I think I might despise my Future Mother In Law at this point. She's still sore that we aren't up for a double wedding with my Future sister in law. Whatever, we are ignoring it.
She's inviting around 200 people total to her daughter's wedding. Good for her.
Our wedding is on Feb 22nd. We sent out our STDs already. Her daughter wanted hers to be in March for barrel tasting. Future Mother In Law started freaking out because if her family has to choose between our wedding or her daughter's, she wants them to choose hers. So despite her daughter wanting a March Barrel-Tasting weekend wedding, she tried to set the wedding date to be before ours (like...the day before ours). She claimed it was so those travelling would already be in town.
We told her then that we had a short guest list and it was unlikely that we would have much overlap. Luckily, her future son in law's parents had conflicts for that weekend... So the wedding is in March and confirmed with deposits and contracts. Great.
This weekend, she presented us with "her guests" so we could save them STDs too. She knows many didn't receive one. My fiancé told her we already made our guest list and we are all set. She told us that we need to invite these people because they will feel left out if they are invited to one child's and not the other's. She said that most probably won't go anyway since they will go to her daughter's a few weeks later, but that we should invite them anyway because they will appreciate it and they will send us a gift. He left the list with her because we already have our list.
She then e-mailed it to my mother! My mother called me all upset that she can't invite the 20 people she wants me to invite and his family wants over 100.
We are paying, we don't have to invite anyone our parents demand, right? I feel all strong and confident one day, and then I feel bullied and shamed the next from her. I try not to talk about the wedding to her. I think I need to try not seeing her.