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  • chibiyui said:
    H and I have been meaning to try anal. I get tense, and we don't usually have lots of ass play, so when he brings it up I get nervous. Like, we have anal beads, but we haven't used them in over a year, so it's like, "Hey, if you want to tap this, you should start using smaller things first so I can get used to it again"

    But. I have pegged him. So you know. H is very equal opportunity. 

    How did you talk to him about that? I would love to try it. FI certainly enjoys doing it to me...
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  • Ok, so I can't ask anyone this IRL. DH and I have a serious height difference, almost a foot, so we don't match up at all for shower funtimes. Any suggestions?

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  • @slotiegal Shower koozies?  That's amazing.

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  • Inkdancer said:

    How did you talk to him about that? I would love to try it. FI certainly enjoys doing it to me...
    It really wasn't hard. H was, very interested. I did set it up as a bargain when we first started dating. "If you you want anal I get to penetrate you first, otherwise no go. "
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  • So sort-of related confession time:

    1) Did not read the whole thread. Just the first 2 pages as this one.

    2) I have NEVER had an orgasm. EVER. Nope. Also, I really dislike oral. 

    This all sounds so sad.
  • Inkdancer said:

    How did you talk to him about that? I would love to try it. FI certainly enjoys doing it to me...
    Oh, education time!  What is pegging?  I mean, I have an idea from the context, but...


    Ok, so I can't ask anyone this IRL. DH and I have a serious height difference, almost a foot, so we don't match up at all for shower funtimes. Any suggestions?
    You need some type of bench.  Either you stand or put one foot up for height, or he can sit on it while you sit in his lap--facing him or not :)




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  • So sort-of related confession time:

    1) Did not read the whole thread. Just the first 2 pages as this one.

    2) I have NEVER had an orgasm. EVER. Nope. Also, I really dislike oral. 

    This all sounds so sad.
    What do you mean no orgasm EVER? How?
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  • Oh, education time!  What is pegging?  I mean, I have an idea from the context, but...


    You need some type of bench.  Either you stand or put one foot up for height, or he can sit on it while you sit in his lap--facing him or not :)
    Pegging is when a lady penetrates a man anally, often with a strap on.
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  • What do you mean no orgasm EVER? How?
    I just... I don't know. I mean, I've had lots of sex (aint no shame in my game!); I just havent. I feel like I would know it if I had.
  • So sort-of related confession time:

    1) Did not read the whole thread. Just the first 2 pages as this one.

    2) I have NEVER had an orgasm. EVER. Nope. Also, I really dislike oral. 

    This all sounds so sad.
    1) It's super fun reading, I promise :)

    2) Really?  Have you talked to your doctor?  (Not joking--I think there can be medical causes for this).

    @chibiyui WOW.  I think that's too kinky even for me.  But you get on with your bad self! :)




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  • 1) It's super fun reading, I promise :)

    2) Really?  Have you talked to your doctor?  (Not joking--I think there can be medical causes for this).

    @chibiyui WOW.  I think that's too kinky even for me.  But you get on with your bad self! :)
    I haven't. It's just such an awkward thing to bring up... I don't know how.
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    @ashley8918 Oh, honey, I promise they've heard everything! 

    We have a couple doctor friends.  The wife is an ob-gyn, and she went into that field specifically because she loves helping women with ALL their reproductive and feminine needs.

    Do you still enjoy it?  I don't finish every time, but it's still enjoyable, if that makes sense. 

    If it's enjoyable, then maybe you haven't found your groove yet.  If it hurts, then that's not normal!  It could also be in your head, in which case I am of no help.  I know if I am super stressed it's a lot harder to get there because I'm distracted. 




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  • @ashley8918 Oh, honey, I promise they've heard everything! 

    We have a couple doctor friends.  The wife is an ob-gyn, and she went into that field specifically because she loves helping women with ALL their reproductive and feminine needs.

    Do you still enjoy it?  I don't finish every time, but it's still enjoyable, if that makes sense. 

    If it's enjoyable, then maybe you haven't found your groove yet.  If it hurts, then that's not normal!  It could also be in your head, in which case I am of no help.  I know if I am super stressed it's a lot harder to get there because I'm distracted. 
    To the bolded: Not always, but usually. Unless it takes too long, haha. I just cannot handle marathon sex where I start cramping and getting too out of breath :p

    It never hurts though.

    I'm sure they have heard it but I still feel weird about it. Like, how do you bring that up? "Hello! How are you today?" "I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ORGASM!"
  • So sort-of related confession time:

    1) Did not read the whole thread. Just the first 2 pages as this one.

    2) I have NEVER had an orgasm. EVER. Nope. Also, I really dislike oral. 

    This all sounds so sad.

    SITB:

    Have you tried to give yourself one during a solo mission? Some women only O from outside stimulation on their clitoris and not with penetration. 
    You could try a bullet to see if you can't have one that way? 
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  • Sure have. I feel like i've come close that way, but it never actually happens.
  • To the bolded: Not always, but usually. Unless it takes too long, haha. I just cannot handle marathon sex where I start cramping and getting too out of breath :p

    It never hurts though.

