Monday chat

[Deleted User] · August 2014

good morning, happy Monday!

this is my last week at my current job. I am totally unfocused, but it's really okay because I don't have a ton to do since I've started wrapping everything up.

how was your weekend??

I did some shopping with H on Friday. we went to Hobby Lobby and I scored some stuff for the house... I finally found a table lamp that I liked and a cute basket/tray for the coffee table!! we ate a new pizza place, but it was just "eh". oh, and we went by the Fossil store. they had some brand new bags in a new color ("raisin"). I really liked one tote in the raisin color, and H told me I needed to get it for my birthday/new job. THANKFULLY the price tag was not ridiculous. there was another bag I loved in a gorgeous green color, but it is WAY too expensive. I doubt it'll ever make it's way to the outlet or sales, but I'll watch just in case. anyway, I am LOVING my new purse!

Saturday, we went to the farmer's market in the morning. it's a really fun time to go, because you'll see some summer stuff but also the beginning of FALL. we ended up bringing home a few pounds of peaches (I made a peach/blueberry crumble for dessert that evening!), some cute little Macintosh apples, okra, potatoes, and a really pretty bouquet of flowers. we had lunch with some friends (and I stopped by my fav bakery for a coffee and cookie). that evening, I cooked dinner and our friend and his new FI came over for dinner. I ended up making chicken and potatoes braised in a chocolate chile sauce (an authentic Hispanic recipe, so yummy), latin rice, fajita veggies, guac, and then the crumble for dessert.

Sunday morning, I woke up with a food hangover. wanted to go for a jog before church but could NOT get my eyes open! I ended up doing Insanity Recovery instead, so tonight I'm going to fit in that jog!

labro · August 2014

Sounds like a really great weekend Coco! Your farmer's market haul sounds sooo yummy! I know it will be hard to focus this week but I know you can do it!

My weekend was awesome! Friday I mailed my invitations!!! I was all over the place at the post office because at first the lady told me I couldn't hand cancel them...and I was like...no...I know I can...the guy said I could! So she had to go ask someone and came back with the stamp canceller. So I stood there and cancelled them all and another person came and walked off with them. I was convinced she was going to drop them everywhere because she basically just gathered up the whole stack in her arms and they looked like they were about to slide all over the place. But I guess they made it in the mail because @southernpeach89 received hers on Saturday along with a few other local guests!

Saturday was my bridal shower!! It was so much fun! Nearly everyone we invited was able to attend. We played some really great games and had some delicious food and I got some incredible gifts. I am really overwhelmed with everyone's generosity. I think one of my favorite gifts was an item from off-registry. One of the ladies from my bookclub brought a silver platter with hammered edges from Lenox and I'm in love with it. It's huge and perfect for everything! Anyway, here's a pic of me, our mom, and @southernpeach89 drinking mango mimosas.

Sunday FI and I went up north to visit a friend and her SO. He owns two horses so we went up there and helped them load hay in the barn loft, feed the horses, and then get some impromptu riding lessons. Next time my friend's SO says we can definitely do some trail riding but he wanted to make sure we were comfortable on the horses first. I rode Delana first (she's the one in my picture below) and Ransom second. I think I liked Ransom a little bit more. He was a slightly smaller horse and I felt like the ride was smoother. Both horses were very well trained and well behaved and so much fun to be around! After we rode, we grilled steak and drank wine and watched the neighbors cows. We also brought Cinders with us and she had a blast seeing cows for the first time.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@LaPeanut1018 - I saw the pictures from your bridal shower!! it looks like you had a great time. and I am jealous of your horse-riding this weekend! my dad has two horses, but I never get a chance to go ride them. I think I need to do that before it gets too cold. last year we couldn't ride them because they were healing from the tornado (broken pelvis, skin ripped off, etc.) but my dad has been riding them since late-spring and they are pretty much back to their old horsey selves.

what did Cinders think of the cows?

Peaseblossom55 · August 2014

@lapeanut1018 glad you had a great time at your shower. Mango mimomas sound amazing!

@cocobellaF yay for your last week at your old job! I love farmer's markets, sounds like you got some good stuff.

