Hey Everyone,
I feel like I'm crazy. My wedding was originally scheduled for may 16, and I had the idea all planned out. I got to the point of starting to book venue, caterer, etc. My mom is paying for the wedding so I had to ask her to start doing this. Well, as soon as I started asking her things she got my head all messed up. It all started with me asking her to set up an appointment with the caterer and get ready to book. It turned into, "are you sure you want to do that" "are you sure we can afford that" "traditionally aren't things done....?". Well, I started to get stressed and started to freak out and wasn't sure what to do. My mom started to send me venues and things. I figured if she was sending these things to me she had researched them and they were all approved. I'm pretty laid back and don't have any 100% set views on my wedding. I looked into the venues only to find that most were WAY out of the budget, so I didn't know why she even sent them to me. Finally, I wrote up my own "wedding packages" and sent it to her and asked her to please pick one that is in the budget. Well, rather than picking one she she sent me her own wedding package list back to me, with prices that I know are out of our budget.
I got so upset and so frustrated that I told my fiance we should just elope. He fully agrees. (He agrees with everything, cuz "he just wants me to be happy"). Well, I told my mom we were eloping (big mistake) and she got all freaked out and literally CRIED. She want on this big long speech about wedding traditions and the things she grew up with and that she just needed time to get used to the transition. I asked her how long she needed and she said she needed a month. I said ok, fine. My mom wants my brothers to be there which is fine with me., I want them there too. Well, I called one of my brothers and asked him about the date and he couldn't get it off work (he is a marine, so that gets complicated). After that I completely lost it. I took several days off from planning and just relaxed.
After relaxing, I thought of just going back to the original date. Its what i wanted in the first place. I apologized to my mother and told her that I would probably just go back to the original date and that I was just really stressed out and that I just can't think when I get that stressed. I told her that we had just miscommunicated and that I would be willing to listen and do what she wanted but that I needed her to listen to me too. So, she got all defensive and said she was just trying to help and that she would do whatever I wanted, and that she hadn't had any opinions and that it was my day and blah blah blah. I feel crazy because she keeps getting upset and telling me how I should do things and then when I change to suite her she gets upset that I am changing. She keeps telling me that I don't know what I want and that I just need to make up my mind, but whenever I have my mind made up someone tells me why I can't do what I want to do. just AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Rant over....