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RSVPS via Email

missdelilahmissdelilah member
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Given that we're holding the wedding a country we don't live in, but the majority of guests do, I was wondering whether it was acceptable to ask people to RSVP by email.  I could have someone buy a sheet of international stamps, post them to me, and then send return envelopes with everything, but this ends up costing us about four times as much in postage as we'd planned (Australian postage is horrendously expensive).  Alternately, I could have the RSVPs sent to a family member, but I don't know if that's asking a bit much seeing as I've already sent everyone I'm close to on at least one errand.  

Advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you all very much.  
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    I think that's acceptable in this case, but I'm far from well-versed on etiquette!
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  • wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    It seems ok to me. Otherwise, I'd have someone that I trust in that country manage them for me.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    Are you going to mail invitations to the international guests, or send them e-vites?
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks ladies.  @beethery: we'll be mailing paper invites.
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  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    Could you have the international invites sent to someone in that country?  A family member you have there?  I might consider that as an option if there are international guests who are less than email saavy, or would at least provide a phone number option.

    ETA: I just saw that you could ask a family member... reading to quickly... I might do that if you feel guests might not be comfortable with email or feel a phone call to you would be intrusive.
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks @JaxinBlue.  I think that everyone is comfortable with email.  Oldest guests will be parent age, and most use them.  Phone calls and text messages are also an option.  

    I just imagine that curating RSVPs is a major task and I'm not sure who would want to/be able to devote that amount of time to the wedding.  
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    As long as you're mailing paper invites out of the country, I think you're fine doing email/alternate RSVPs for non-locals. Just make sure you hear from and check in on everybody when it's deadline time!
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks!  I'll definitely make sure to check in with people who I haven't heard back from.  
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Keeping track of RSVPs is pretty simple, really. I keep track right in my guest list spreadsheet in Google Drive. Couple come in the mail every day, I mark off the number coming, number decline, each meal choice, then put the card in a box. Takes 2 seconds a day. 
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks @lolo883.  
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    PS I read all of your posts with an Australian accent in my head. :-p
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Lol.  That's really amusing @lolo883.  I don't have a particularly Australian accent.  Most Americans think I'm British.  When I lived in England, most people thought I was American.  I guess it comes from having lived in a few different countries, coupled with coming from a part of Sydney where people don't talk like the Crocodile Hunter.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    missdelilah said:
    Lol.  That's really amusing @lolo883.  I don't have a particularly Australian accent.  Most Americans think I'm British.  When I lived in England, most people thought I was American.  I guess it comes from having lived in a few different countries, coupled with coming from a part of Sydney where people don't talk like the Crocodile Hunter.
    Don't crush my dreams. :-p
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Sorry.  Totally bogan in this household!
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    missdelilah said:
    Sorry.  Totally bogan in this household!
    BOGAN IS MY FAVORITE NON-AMERICAN ENGLISH WORD. BOGAN BOGAN BOGAN.
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    And if anyone comes across this post and doesn't know what a bogan is, here's the YouTube search I point my friends to (starring a very well known actor before he made it in to American cinema): https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=poida+the+bogan
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  • KytchynWitcheKytchynWitche member
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    I just want to ask you to say "Welcome to Hobart!" I dunno why.

    We've asked for RSVPs to be done by email or phone. Everyone on our list is on email except the grandparents, who we know aren't coming anyway, but they know our postal address so they can write us if they want.
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  • RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    I think in your situation it's totally fine and email is definitely better than one of those crap RSVP websites. 
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks @RebeccaFlower. I assumed a website might be a little much for some of them, particularly if it's not really straight forward.
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    @missdelilah I did email RSVPs because we have guests ALL OVER the world and it would have been extremely expensive to get appropriate postage for each and every country. Some of those countries are also known to lose letters/packages etc. So, like you, I sent paper invites to everyone but asked them to RSVP on out special wedding website. It was the surest way to get all our answers back safely since we are having the wedding in my home country, a tiny little island, and I live in the Great White North and FI lives in the UK lol. I think email RSVPs are ok in situations like these :)
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  • missdelilahmissdelilah member
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    Thanks @raissyrais.  I'm so used to sending email RSVPs to friends and family members, but when I'm the only person from the US who's invited, it seemed different than asking almost everyone to use email.  I think they'll all understand.  I've had a few letters go missing between Australia and the US, so I didn't want to be freaking out about that.  Thanks for sharing your plans with me.
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    missdelilah said:
    Thanks @raissyrais.  I'm so used to sending email RSVPs to friends and family members, but when I'm the only person from the US who's invited, it seemed different than asking almost everyone to use email.  I think they'll all understand.  I've had a few letters go missing between Australia and the US, so I didn't want to be freaking out about that.  Thanks for sharing your plans with me.
    No problem, you can PM me if you want and I can show you what my website looks like for the RSVPs. We also have a direct wedding email address, such as xxxxandxxxxwedding@gmail.com for people to RSVP if they don't feel like doing it straight on the website. Good luck :)

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