Friday H & I went to Lowes picked up our backsplash and I picked up a few gray paint sample to paint the spare bedroom. I finally found one I liked from Home Depot on Saturday morning. Friday night we made homemade pizza, it was good and fun to make.

Saturday H's parent's came over, began to help H with the backsplash and putting in a new window frame in the kitchen. H's mom and I painted the room that will be our walk in closet. We used a linen white and it came out really nice. It still needs a second coat though. I was hoping more would get done in the kitchen but I guess not. Sunday we just slept in, and did a few things around the house. Sunday night we went to dinner at our favorite Mexican restaurant. I found a new book to read over the weekend that I'm already almost done with but it's not that good. H & I also had a few more conversations about our TTC timeline yay babies!!

500days · August 2014

@Cocobellaf- your weekend sounds amazing! farmer's markets are the best. Good luck during the final week too!

@Lapeanut1018- Love the pic of your mom, you and @southernpeach89! Sounds like a great bridal shower weekend :-)

This weekend I felt kind of anxious about doing things because I want to start going to bed waaay earlier and waking up at least an hour earlier in the morning. Friday night FI and I stayed in and watched the little league world series since the town I teach in made it- and I know a bunch of the kids on the team. They ended up losing, but since it is double elimination they played again the next day and won. I know it sounds cheesy, but it was really awesome to see the kids on real-deal national TV.

Saturday I spent the day with BFF at a music and arts festival by the beach. It was held at a millionaire's home, with a rock climbing wall, beer garden, 2 stages and lots of displays, vendors and food trucks. It was a great time, just walking around looking at things and lying in the grass listening to music. We didn't really talk wedding at all- more about her transition after divorce. It sucks so hard when you don't know what to say to make a friend feel better and know it's going to be okay :-( We stayed for a good 5 hours before it started getting too chilly. She ended up staying the night since we were exhausted.

Sunday was a lazy day. I cooked breakfast for BFF and FI and then did NOTHING. I didn't get dressed until 5pm when FI wanted to go out to dinner. Very relaxing day...I wish today was Sunday again. In a couple hours I will be going to clean my classroom and do some work. I really need an attitude adjustment, just not feeling like it!

minskat30 · August 2014

@LaPeanut1018 - Glad you had a great time at your shower!

@CocoBellaF - I am always wondering where you get such great food/dishes. Having a great farmers market certainly must help.

@Peasseblossom55 - Yeah for home renovation!

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Saturday H and I took a break from home reno. We picked up some things we needed for the staining of the floors and went to my niece's birthday party (I got her a TON of clothes). A good time was had by all.

Sunday H and I put on the first coat of stain on our wood floors in one room to test it. We went back and forth on the color but went for a light finish. The color looks nice but we have a halo effect going on around some of the corners (corners are darker). H thinks it was because of the sanding (my brother in law didn't use the same grade paper as H and I did and he did the corners). So now we have to resand everything but at least we figured out the issue, right?

Dignity100 · August 2014

Hi ladies

I didn't have the best weekend - so sorry for my ranting and super long post in here.

Friday night - I got home, did my workout and cut the grass. I was dead tired after that, FI came over and we went to dinner and when we got home, I fell asleep right away.

Saturday - We had to run some errands. My brother had asked if FI and I wanted to do dinner, I wasn't really in the mood but we had told him earlier in the week we would. Dinner was awkward because FI and I just didn't want to be there. On the ride home I mentioned something about if my mom didn't come at least my dad would be there. That's when my brother told me that my parents were over at his house last week fixing something and that my dad basically had told him that he didn't think my mom was going to make it and if my mom didn't go my dad didn't feel comfortable leaving her behind. I guess I just never thought of that as an option. So I'm pretty upset and it brought up years and years of hurtful feelings my parents had caused me over the years and basically how if this was my brother's wedding my mom would make an effort to be there - so I was just pretty depressed all weekend. Right now with the pain still where it is, I feel if my parents don't make it, it will damage our relationship beyond repair. I guess I can emotionally start preparing for if they decide not to go.

Sunday - I pretty much just allowed myself to feel sad/depressed. We had a few more errands to run and then just watched TV at home. I got mad at my neighbor kids for the same ol' thing - coming into my backyard leaving my gate open like 3+ times in one evening.

