I want to fire two of my three bridesmaids. I'm not sure if I should, if I am over-reacting, etc. I asked my bridesmaids to be in my wedding party over a year ago and they were overjoyed. They were extremely helpful, adding ideas, just being happy that I am getting married. In the winter time, I asked them all over for a meeting, which they all came, to help me narrow down the vision and colors. Next, came their bridesmaids dresses, which they all bought and loved, which was really economical and they all said they would wear it again. After they purchased their dresses, we had another get together to accessorize them in the spring. In the summer I asked everyone to come to my house to help make bouquets, which only 4 had to made and one of my bridesmaids told me 1 hour into it that she would not be able to make it because her husband had not come back and she was with their kids. This surprised me because she RSVPed to this over a month ago and knew it was coming. The same bridesmaid also helped me pick out my dress, but flaked out on me with the fitting, which she put in her phone when I ordered my dress.
So, not only have I had a flaky bridesmaid, I have also been shunned by them too apparently. Besides be asking for help and planning for them to come to my house, my two problem bridesmaids have not bother to ask how things are going, if I need help, or even to come a visit. Now we are all mothers and we all have busy lives, but for the two problem bridesmaids, they have not called or anything in the past 3 months at least, and we all live relatively close to each other.
I am getting to the point that I would like for them to gracefully bow out of my wedding. They have not been a friend in the past months.
What would you do in this situation when I am getting married in two months? What would you say?