Body Love spinoff- Skinny Shaming

afox007 · August 2014

I have gotten it on both ends In HS I was 5'9 and a size 4. My mom would give me shit that it's ok to eat something once in awhile and point out regularly I had next to no ass. It drove me crazy because I could not gain weight; I could lay on the couch and do nothing but eat oreos and fast food in mass quantities.

Fast forward a few years and now I'm 10-12 and she constantly gives me shit that I used to be so beautiful and I let myself go. How I really should try this diet or that workout, on holidays she usually gives me shit that I'm having a second cookie or will loudly announce that she found a cuter dress than the one she bought me, but they don't make it in my size.

Clearly I can't win, though it's ironic that all this is coming from someone who wear the same size I do, but is 5 inches shorter.

doeydo · August 2014

If anyone ever comments on your body, such as your uncle, I would say something like "This is my body and this is just the way it is. I would appreciate it if you would not make any more comments on it" then do not engage in any more conversation about it. As for strangers, just try to let it roll off. They must be dealing with a lot of their own shit (that has nothing to do with you) to feel the need to bash the body of a complete stranger.

Peaseblossom55 · August 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

Peaseblossom55 said:

I'm 4'10" and about 85lbs, so I'm tiny and skinny. I've been like this my whole life. I've also danced most of it too. I've had issues on and off with body image and dancing too. I hate being told I need to eat more, or when people make comments about how much I eat. It's so annoying, I really wish people would just mind their own business.

I'm roughly your size. I've always had a very healthy appetite, and my mother used to constantly make comments about how I was going to eat them out of house and home, how I eat more than grown men, and would get asked things like, "Are you SURE you want to eat all of that?" My kid sister got a bunch of her friends to encircle me on the playground (we're 6 years apart) and moo at me. Literally, making cow noises. There were always comments about how I can't give anyone hand-me-downs because my clothes were too big, how only fat people have boobs (I was always on the busty side), etc. When I lost weight in college, I was suddenly too skinny, needed to eat a sandwich, bony, etc. I just... couldn't win with them. Choreographers and instructors were even more brutal - I mean, how many times can one person lose "that last 5 lbs" before they're finally thin enough for a part?

It took many years for me to finally get to a place where I was comfortable with my weight and how my body looked. My mom still makes comments about how squishy-looking I am, and I've learned to accept it. What I can't accept is when random ladies at the grocery store or the mall tell me I look sickly because I swear I don't!

It's horrible when you are skinny people will always say you need to eat more gain more weight, and when you are seen actually eating and eating a lot comments get made too. I hate eating in front of people I don't know it makes me feel so uncomfortable I want to cry.

VulgarGirl · August 2014

http://youtu.be/j3f1zii5skA

There is cussing and implied nudity...I'm telling you that right now. But I fucking love this. It's kind of spoken word poetry...

doeydo · August 2014

afox007 said:

I have gotten it on both ends In HS I was 5'9 and a size 4. My mom would give me shit that it's ok to eat something once in awhile and point out regularly I had next to no ass. It drove me crazy because I could not gain weight; I could lay on the couch and do nothing but eat oreos and fast food in mass quantities.

Fast forward a few years and now I'm 10-12 and she constantly gives me shit that I used to be so beautiful and I let myself go. How I really should try this diet or that workout, on holidays she usually gives me shit that I'm having a second cookie or will loudly announce that she found a cuter dress than the one she bought me, but they don't make it in my size.

Clearly I can't win, though it's ironic that all this is coming from someone who wear the same size I do, but is 5 inches shorter.

That's horrible. Have you told her to fuck off (maybe more nicely than that)? Because being told shit like that will mess with your mind.

larrygaga · August 2014

I used to be scary thin and I am now a very healthy weight. I have seen both sides of this body shaming and I have to say all we can do is stay healthy and ignore nay Sayers. You can't control what anyone says or thinks. You can combat it by asking them if your weight is really a personal problem with them. That usually shames people into keeping the comments to thenselves.

PrettyGirlLost · August 2014

MagicInk said:

I'm a skinny girl. I'm a short girl too. I've always been small. I also eat like a teenage line backer going through a growth spurt. And I'm always eating. I'm eating right now (PB cheerios and M&Ms, "trail mix") in fact.