LizzyTish88 · August 2014

@CocobellaF That dinner sounds delicious!

@LaPeanut1018 I also saw pics from the shower. So glad it went well. You're one step closer!!

@Peaseblossom55 Yay babies!

Friday night we hung low and went out to eat. BF is always tired on Friday nights because that's a rough day at work for him. We did talk a little more about getting engaged and he told me that it could be in a week or it could be a year, but he wants it to be a complete surprise. We also talked rings and the styles I like and he took mental notes. YAY!! Now to keep the BSC at bay for a while.

Saturday I had a cheer thing in the morning then I came home and did 1000000 loads of laundry and cleaned up around the house. I ran some errands with my mom too and it was nice to see her. BF had his first of two Fantasy Football drafts so he was gone most of the day. That night we went out to eat at the Plymouth waterfront. After dinner we walked out on the Jetty. For those who don't know this area is where Plymouth Rock is. Plymouth Rock though is not that exciting! I always laugh because people get so excited to see it and then look over the wall into the alcove and say "That's it?!?" It's pretty funny.

Yesterday we hung out around the house.We brought Tessie down to a pond and took her swimming. She loves it and it's so funny to see her go along. Then we ran some errands and got some stuff for the house, a new wireless printer and Windows Office. Then we met BF's mom for dinner. She is still quirky as ever. First thing she asks when we sit down to dinner (BF was in the bathroom) was if I was liking living with him and if I was okay with it. I tell her yes it's great and she proceeds to say "I finally had him trained the way I wanted him after 25 years and then he up and leaves me." It's been almost 4 months and she is clearly still having a really tough time. I feel bad, but she does these things and makes it worse.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@CocoBella - Looks like you had an awesome weekend. Jealous of all your great market finds! Excited that it's your last week though - I bet it will go by in a flash!

@LaPeanut1018 - Cute pic from your shower! Glad you ladies had such a wonderful time...sounds like you were totally spoiled - as you should be!

Thursday night my SIL and I had a chat - finally - and it went really well. It felt great to put it all out there and I just hope we've finally settled this. Will be nice to enjoy family time with her again. Looking forward to our Christmas cabin now.

Friday I took the day off and hung out with my bestie. We went to a yummy brunch in old town and caught up on all the things.

Saturday we helped some friends move. It was crazy hot and they had a TON of things - but I was glad we could help them with it all. (especially since she's 7 mos. preggers)

Sunday was a big day for the pups. Nail trim, vaccinations, bath, new food...it was an expensive day for us, but he's worth it!

All in all it was pretty tiring - but next week we'll be in MEXICO!

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@minskat30 - normally I get my produce from Sprouts. they have awesome produce/meat/cheese/bread selections! we're going next week to the farmer's market to get the last of the peaches.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@allusive007 - I'm really glad you were able to talk with your SIL.

Blue & White · August 2014

Today our fleas got exterminated. That's really all that matters. I hope they for a quick death ugh.

I worked most of the weekend and H had a friend drop off our lawnmower that was at H's parents' house and we did a lot of chores - to prep for the fleas we had to unpack all the boxes, get everything off the floor, vacuum the whole house including base boards etc, and mop. It was exhausting.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@Blue & White - I hope those stupid fleas are ALL DEAD.

minskat30 · August 2014

@Blue&White - Ugh. HATE fleas. Fingers crossed they are gone. @Dignity100 - Hugs to you. I'm sorry about your family. I can relate but I'm sorry they are doing this to you. Sometimes, as painful as it is, it is better to cut your losses. Also, the neighbor situation hasn't gotten better? Is there a way you can lock the gate with a padlock? It just doesn't sound safe for your pups.

phira · August 2014

@Blue FLEAS ARE THE WORST.

@LaPeanut1018 I'm so glad your shower went so well! I can't believe how soon your wedding is!

@Dignity100 I'm so sorry about how your parents are behaving. Even though a wedding is just one day of your life, and it's not representative of your entire life, it still really means something when important people aren't supportive about it.

