Do I become the beeotch I so badly want to become?

larrygaga · August 2014

Basically I went to this ballroom, and they sucked a lot. I knew within like 10 seconds of being there that I didn't want to book it. The lady was kind of rude and pretty unprofessional, and was not willing to work with us on anything (I was NOT asking for the moon, just to have the ballroom to myself. lol) . I told her we would call her if we wanted to book but that we probably wouldn't want to book there, that it just wasn't right for us. She emailed me a few times since then, and finally I just told her we were not going to book with her. She immediately emails me back asking why not?

I wanna tell her the truth, but I sorta think I should just delete the email because I won't say anything nice.

larrygaga · August 2014

There were a lot of annoying things about that place, but the most obnoxious thing was they had this pretty small ballroom that they would split in half with a curtain. I asked how much more it would be to rent out the other half of the room, because we were like 20 people short on the guest list to have the whole room. She said she can't do that at all, and I have to share the room, bathrooms and bar with a different wedding. Larry don't share good, okay?

What.

She also thought my 24 year old FI, who look his age, was my dad. WTF why would you think that??? Why is that your first assumption?

larrygaga · August 2014

Another post: FI says I should just photoshop ghosts and orbs into the pictures of the ballroom I took, and send it back like this is why I don't want to book, it's haunted!!!

theartistformerlyknownas · August 2014

I'd tell her the truth. Bitches gots to learn.

wandajune6 · August 2014

I handled one venue by telling that I didn't want to book a place with gum on the floors. She clearly thought I was a bitch- and I thought I was being generous!

pinkcow13 · August 2014

Ew, why would sharing a ballrooms with another wedding be okay?? And let me get this straight, only a curtain would separate the rooms? Wouldn't you both have different music? I'm also appalled that she had th nerve to ask why! I like your FI's idea of photoshopping in some ghouls and goblins:) Edit: holy iPad autocorrect

doeydo · August 2014

I'd tell her the truth. She is being way too pushy, IMO, but if she is curious as to why maybe she is thinking of how to get more customers in the future.

Inkdancer · August 2014

I would be honest. A curtain is not sufficient separation from another wedding, and her unwillingness to let you rent the whole room is a problem (unless she's already booked the other half of the ballroom, in which case she should just say so!). It isn't bitchy to give honest critique.

MobKaz · August 2014

smichek said:

Is there a manager you could contact about her being so unprofessional? I would for sure mention the lady emailed you back asking why you don't want to book the ballroom. None of her damn business, that's why.

I would disagree with this to a certain extent. We had a few vendors ask in a professional way if there was something in particular that made us not choose them, or choose another vendor. They were looking for honest feedback in case there were things they could change to encourage more business. For some it was merely a matter of price point, and for others it was their ability to be flexible/offer substitutions. You would be surprised how many vendors will actually adjust their policies rather than lose business.

missdelilah · August 2014

larrygaga said:

Another post: FI says I should just photoshop ghosts and orbs into the pictures of the ballroom I took, and send it back like this is why I don't want to book, it's haunted!!!

This made me and FI wet our pants! We actually booked a place with a reputation as being the most haunted site in Australia. The ceremony will be in an old hospital, and the reception in one of the original dining rooms. My sister is beyond freaked out by this whole prospect and said that under no circumstances would she be staying at the hotel with the rest our family. I've asked my photographer if she can photoshop images of ghosts or orbs in to all the pics that have my sister in them. She said she'd look at doing a few.

JoanE2012 · August 2014

larrygaga said:

There were a lot of annoying things about that place, but the most obnoxious thing was they had this pretty small ballroom that they would split in half with a curtain. I asked how much more it would be to rent out the other half of the room, because we were like 20 people short on the guest list to have the whole room. She said she can't do that at all, and I have to share the room, bathrooms and bar with a different wedding. Larry don't share good, okay?

What.

She also thought my 24 year old FI, who look his age, was my dad. WTF why would you think that??? Why is that your first assumption?

You should've told her you had the extra 20 guests!

That said, I would've told her the truth, but not in a bitchy way. Unless she pressed the issue even further afterwards.

lurkergirl · August 2014

\missdelilah said:

larrygaga said:

Another post: FI says I should just photoshop ghosts and orbs into the pictures of the ballroom I took, and send it back like this is why I don't want to book, it's haunted!!!

This made me and FI wet our pants! We actually booked a place with a reputation as being the most haunted site in Australia. The ceremony will be in an old hospital, and the reception in one of the original dining rooms. My sister is beyond freaked out by this whole prospect and said that under no circumstances would she be staying at the hotel with the rest our family. I've asked my photographer if she can photoshop images of ghosts or orbs in to all the pics that have my sister in them. She said she'd look at doing a few.

BreMR · August 2014

I think telling her the truth is NOT bitchy!!

Also, speaking of orbs, my cousin is looking at buying a house and sent me this picture with the caption "I wanted the house until I got to the basement photo...."

63755 Musky Lake Rd, Iron River, WI 54847 - MLS#: 47444

beethery · August 2014

missdelilah said:

larrygaga said:

Another post: FI says I should just photoshop ghosts and orbs into the pictures of the ballroom I took, and send it back like this is why I don't want to book, it's haunted!!!

This made me and FI wet our pants! We actually booked a place with a reputation as being the most haunted site in Australia. The ceremony will be in an old hospital, and the reception in one of the original dining rooms. My sister is beyond freaked out by this whole prospect and said that under no circumstances would she be staying at the hotel with the rest our family. I've asked my photographer if she can photoshop images of ghosts or orbs in to all the pics that have my sister in them. She said she'd look at doing a few.