I've heard it all. How I need to eat more or how I must be bulimic. Seriously, in elementry school I wouldn't go to the bathroom right after I ate because everyone would say I was throwing up my food. And now I get "Why do you bother with working out?" because I want to healthy. Or "Oh just you wait, your metabolism will slow down one day!" well based on my mom and dad...that day is way far off in the future as they haven't hit it yet. And why do people say that? Like "Oh, you'll get fat one day and I'm gonna be there to watch!!!" like it's some curse or something? If my metabolism slows, I'll eat less. If I gain some weight, whatever no big thing. I'll buy bigger pants.

Now despite being little, I got a booty. Definitely have a booty. So I also hear about how I have a big butt. And in elementary school those same kids that said I was bulimic also said I was fat because I had a big ass. Now...what?! How does that make sense? I'm fat and also skinny at the same time. Got it.

I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?! But come on, I know ya'll check out other dudes, I check out other girls. I have been attracted to women who are tall, who are short, who are thin, who are big, who are black, who are white, who are Asian, who are Latina, who are butch, who are femme, who are gay, who are bi, and even some who are straight (seriously straight girl crushes suck). Because I love women. And I hate, and loath, and am disgusted by the fact that their exists the idea in this society that one kind of woman is better then another kind. It's bullshit. Total and complete bullshit.

Of course it shouldn't be "If someone else" loves us then we're good enough, attractive enough, because we are good enough and attractive enough regardless of who does or does not find us attractive.

I hate when I hear women say "I might be X, but that's never stopped me from landing a man", because what you're saying is "The way I look is acceptable because someone of the male gender wants to nail me", the way you look is acceptable because it is the way you look and that in of itself is acceptable, is good enough, no matter what anyone else says.

holyguacamole79 · August 2014

I just saw this and though of y'all
http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/questions-all-naturally-skinny-people-are-tired-of-being-a

VulgarGirl · August 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

MagicInk said:
I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?!

It's a fanfic thing. First, SoFi is our "couple name", because I'm Fiona and she's Sophie. Second, shipping is when you want two (or more) people to get together, so I ship SoFi as a couple. And then thirdly, OTP is "one true pairing" which would be the pair (or ship) you like over all the others. My OTP is SoFi.

Basically...I'm huge geek.

Cookie Pusher · August 2014

MagicInk said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

MagicInk said:
I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?!

It's a fanfic thing. First, SoFi is our "couple name", because I'm Fiona and she's Sophie. Second, shipping is when you want two (or more) people to get together, so I ship SoFi as a couple. And then thirdly, OTP is "one true pairing" which would be the pair (or ship) you like over all the others. My OTP is SoFi.

Basically...I'm huge geek.

I am only now getting back to the thread, but I totally got that. My friends and I were in a shipper/non-shipper divide back in the days of "The X-Files".

VulgarGirl · August 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

MagicInk said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

MagicInk said:
I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?!

It's a fanfic thing. First, SoFi is our "couple name", because I'm Fiona and she's Sophie. Second, shipping is when you want two (or more) people to get together, so I ship SoFi as a couple. And then thirdly, OTP is "one true pairing" which would be the pair (or ship) you like over all the others. My OTP is SoFi.

Basically...I'm huge geek.

I am only now getting back to the thread, but I totally got that. My friends and I were in a shipper/non-shipper divide back in the days of "The X-Files".

We have had entire conversations with our friends regarding who we're shipping, who we aren't shipping, who we never thought we'd ship but OMG it totally works....we're all grown ups I swear!

afox007 · August 2014

doeydo said:

afox007 said:

I have gotten it on both ends In HS I was 5'9 and a size 4. My mom would give me shit that it's ok to eat something once in awhile and point out regularly I had next to no ass. It drove me crazy because I could not gain weight; I could lay on the couch and do nothing but eat oreos and fast food in mass quantities.

Fast forward a few years and now I'm 10-12 and she constantly gives me shit that I used to be so beautiful and I let myself go. How I really should try this diet or that workout, on holidays she usually gives me shit that I'm having a second cookie or will loudly announce that she found a cuter dress than the one she bought me, but they don't make it in my size.

Clearly I can't win, though it's ironic that all this is coming from someone who wear the same size I do, but is 5 inches shorter.

That's horrible. Have you told her to fuck off (maybe more nicely than that)? Because being told shit like that will mess with your mind.

Trust me it has messed with my mind more than I care to admit; I go days without eating just because a dress was a little tight and everything in the house that day is junk food. Or I have other days where FI makes me feel super sexy so I figure yes I can totally have a second cupcake while eating the leftover frosting. I basically have not had normal healthy eating habits ever because of her.