One thing I've experienced with wedding planning that has been a bit of a shock is that it feels like every weakness or problem in every relationship I've ever had is being uncovered. Like, sometimes, you have a flawed relationship with someone, and you just kind of ignore it because it's not something you can fix, but it's not a deal-breaker of any sort. My sister and I have had a lot of issues because I'm estranged from our dad, and day to day, that has very little impact on our lives, but when I got engaged, suddenly we had to talk about Dad again. Stuff like that.

My only advice (if you even want it, and you might not, so don't feel bad if you don't!) is to do what you're already planning and prepare yourself emotionally for both of your parents not coming.

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My weekend was okay! Like I said in my other thread, I was on vacation last week in Nova Scotia with J and his family. Saturday, we made the drive back down to the states, which took about 11 hours. I was a little irritated because we made four unscheduled stops--two bathroom stops and two stops for J's brother and sister-in-law to switch who was driving. Honestly, I wouldn't have been irritated at all under other circumstances; I have frickin' IBD so I know that when you gotta go, you gotta go. And falling asleep while driving is a serious problem, so I'm glad that they switched when they needed to.

What bothers me, though, is that last year, a BIG deal was made about how we DON'T make unscheduled stops. I was only recently in remission on that trip, and I got food poisoning or something similar on the trip up. I was miserably uncomfortable and I desperately needed to go to the bathroom. When J and I finally asked for an emergency bathroom break, his brother and sister-in-law were irritated and judgmental, and when I needed a second one while we were in the middle of nowhere, New Brunswick, they weren't happy about having to stop.

I get that it's their car, and they're making the drive (they aren't comfortable with me driving because I'm uninsured), but the double standard bothered me a lot.

Either way, we made it home safely. We relaxed the rest of the day after we unpacked. On Sunday morning, we picked up birdo from my aunt's house, and then did four 100% necessary loads of laundry (beach towels took up a lot of room). We didn't do much for the rest of the day besides hang out, although I did field a very long phone call from my childhood best friend, who'd just broken up with her boyfriend.

And now I'm back at work. BOO.

Peaseblossom55 · August 2014

@Blue I hope all of the fleas go away now.

Ollie08 · August 2014

@CocoBellaF - That farmers market haul sounds awesome! It's been so dang hot here we haven't been going to the farmers market.

@lapeanut1018 sounds like you had a great bridal shower!

Friday night was open house for the girls. We met their teachers and the girls seemed pleased. I had to run to Walmart afterward to finish getting my sister's going away/graduation gift together. I ended up getting home at 9 and decided it was best to bring it to her that night since she was leaving Saturday morning. Good thing I did too, because they were gone before we even got up! My little sis is officially a Florida Gator (:::shudder:::).

Saturday we spent cleaning the house and we finished painting our master bedroom. Sunday we went to church, and I had a showing right after that about an hour away. The whole family came, and we decided to finish school supply shopping on our way home. There was a Walmart near my showing, so we stopped there and were elated to find out that it was actually in a county that had already gone back to school so there weren't any huge crowds to fight with or anything! It was glorious. When we got home the girls decided they wanted a haircut, so I did them both. It was SO much easier to cut the little one's hair instead of my older DD.

And this morning was the first day at school for them!

500days · August 2014

@dignity100- *HUGS* I would definitely be upset too if my parents were not sure if they were going to make the wedding. Here for you if you need to chat about it.

@allusive007- awesome that you were able to chat with your SIL and make things better! And yay for Mexico!

@caseface5- LOL about Plymouth rock! So true.

@minskat30- Floors are quite the job! That's what my FI does for work. If you have any questions you can definitely shoot them my way. FI always bitches about closet corners and stuff like that, so I totally here ya.

Ollie08 · August 2014

@Dignity100 - I'm really sorry to hear that about your parents. I can imagine it's hurtful to hear it from your brother especially. Before planning a DW, had you talked to your parents about their ability to come?

buttercup1958 · August 2014

Blah Monday! My weekend was ok. I worked on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I can't really think we did much of anything or that I'm so tired I can't think. The only thing that stands out is that I have to get a new computer. It's going to be an expense that I wasn't planning on for awhile. So I either get a nice one to last or a cheapo since I don't have a lot of money.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@Dignity100 -

that is so frustrating. I'm in agreement with PPs... just prepare yourself, that they probably won't come... and if they do, it's a very happy surprise.

eilis1228 · August 2014

@CocoBellaF Yay last week at work! It will definitely be hard to stay motivated, but I know you'll do a great job. I hope this week flies by for you!

