker* has a girlfriend?
FI: No, I don't think so.
Steve: No, they broke up.
Me: Oh, ok. What about *other single coworker*? Is she still dating that guy?
Steve: No, he moved away.
Me: Do you think they'll be ok if we invite them without a +1?
Steve: Oh, yeah, they'll be fine! Everyone else from the office will be there!
FI: Yeah, they'll be fine, no big deal.
Me: Hey, Steve - you're single, right?
Steve: Yup.
Fast forward to last nite. Our invites have been sent out and we've started getting RSVP's back. Steve (and others) were invited without +1's. Steve is at our house, and the following conversation takes place:
Steve: Hey - Pineapple - I got your wedding invitation! They are beautiful!!! I haven't sent my RSVP back yet tho.
Me: I know, I haven't gotten it yet
Steve: Yeah, I can't really send it back yet. I just don't know who I'm going to bring. But I'll get it to you.
So....yeah. I know I should have said "oh, I'm sorry if there is a misunderstanding, but the invitation is only for you..blah blah", but i just couldn't. We have the space, one more person won't kill us. I just can't believe this happened with him, of all people.
I guess there isn't really a point in me posting this. Just wanted to share . It happens.