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Let it gooooo...and let your son be Elsa.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudie,
My husband and I have tried hard not to reinforce negative gender stereotypes with our boys. Our 4-year-old is “all boy” for the most part (trucks, superheroes, etc.) and we’ve tried to balance some of that by making sure to not say what is “for boys” and what is “for girls.” Now, though, he’s testing our resolve. He (and I) love Frozen. The pro-female power message is one I approve of, and who doesn’t love the music? Now, he wants to be Queen Elsa for Halloween. I imagined making a blue pantsuit, but hereally wants the blue princess dress. I don’t know what to do here. Will he be teased? Will the other boys wish they had been allowed to wear it, too? Help!

—He Wants to Be a Queen

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Re: Let it gooooo...and let your son be Elsa.

  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    Elsa kicks serious ass - she basically *is* a superhero. I don't get the issue - Halloween is basically the one day that a guy *can* wear a dress without anybody giving him crap for it. She should go all out - dress, wig, everything. 

    Wolverine is asking to wear her Godzilla costume again this year. I need to see if it still fits her. 
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    I'd venture to say that the parents are far more concerned with what others will think of THEM.

    Yes, this is a Let it Goooo moment here. Heaven forbid their gender norms, stereotypes and expectations smack them in the face and they learn something.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    I'm INCREDIBLY glad Buffy pushed for wonder woman and not a princess but I had resolved to let the princess happen when she wants it (I would have--I managed to hand her her princess balloon and tiara on Monday while firmly suppressing a facial and eyeball twitch).  

    I'm firmly in the letting it go camp. obviously.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    DD has had a string of awesome choices (octopus, butterfly, tyrannosaurus), but she hasn't made up her mind about this year.  Which is really unlike her--in past years, she knew by Easter what she wanted to be for Halloween.  I'm terrified that she'll wait until October 15 to announce that she wants to be Elsa, and like a dum-dum I'll be on eBay trying to find a sold-out costume for her.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    I bought 2 WW costumes because I'm fairly sure the first one will be unwearable by the end of Oct, if I bring it out itno 'dress up' rotation when it arrives.
    I'm OK w/ that :P


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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    Isn't the whole point of Halloween that you have the freedom to dress as whatever? I was a man when I was about 11 and it was AWESOME. My grandma made me a three-piece suit and I even had a real fedora.
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    I don't feel like I even have to say anything for everyone here to know exactly how I feel about this. Forcing gender-related social mores on kids is shitty and the best thing a parent can do is encourage experimentation.

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