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laquanharrislaquanharris member
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My fiancé and I have had more arguments over Facebook!! Believe me its not your having private chats with an old flame type of thing. Its more so " You didn't Like (Meaning thumbs up) my picture" You liked my nephews' pic and not mine' sort of the thing. Now knotties ,seriously I utilize Facebook for entertainment purposes only, I don't post everything I eat, every where I go etc... but it seems as he takes this thing way too seriously, As a matter of fact we are not speaking to each other now. How do I get him not to put so much emphasizes on Facebook ??? Please help....
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Tell him he's being a sensitive toolbag?
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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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    Ha.... LOL! thank you for making me smile today.....
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    laquanharris said:
    My fiancé and I have had more arguments over Facebook!! Believe me its not your having private chats with an old flame type of thing. Its more so " You didn't Like (Meaning thumbs up) my picture" You liked my nephews' pic and not mine' sort of the thing. Now knotties ,seriously I utilize Facebook for entertainment purposes only, I don't post everything I eat, every where I go etc... but it seems as he takes this thing way too seriously, As a matter of fact we are not speaking to each other now. How do I get him not to put so much emphasizes on Facebook ??? Please help....
    How old is he???




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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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     He is 41!! I am 38, I tell you, we have had more arguments over Facebook !! its the devil.... I just logged off ... but he has not done the same, not that it bothers me, but I do not ask of him what I wouldn't do myself ... He just doesn't think the same...

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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    That's ridiculous. H and I don't always "like" each other's stuff because I can just say, "Hey, I liked that picture of your niece." We talk and know what's going on in our lives, so we don't even need Facebook. If there's something I feel he needs to see or know, I show/tell him. It's not hard. :-P
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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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     You're so very right. I love to talk and enjoy communicating with the Fiancé, but  more so often the not this Facebook situation arises. I know this is ridiculous but he seems to have a different view. I just don't get it. That is why I turned to TK community to just gather some other views on this.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    chibiyui said:
    I have a hard time believing a 41 year old has the social media self esteem of a 12 year old.
    Seriously, the thirst is real. Dude needs to grow up.
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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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    Please believe it,  that's why I am having  such a hard time with it... Im still stuck on stupid..lol, but you knotties are the comic relief that I need... 

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    There's a root-cause there and it surely has something to do with insecurity.  My FI once asked why I never say anything about him on my status even though I tend to tag him in anything we do together (restaurants, travel etc). I said, "Because women who say, 'My S/O is just so amazing!' make me want to barf because they sound like total attention whores!?" He actually agreed and felt better after that. 

    Figure out what's really bothering him about Facebook. I will point out that a lack of activity on couples' accounts can sometimes be an actual indicator of an issue, so perhaps he wants to give a positive impression of the two of you. I recently heard there is "trouble in paradise" for a couple I went to college with and the friend in-the-know used the example that they never reference each other or Like each other's stuff online anymore.  (That and she changed her last name to her middle name and now her profile is a bikini pic... hmm.)  So, again, maybe he just wants to project a positive image.  Figure it out, talk it out, and I'm sure it'll be fine.  If not, maybe he'd do well with professional counseling if there is indeed a bigger issue at hand.  
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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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     Truly, I do know that there are some insecurities but we have and are working on those.  Just trying to figure out what the root cause can be a job!  I am much calmer today than yesterday (thank you knotties!) but all the advice, and  words of wisdom is so reassuring.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I got nothing. This is totally ridiculous and childish. 
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    I'd be so annoyed I'd take down my Facebook and see what he complains about next.
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    There's a reason why the only thing I post on facebook are cat memes!

    But I believe it, because I've seen grown folks get very upset over social media. 


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  • JeeGooDowsterJeeGooDowster member
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    Actually FB has become very popular with people over 35...they love posting their vaca pics and every single thing they do every day....i see my aunts/uncles/parents post on that thing more than any other age group (aside from the usual AW that complains about his/her day or brags about loving life - even though it's just ordinary but who can tell if you take good pics?!?! LOL)

    Younger people usually flock towards Instagram now! LOL
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  • afox007afox007 member
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    FI is annoying and demanding about FB, but its because apparently as his SO I'm supposed to like, share, and accept any crap he posts for his band. I get he wants more people to see it, but I never seem to log in soon enough for him. Now he just has permission to log in as me and do whatever band crap he wants.


