Mom wearing white

LauraMay23 · September 2014

Is it really such a big deal?
My mom got her MOB outfit today, its a white dress and jacket, with navy fascinator, bag and shoes.
She looks absolutely amazing in it and I'm pretty psyched because its the outfit I picked out for her to try.

I'm getting judge-y side-eyes all over the place for 'letting' my mom wear white.
I'm beginning to worry someone will make her doubt herself about her outfit choice.

Any thought on moms in white?

holyguacamole79 · September 2014

If she feels beautiful in it, then that's all that matters. Given that you're also happy, that's just icing on the cake!

SBmini · September 2014

You're happy, she's happy- that's what matters. But wearing white to someone else's wedding can cause some raised eyebrows among other guests because it is seen as taboo. That would be my concern to my mom wearing white to my wedding. I know that she wouldn't want to be judged. And of course, it's not like she'd be wearing a sign that said "The bride said it was ok for me to wear white".

MobKaz · September 2014

If you don't care, then no one else's opinion should matter. I am a bit surprised that a MOB would not realize it should be the one color off the list of options, however. Oops....I just re-read and realized YOU actually made the selection.

There very well may be some comments made regarding the choice. As long as neither you or your mom care, then there is no need to worry. Your mom obviously understands that you don't care, so she shouldn't worry about what others may think.

daria24 · September 2014

When my aunt was MOB she wore a white pantsuit. I was about 12 at the time so I didn't realize it was "forbidden." She liked it, my cousin didn't care, who gives a shit?

Some people might judge, as the bride my response would be "I think she looks awesome" with an "I said GOOD DAY SIR" vibe.

raissyrais · September 2014

You don't sound like you're too bothered by it, so why should other people be? Trust me, no one will think your mother is the bride and vice versa! If the woman looks good in it, let her wear it!

SmileDamnit · September 2014

Let her beautiful self shine! The judgers are going to always find something to judge - not your place to try to appease them. You're only concern should be hosting a killer celebration and marrying your DH.

FWIW, my MIL wore white to your wedding. I knew ahead of time and supported her choice in attire. I gave absolutely zero fucks about what people wore...way, way, WAAAAAY more important and relevant things to focus my attention on that day.

Inkdancer · September 2014

If I heard anyone say anything, I'd just be all "Oh, I helped her pick it, doesn't she look fabulous" and pretend I had no idea they were trying to be mean.

Ndelible · September 2014

That outfit sounds just gorgeous. But then, I do not think white should be considered verboten at weddings. Slutty in any color is just not cute.

RebeccaFlower · September 2014

I'm judgy pants, so I would side eye it, though I'd never dream of saying anything out loud about it.

missdelilah · September 2014

You're happy, she's happy, just ignore everyone else. You'll certainly get some side-eyes at the wedding, but that's unavoidable. Unless, of course, you draw attention to it by making an announcement.

lc07 · September 2014

If I were a guest I would think that was a tacky choice on your mother's part. As a bride, I don't give a shit who wears what to my wedding. But the truth is like it or not, some people will judge. If she doesn't care then no harm no foul.

hellohkb · September 2014

What the hell? I'm sure she looks beautiful. She can wear whatever color she likes. I think it looks beautiful when mother and daughter both wear white (or whiteish) gowns. I am trying to convince my mother to wear a gorgeous champagne colored gown and she's worried people will side eye her.

climbingsingle · September 2014

I'm all for letting the moms wear whatever they want. If she loves it, who cares?

cupcait927 · September 2014

My dress is ivory and FMIL is wearing an ivory colored dress (not solid ivory but it's the main color) and I could care less. She loves it, she's going to look beautiful and that's all that matters. If you love it your mom's dress and she loves it, that's perfectly okay. Yes, there may be some side eye and some silent judging but you can't please everyone.