@LaPeanut1018 It sounds like you had a fantastic weekend! I'm so glad the shower was a hit, invitations are out, and you got to ride some horses. I'm sure you're relieved that so much of the WR things are done, and now you can get into the final phases of planning. 2 months to go!

@peaseblossom55 I can't wait to see pics of the back splash and closet once everything is finished! Sounds like you guys got a lot done around the house, even if it wasn't as much as you'd hoped. I'm sure next weekend you'll be able to finish up the kitchen at least. And yay for TTC talk! Has the timeline moved up?

@500days Eek, that's definitely a tough situation with your friend, especially when you're in the exact opposite place in your life. I'm sure just getting out and talking with you helped her though.

@minskat30 argh, resanding everything sounds tedious and time consuming, but I'm glad you guys were able to figure out the issue pretty quickly. I'm glad everything is coming together for you guys with the house! It's hard to believe it was only like 2 weeks ago when the sellers were being punks, and now you guys are staining the floors

@Dignity100 Oh wow, I'm so sorry. *hugs* I've been in a similar situation with my dad, and it's just the worst feeling ever. I really hope they come to their senses and realize how important this is, but all you can do at this point is block out their drama and focus on you and your FI. If they don't want to or aren't able to be there, well... screw them. At the end of the day, it won't matter who was or wasn't there and what bullshit excuse there was behind it... you'll be married to your FI, and that is all that matters.

@caseface5 I read your thread yesterday about your BF's "proposal," and WOW. You handled that so well. I don't even know how I would have reacted... so many mixed emotions. You seriously are a champ for being so calm, cool, and collected about everything. I'm really glad your BF is finally coming around to the idea of marriage (because I mean, being ok with kids and not marriage was reallllllly weird), and I'm so excited that he's so excited about the next step! Yay! We'll have to do our best on here to keep you distracted lol

@allusive007 Mexico! Soon! Where are you guys going in Mexico? I just got back from Cancun and want to go back ASAP.

@Blue & White ugh here's to the fleas being killed off ASAP. That sounds pretty terrible.

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My weekend was pretty great. We got back Saturday night from Cancun and hung out with some friends. We ordered pizza and just sat around chatting until midnight-ish. Yesterday was a really lazy day. I did a ton of laundry, we ate fast food twice, and we watched Bicentennial Man. We didn't run any errands, and we didn't really clean or anything. It was fabulous. Of course, now I have to go to the grocery store tonight after work and be super productive, but oh well.

Last night my sinus infection went craaaazy too. I was fine in Mexico, but I guess the air in Dallas is nasty because my sinus infection is terrible now. I called the ENT this morning to set up an appointment, but he's out of the office until Thursday. Hopefully the infection doesn't get worse before then.

Cancun was great! I didn't want to come home. lol. We stayed at a really nice all-inclusive, and the food, drinks, beach, and pool were great. We went to Chichen Itza one day, which was really fun. The tour stopped at a "traditional Mayan market" (total tourist trap), then went to a restaurant where we had lunch, then went to Chichen Itza, and then we swam in an underground cenote. Later that week we went ATVing in the jungle, swam in another cenote, and zip lined through the trees. We explored the hotel zone in Cancun a few days too and had fun haggling with the vendors. It was such a great trip.

I also had a heart-to-heart talk with FI. At the beginning of the trip, he was acting kind of weird and didn't want to drink or do anything really. I asked him what was going on, and he said he'd just been in a funk for the past few months. I'd known something was up, but he always kept telling me he was fine (such a stereotypical female in that regard), but I finally got him to open up. He's just frustrated with work and wanting something more stable than contract work, so I encouraged him to start applying for jobs now that he's got a few years of experience. He also said he hasn't physically been feeling that well lately and he's insecure about some weight gain, so I told him he had to stop eating like he was a teenager and start drinking water and exercise a bit. Honestly, his weight gain isn't noticeable. It's made him look less like a walking Skeletor and more like a healthy human being (he's really tall and weighs like 175 lbs... he used to weight 160 lbs). He begrudgingly agreed to start taking better care of himself and to communicate with me more about whatever is stressing him out.