    Outside of that I have no clue why people make such a big deal about FB.
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  • Marzipan13Marzipan13 member
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    I'm at a loss for what to even offer in this situation. FI doesn't give two shits about Facebook (although he has one), and it's like seeing a unicorn whenever he 'likes' one of my pictures or statuses. Tbh? I would tell your FI to grow the fuck up.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    RachelLee83 said:
    I'd be so annoyed I'd take down my Facebook and see what he complains about next.
    This is what I was going to suggest.  Either that, or unfollow him.

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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Tell him every time he whines and complains about "Likes" you're going to "Unlike" something that you previously "Liked". And if he throws a temper tantrum and gives you silent treatment, that he's going to bed without dinner. 

    Hey, if he's going to act like a child....

    On the real though, I'd be having a sit-down, come to Jesus talk with DH if he pulled some immature bullshit like this. He's going to give you the silent treatment over "Likes" on FB? If he can barely handle something this insignificant, how the hell is he going to be able to handle real problems? It's deeper than just some FB drama. I'm I were you, it'd be: either grow the fuck up or we can't get married. Marriage is for grown-ups.
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  • novella1186novella1186 member
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    My FI and I don't communicate on Facebook much because we live together. I think it's weird to be sitting next to one another and say something via the internet rather than turn my head and speak to him. If I got upset over him not "Liking" my stuff I think he'd leave me, and vice versa. It's immature, and there's WAY more important stuff in life to worry about than that. 

    I agree with the PPs, there's a deeper issue going on. I can't imagine a grown man getting upset over this as if he were a 10 year old girl. You need to be severely honest with him on this one. 
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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    We have the oppesite problem because H says I post too much on FB and he hates it (and I post.... maybe once a week..)
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  • rooz103rooz103 member
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    FI and I aren't friends on fb, nor do we intend on being friends, because 80% of the time we're on it, it's for work. It never even occurred to us that this was weird until several people flipped out about it. 
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  • aberry89aberry89 member
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    carynNchan said:
    Actually FB has become very popular with people over 35...they love posting their vaca pics and every single thing they do every day....i see my aunts/uncles/parents post on that thing more than any other age group (aside from the usual AW that complains about his/her day or brags about loving life - even though it's just ordinary but who can tell if you take good pics?!?! LOL)

    Younger people usually flock towards Instagram now! LOL
    Yeah, us old people in our 30s really love The Facebook. It's neat. 
    Considering that Facebook started 10 years ago (2004-5) and is aimed at college students, I'm not surprised that it's popular with 30 somethings, 'cus you know, first wave users and all.  
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    aberry89 said:
    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    carynNchan said:
    Actually FB has become very popular with people over 35...they love posting their vaca pics and every single thing they do every day....i see my aunts/uncles/parents post on that thing more than any other age group (aside from the usual AW that complains about his/her day or brags about loving life - even though it's just ordinary but who can tell if you take good pics?!?! LOL)

    Younger people usually flock towards Instagram now! LOL
    Yeah, us old people in our 30s really love The Facebook. It's neat. 
    Considering that Facebook started 10 years ago (2004-5) and is aimed at college students, I'm not surprised that it's popular with 30 somethings, 'cus you know, first wave users and all.  
    Well, that made me feel old. I lived my entire college career before Facebook.
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  • hellosweetie1015hellosweetie1015 member
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    Marzipan13 said:
    I'm at a loss for what to even offer in this situation. FI doesn't give two shits about Facebook (although he has one), and it's like seeing a unicorn whenever he 'likes' one of my pictures or statuses. Tbh? I would tell your FI to grow the fuck up.
    Neither one of us is super active on Facebook. I think I can count on one finger the amount of times he's posted something on his own (i.e. not because he was responding to someone). I post more, but I haven't posted since... July?

    Confirmed, July. When I discovered this amazing gem thanks to FI's YouTube habit:

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    Facebook is useful, but I think a lot of people put more stock into it than it deserves.
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  • laquanharrislaquanharris member
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    Thank you all for your words of advice, I love that fact that I can get the truth raw, uncut, with no chaser from my Knotties!!.....
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  • Car2992Car2992 member
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    My fiancé and I aren't friends on FB. It used to bother me, but now I think it is a good thing to avoid the drama it can easily create.
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