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Addressing invites...I am so confused!

ElcaBElcaB member
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I'm told Crane's is a great resource for invitation etiquette. I checked it out, but I still have some questions: 

We are not doing inner envelopes. Someone recommended I use the inner envelope wording to address the outer (and only) envelope, but this doesn't make sense to me as the inner envelope usually just says, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" as opposed to "Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith." 

TK has some tips for addressing envelopes, but I know TK isn't always up to par on etiquette advice. Should I ignore its suggestions?
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Re: Addressing invites...I am so confused!

  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    edited August 2014
    The only times the "inner on the outer" advice holds true is when you're inviting children/families or guests. For families, you'd normally address the outer to "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" while the inner was "The Smith Family" or "Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family" or "Mr. and Mrs. Smith/Sally and Tommy." When you have no inner envelope, the outer would include "and Family" or the kids' names spelled out.

    For guests, you'd normally have "Mr. James Jones" on the outer and "Mr. Jones and Guest" on the inner. With no inner, the outside is "Mr. James Jones and Guest."
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  • wandajune6wandajune6 member
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    We skipped inner envelopes as well and did it the way @lolo883 suggested. It's worked well except for one thing: we keep getting calls asking if kids are invited. We invited everyone's children but people worried that they were reading it incorrectly.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Basically you'd incorporate the 2nd lines of the inner envelope onto the outer envelope.   Never use "and family" and instead write the lines of the children invited below their parents on the outer envelope. 
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    Thanks. This has helped. 
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