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Having a whiny moment

Simky906Simky906 member
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I know in the grand scheme of things it won't really matter that much but I'm bummed that my cousins aren't coming to my wedding. I only have 3 cousins (1 first cousin and 2 second cousins) and all of them declined.

I thought one might decline because she's in college (and couldn't get permission to miss sorority stuff?) but I was pretty sure the other two would come. Especially my cousin who lives ten minutes away from me. But no, he has a football reunion to attend. And I know it's his life and of course he has other priorities then attending my wedding but it stings a bit. These are the folks that I baby sat in high school and spend every Christmas with.

FI's family is huge by comparison and every one of his 7 first cousins are attending, plus 5 of the 6 first cousins once removed that were invited and a third cousin. Intellectually I know it shouldn't bug me that the guest list is so skewed towards his family. It's much larger and they are quite close, so of course he has more folks coming. But my cousins turning me down just really drove it home.

Can the knotties help me get out of this funk? Only 10 days to go now and I need to get motivated. Puppy gifs and wine gifs welcome!
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Re: Having a whiny moment

  • AprilH81AprilH81 member
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    I can't figure out how to gif, but here is a virtual hug! It will be okay!
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  • raissyraisraissyrais member
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    Whine away! I hope you feel better.
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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    Thanks! I know I'm being silly and I swore I wouldn't get worked up about stuff I couldn't control. And here I am doing it anyway!
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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Nah, I think it's a pretty normal thing to feel upset/not great about.  FI was having the same issue (I can't help that my family is huge and his is tiny!), but we are far enough out to be able to book a new venue and add to the guest list, so that he "actually knows more than a few people at his own wedding" (his words).  He acted a bit whiny about it at first, but I feel like it was a pretty valid complaint.  So whine away!  And enjoy some silly dogs :)

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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    raissyrais said:
    Whine away! I hope you feel better.
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    I fixed it for you. lol

    ETA: Hope you are feeling better too! 




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    If it makes your day better you can add baileys to your coffee! 
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  • chocolateygabschocolateygabs member
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    I know how you feel.

    I have a much larger family than my husbands, but there were cousins of mine who didn't come, especially 7 from one of my aunts.  Two of them had military obligations (drill and Afghanistan), and another 1 lives in TN with his family and they don't make a lot of money, but the others I wasn't very happy about since I practically grew up with them!  I guess to be more fair, another's wife told me that they didn't send an RSVP because the invite didn't have the reception information (seriously though, what stopped you from asking me about that?!).

    My point is, you feel like you are close to these people, they have known about your wedding for ages now, and you feel like that your relationship is not being reciprocated.

    Oh, and I had a cousin also not 10 minutes away not come to my ceremony because he had a bad breakout of pimples.  He's 34.

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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    @chocolateygabs Haha, at least thay have better reasons than a pimple! That's hilarious (in retrospect, though I'm sure it wasn't too funny at the tim.)

    I have to remind myself that I do have a lot of folks that are doing their utmost to be here. Like my good friend whose wife is due with their first baby the day before our wedding. He told me that if the baby hasn't come yet he'll be there with bells on and he's very sweet to even try to make the effort.
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  • chocolateygabschocolateygabs member
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    Simky906 said:
    @chocolateygabs Haha, at least thay have better reasons than a pimple! That's hilarious (in retrospect, though I'm sure it wasn't too funny at the tim.)

    I have to remind myself that I do have a lot of folks that are doing their utmost to be here. Like my good friend whose wife is due with their first baby the day before our wedding. He told me that if the baby hasn't come yet he'll be there with bells on and he's very sweet to even try to make the effort.
     
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    That is very sweet.  In the end, I was just excited for all our guests who did come.  They were the ones who wanted to be there, and the ones who didn't come missed out on our food and cake, and get to hear how awesome our wedding was! ;-)

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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    I was bummed by some of the declines as well. Most of my cousins came but a few didn't including a cousin and his wife that I was the only cousin that flew across country to theirs. I know it's not tit for tat but it bummed me out. But at the actual wedding there were so many people to see that honestly I didn't even notice they weren't there...

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  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    bubblegum1309 said:
    I was bummed by some of the declines as well. Most of my cousins came but a few didn't including a cousin and his wife that I was the only cousin that flew across country to theirs. I know it's not tit for tat but it bummed me out. But at the actual wedding there were so many people to see that honestly I didn't even notice they weren't there...

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    I definitely see your point and appreciate the wine! I'll have a real glass when I get home tonight and a good cuddle with FI. I'm sure that will help me feel better too.
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