So yeah, all in all, a great trip with a lot of great memories. Now to fight this sinus infection and answer all my emails...

Dignity100 · August 2014

@Ollie08 - I asked my parents before anybody else. I know my mom has anxiety issues, but I didn't want to put her up against 150+ Italians that like to do the tradition 'hug - kiss/kiss' thing because my mom is not comfortable being touched. I explained a DW was the only way to limit the number of people and they were on board. My mom even mentioned a DW when FI and I were just in the process of looking at rings and such.

@500Days - Thanks! I guess I'd be a little more understanding if it was financial reasons that they couldn't make it, but it's not. They're footing my brother's trip (which they lashed out on me for him going overboard instead of just telling him 'we'll give you X amount toward your wedding expenses').

@Phira - It is one day one event, but it's also one example of how they haven't been there for me. I've always joked that my parents play favorite's in the following order: Bro, SIL, my dogs, FI, and finally me. They've admitted that they have yelled/punished me for things my brother did because how I got over things faster and my brother holds grudges and they were hoping that he'd learn through me getting in trouble (no idea how their reasoning works). The only time I really remember them helping me out has been when my dog was diagnosed with terminal cancer; but even then my brother came first (my car was titled to my dad and I needed to trade my truck in for an SUV that my dog could get in and my SILs brakes were 'squeaky' - so my need for a car that my dog could actually ride in was put aside for my dad to look at brakes that all he could find was a little surface rust).

I really hate to complain but really just hearing that my parents might not come just kind of dusts off a lot of those old emotions of being set aside and my feelings not being taken into consideration. I do remember at my brother's wedding my dad telling me he was sorry that my needs were always set aside and that when I always have to say 'That's ok' he understood and it really was not ok.

Peaseblossom55 · August 2014

@eilis1228 Cancun sounds like a lot of fun!! Glad you had a great time. We are pretty much just trying to decide when to start trying and we have an idea we're just going to think about it for a few weeks and we also want to make sure the kitchen is at least done by then too.

minskat30 · August 2014

@eilis1228 - I know! I'm so glad the prior owners are out of the house and we get to reno. We met some neighbors too and they were telling us how the prior owners didn't do jack for the house. We are giving her ALL the love.

Cancun sounds lovely butI'm sorry to hear about the sinus infection. Can you get into urgent care? Thursday is a long way to wait.

phira · August 2014

@dignity100 That's just plain awful. Like, Parenting 101: You don't punish one child for things another child does. Honestly, I wish that I could do something else besides just say, "I'm so sorry" on an internet forum

bethsmiles · August 2014

I barely got a weekend. I work for the ADA and we had Tour de Cure this weekend which meant super super long days for me. Friday set-up went from 9 am - 9 pm. Then we all had to get up at 3 am to be back at the event for when registration started. I didn't end up leaving until about 5:30 pm. It was also super hot out on Saturday so I was exhausted when I got home!

Sunday, I didn't do much of anything. I was just lazy around the house with BF.

Today is my first day at my new teaching job! I'm so excited/nervous! And tomorrow hopefully I will be buying a new car! BF and I have been sharing his car which has been working out okay but it's kind of a pain so we'll both be glad when I have a working car again.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

have fun, @bethsmiles!! lots of exciting things happening this week.

Ollie08 · August 2014

Big HUGS to you @Dignity100. I really hope your mom can get it together and be there for you. I know the feeling all too well of being the second (or really, last) choice with my siblings. So I can understand how those feelings would resurface.

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@Eilis1228 - We are going to Riviera Maya, just south of Cancun. We're staying at the Now Sapphire Resort because I scored us an AWESOME deal. We went to Mexico about 5 years ago and stayed at the Dream's Resort in Puerto Aventuras and loved it (even further south from Cancun). We can hardly wait to lay on a beach for a week and just relax. Much needed! Glad you had a great time on your trip - where did you guys stay in Cancun? I'm always looking for vacation recommendations!

[Deleted User] · August 2014

@Bethsmiles - Kick butt at your new job today lady! You're going to rock it!! Also - super exciting about getting a new car. What are you thinking you want?

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