Girl, I like you and you are cool shit. But there is no way in hell I'd be able to handle that at all. You are a brave, BRAVE lady. All I can think of is that old MTV show where they'd go investigate haunted places and it's giving me serious heebie-jeebies.

lurkergirl · August 2014

Y'all. I am home alone half the week. I already scare myself. We recently started watching American Horror Story. Now This. Every light in my house is on and the TV is up loud. And I swear my dog is nervous...AAHHHHH

missdelilah · August 2014

Thanks @beethery. I've actually been there a ton of time, at night, with small groups, back when it was a national parks site, and not a hotel. I think it's pretty safe. I'd love to get some actual weird stuff in the photos though. That would be great! I'm a little less sure about having booked three nights there, but I can have one of BMs stay the first night with me if I freak out, and then there's the wedding, and I'll have FH.

beethery · August 2014

lurkergirl said:

Y'all. I am home alone half the week. I already scare myself. We recently started watching American Horror Story. Now This. Every light in my house is on and the TV is up loud. And I swear my dog is nervous...AAHHHHH

Same boat. FI is gone on night shifts until he gets home from the last one next monday morning. I've got a Golden Girls marathon going, the doors bolted, and all the lights on. I've had to skip watching regular TV because there's a fucking horror movie commercial on heavy repeat and it gave me nightmares last night. Dammit, I LIKE TO SLEEP!

Focus on funny or cute shit on the tv or internet. If you find yourself getting weirded out, think of 7-8 funny/cute things. It'll help you basically bean dip your brain. It's worked great for me for years.

lurkergirl · August 2014

Hahaha, you get it! Internet TV is my friend. Right now I'm watching Food, Inc. It was cool to watch the chicken segment while I ate my chicken sandwich...on white bread...with bottled mayo...

And you reminded me that I need to lock the garage door...now I have to go in the basement, thanksalot!!!!

beethery · August 2014

Sing a song while you do it. I sang the Thomas O'Malley song the other night when I had to go downstairs. Worked great lol

doeydo · August 2014

lurkergirl said:

Y'all. I am home alone half the week. I already scare myself. We recently started watching American Horror Story. Now This. Every light in my house is on and the TV is up loud. And I swear my dog is nervous...AAHHHHH

ZOMG I love American Horror Story. I think the fourth season is supposed to start in October.

luckya23 · August 2014

BreMR said:
I think telling her the truth is NOT bitchy!!

Also, speaking of orbs, my cousin is looking at buying a house and sent me this picture with the caption "I wanted the house until I got to the basement photo...."

Totally just dust!

missdelilah · August 2014

alucky23 said:

I think telling her the truth is NOT bitchy!!

Also, speaking of orbs, my cousin is looking at buying a house and sent me this picture with the caption "I wanted the house until I got to the basement photo...."

Totally just dust!

I'll have to get FI on to this one; he's really in to photography. We always pretend these things are orbs, but dust and moisture can definitely do it. I'm sure there are websites or council records that tell you whether or not anyone has died in your home, or whether it was once used as a torture chamber. Built over ancient burial grounds... not so sure. @BreMR If your cousin loved the house, tell them to look at one of those sites. I read about a US based one in the Aussie news a few days ago. It costs a little to have the search done, but I think it was something really simple like http://diedinhouse.com. I'm not sure whether these services exist elsewhere.

And so long as it wasn't a torture chamber, you should be fine. I grew up in a house that I know at least two people had died in (I assume more since it was built in 1901 and death at home was much more common than now until mid-century). It was a little bit weird, but nothing major.

Sorry, massive tangent we have going here, isn't it.

hellosweetie1015 · August 2014

To add to the tangentiality of it all: In Savannah, GA, SUPPOSEDLY, if you sell a house knowing that it's haunted and fail to mention it to the buyers, you are failing to disclose a defect of the home and it can void the sale or something along those lines. So that's cool!

@larrygaga, I'd be the beeotch (in my head, haha)

larrygaga · August 2014

So, I think I will email her back later but it will be professional and nice. Because I'm a professional and nice-ass person, that's why.

BreMR · August 2014

missdelilah said:

alucky23 said:

I think telling her the truth is NOT bitchy!!

Also, speaking of orbs, my cousin is looking at buying a house and sent me this picture with the caption "I wanted the house until I got to the basement photo...."

Totally just dust!

I'll have to get FI on to this one; he's really in to photography. We always pretend these things are orbs, but dust and moisture can definitely do it. I'm sure there are websites or council records that tell you whether or not anyone has died in your home, or whether it was once used as a torture chamber. Built over ancient burial grounds... not so sure. @BreMR If your cousin loved the house, tell them to look at one of those sites. I read about a US based one in the Aussie news a few days ago. It costs a little to have the search done, but I think it was something really simple like http://diedinhouse.com. I'm not sure whether these services exist elsewhere.

And so long as it wasn't a torture chamber, you should be fine. I grew up in a house that I know at least two people had died in (I assume more since it was built in 1901 and death at home was much more common than now until mid-century). It was a little bit weird, but nothing major.

Sorry, massive tangent we have going here, isn't it.

Ooh I've heard of that site! You'll have to let me know if your FI weighs in on this photo. I am a total believer in orbs and what not, so I'd like to get it debunked :-D My cousin is 100% a believer of all things ghostly and after seeing that she wouldn't even attempt to look further into the house..but I will have to keep a mental note when I start shopping for houses!

emmaaa · August 2014

I would definitely email her back. Tell her in the most polite and professional way that she was not very professional, it wasn't easy to work with her, the ballroom didn't fit your needs for x,y,z, and so on. Many businesses want to know what to do differently so they can improve. If she has a manager I would also forward her the conversation.

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