I have pretty much told her to fuck off or thrown her a dress of mine that's too big and told her that her fat ass should fit into it. It hasn't gotten her to stop.

thisismynickname2 · August 2014

I've been petite my entire life. I actually joke I haven't grown since 8th grade, but if people comment I don't take offense. It's actually fun to share that I simply have small-genes and I fit into my mother's wedding dress when I was 12.

It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. Me eating pizza? "How do you eat that and stay so thin?" Me eating oatmeal? "Oh, no wonder you're so thin." Um, ok.

I'm also a barely-A cup, which is infuriating. I hate that a food-baby will make my stomach stick out further than my boobs. I hate to put it this way, but when I look at myself in the mirror, I see the little flaws- the belly, the sagging butt. But when I take a group picture with my girlfriends, that's the only time I can "see" how small I am. I'm not sure if that's dysmorphic disorder as I'm really not concerned about it, but that's what happens. 95% of the time I'm happy with my size.

PrettyGirlLost · August 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

MagicInk said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

MagicInk said:
I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?!

It's a fanfic thing. First, SoFi is our "couple name", because I'm Fiona and she's Sophie. Second, shipping is when you want two (or more) people to get together, so I ship SoFi as a couple. And then thirdly, OTP is "one true pairing" which would be the pair (or ship) you like over all the others. My OTP is SoFi.

Basically...I'm huge geek.

I am only now getting back to the thread, but I totally got that. My friends and I were in a shipper/non-shipper divide back in the days of "The X-Files".

AAAAH thank you!

I was an X-files non-shipper. . . how about you two?

VulgarGirl · August 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

Cookie Pusher said:

MagicInk said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

MagicInk said:
I love women. Yeah, yeah, FI is my one true love. I totally ship SoFi, it's my OTP in my life. Huh? What does this mean, lol?!

It's a fanfic thing. First, SoFi is our "couple name", because I'm Fiona and she's Sophie. Second, shipping is when you want two (or more) people to get together, so I ship SoFi as a couple. And then thirdly, OTP is "one true pairing" which would be the pair (or ship) you like over all the others. My OTP is SoFi.

Basically...I'm huge geek.

I am only now getting back to the thread, but I totally got that. My friends and I were in a shipper/non-shipper divide back in the days of "The X-Files".

AAAAH thank you!

I was an X-files non-shipper. . . how about you two?

I was never much into the X-files, I watched one and had nightmares afterwards so decided not to watch anymore. I was pretty young when it was big...I bet I'd like it now.

Cookie Pusher · August 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:
AAAAH thank you!

I was an X-files non-shipper. . . how about you two?

Non-shipper all the way! When they jumped the shark by having the baby, I totally bailed on the show. It was bad enough when they scrapped the entire original myth-arc with no explanation, but the awkward romance was the last straw for me!

charlottesmom0626 · August 2014

@afox007‌ our moms must have gone to the same school...I used to be very thin, then I gained some weight and recently lost it again. I'm so proud of this. My mom first said "well you don't want to get too skinny now. You'll look sick" and when someone complimented my weight loss she added her two cents "well she gained A LOT and then lost some" oh hey thanks mom. Edit: iPad typing

wrigleyville · August 2014

I shipped me and Mulder, not Mulder and Scully.

WinstonsGirl · August 2014

I don't have much to add to the original debate, but as someone else mentioned, I hate when people ask me why I workout?? You're skinny enough already (I'm 5'6", 130lbs). I know a lot of genetically thin people who are super unhealthy. They just have the genetics to be thinner. Working out doesn't always = dieting/losing weight. It's about overall health too. I've also seen heavier people do triathlons. They're a lot healthier than the skinny people who do nothing. People need to remember that everyone has different bodies and that's ok.

Cookie Pusher · August 2014

wrigleyville said:

I shipped me and Mulder, not Mulder and Scully.

Truth. Although Krycek would have been a fun fling!

raissyrais · August 2014

I'm just a quarter of an inch under 5"0 and I weigh 80lbs. However, I have never heard comments like the ones OP hears. Yes, I hear "you're so skinny and tight" and "how small is your waist?" but I realised that the really negative ones always seem to come from people who have something to worry about their own size/weight. I'm a bitch so, if they tell me I'm too short or too skinny, I'll just tell them they have dumbo ears or a belly the size of my sofa cushion. That keeps them REALLY quiet and they feel like fools. I know this is not the mature way to go, but then again, I can be immature sometimes. Teehee...

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