This is my first post, but thank you all for everything I've learned while lurking. (I've certainly learned A LOT about wedding bars!) I have sort of a tricky etiquette question.
We're about to send out our Save the Dates to our out-of-town guests, and we know that many of these people will tell us that they cannot come. I know the proper etiquette is to send an invitation to everyone who receives a save the date, but is it necessary to send to people who've already declined? Many of my fiancé's friends don't follow etiquette with these things (we've never received a thank-you note for their wedding gifts) and we're worried that the redundant invitations might seem like we're nagging or begging for gifts. We'll send invitations to close family or friends who might want to keep them, of course, but I don't want to offend anyone by following what I believe to be the proper etiquette. My fiancé is pretty stressed about it. What should we do?