I'm having a lot of trouble walking the line between making this day about my future husband and I, and accommodating our guests. We have found the perfect space for the ceremony, and we are both very attached to it as it holds personal meaning to us. However, it requires any potential guests to walk down a fairly steep dirt path for about 200 yards, and some of the people who are definitely invited are elderly. We've considered golf carts or closed circuit TVs to broadcast in a more comfortable area, however both of these ideas are impossible to actually execute. The third idea was a very private ceremony with just our parents, a maid of honor and a best man, and a reception that includes everyone. I've caught on that for some reason this is seen as rude. (I don't understand that part, it seems very strange to me that anyone would feel like a second class guest when I'm inviting them to a dinner that I've put together and paid for, but I've accepted that if i choose this route, people might be offended.) I don't want to be a brat, but I'm not kidding when I say that if we can't say our vows in the spot we've chosen, I don't see a point in having a ceremony at all.. Which leads right back to we can't have any reception because people will be offended if they weren't at a ceremony. I'm a very sentimental person, and this is a very sacred event. I can compromise on absolutely anything else, but I strongly believe that God has created this exact spot for us to commit ourselves to each other.
So my question is, would it still be rude if we said our vows and exchanged rings in a private ceremony and then kind of re-did it for guests? Especially if I was not as visibly moved the second time around? Is that an option, or is that still tacky?