    I'm sure they have heard it but I still feel weird about it. Like, how do you bring that up? "Hello! How are you today?" "I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ORGASM!"
    That isn't as bad as you think it sounds, I promise.  You can even say when you make the appointment, "I'm having an issue I want to discuss with the doctor." so they're expecting something.

    I just googled "help with female orgasm" and pulled THIS from WebMD




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  • Inkdancer said:


    How did you talk to him about that? I would love to try it. FI certainly enjoys doing it to me...

    Also, how is it? I'm curious but scared to try. Afraid of hurting him- with a you, afraid I wouldn't know when I do something wrong until he hurts.
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  • I can't believe I missed this thread... I avoided it because I don't use NuvaRing and decided to check it out because it got so long.
  • @ashley8918 my friend used to do a Q&A sex/sexual health advice thing. She's closed it down but left all the info up. You might get something out of it, because I know she had questions similar to what you were working with. If you want, I'll PM you the link.
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  • beethery said:
    @ashley8918 my friend used to do a Q&A sex/sexual health advice thing. She's closed it down but left all the info up. You might get something out of it, because I know she had questions similar to what you were working with. If you want, I'll PM you the link.
    I'll definitely check it out!
  • Jumping in late, but I wanna have fun too! 

     Re: paranoid. Yup that's me! I was complaining about being dizzy once and H was like "maybe you're pregnant." And I said "No, that's not a side effect." *turn to teh googles*  "OK, so maybe dizziness is a side effect of pregnancy. 0.o I'm pregnant!"  I use the diaphragm.  We both are not a fan (having to go put it in can be a mood killer), but I LOVE knowing every month that I'm not pregnant.

    Re: hating condoms.  Me too!  H and I both hate them.  In fact, H will even FOREGO SEX rather than have condom sex.  

    Re: oral. I'm exactly opposite.  Oral gets me off and just sex never ever does. Touching me plus sex does though and is great, but, TMI: best is oral plus fingers, because penetration does improve it.

    Re: toys.  We've only used one.  My cousin gave it to me at my bridal shower.  Basically it's a D-ring with a vibrating thing that's supposed to pleasure me (external).  H didn't like it because it limits some skin on skin, and also, he said it was uncomfortable and too tight.  We only used it once.

    Re: shower.  We've only been able to make it work once, and man was that once good.  He was surprised, didn't think I'd jump him in the shower.  He LOVED it.

    Re: anal. We've talked about it, but haven't even tried and I don't know if we ever will.

    Also, I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't orgasm from sex. It always takes waaaaaaay longer for me to get there then for him.  Always.  And just sex never ever ever has given me an orgasm. I have to have him touching me at the same time or giving oral or touching me without penetration.  And usually, even when he's touching me at the same time, he can't hold it in long enough for me to get there, so we rarely get to climax together.   

    Also, am I the only one who enjoys giving their guy oral?  I feel like I'm unusual in that regard, just from stuff I've read and heard.  I really really love doing it, although not all the way because my jaw gets too sore.
  • I can't sleep so I'll jump in on the fun. 

    Paranoia: I used to have that all the time. Then when we started actually trying to get pregnant and it wasn't happening I felt mildly ridiculous for wasting all that timed being paranoid. Lol. 

    I hate condoms. 

    I never liked oral until I met H. Idk if he is just really good at it or if it is because I never relaxed enough with the other guys to enjoy it. 

    We use toys all the time. I can't remember who mentioned it but definitely love the pocket rocket. Also love the rabbit. Have any of you tried D time with a C ring on? You should.

    We've only had shower a few times and that is usually for "clean up" after bedroom time. 

    We haven't tried anal yet. 

    My breast aren't quit big enough to try the chest stuff. We tried and they are just barely too small. Sometimes H jokes that he would have liked to meet me before I had the breast reduction so he could have enjoyed my old boobs for a while before I got rid of them.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one who can't get it done with "me time". Just doesn't do it for me.

    @lovesclimbing you are not alone. I enjoy giving oral. 

    I know we have other dancers on this board. H loves it that I'm so bendy. If it wasn't for that I really think I would have lost most of my flexibility. 
  • Regarding shower fun...DH is 6'2", I'm 5'5.5". We still manage to make it work, though there is some balancing on the balls of my feet involved.

    We only have the narrow tub shower (damn apartment living), so normally I'm a the "higher" end furthest from the shower head, while he's at the lower end. Activities normally involve me bent over facing away from him. (and yes, I've smacked my head into the plastic/fiberglass/whatever the hell tub showers are made of shower wall. In rhythm.)

    We've agreed that when we look for a new place, one of the requirements will be a standing shower, sans tub, particularly one we can place a bench or little step stool in.

    I know people with small children occasionally have to deal with little hands smacking on the door and yelling "mama, daddy, what are you DOING in there?" Us? We get to deal with the cats. One of our two furballs has separation anxiety issues and hates it when we do not allow her in the bedroom/kick her butt out. I have to hand it to DH, he has a talent for blocking out the noise of the pitiful meows and the sound of her throwing herself bodily against the door during secksy times.
  • Jumping in late, but I wanna have fun too! 

     Re: paranoid. Yup that's me! I was complaining about being dizzy once and H was like "maybe you're pregnant." And I said "No, that's not a side effect." *turn to teh googles*  "OK, so maybe dizziness is a side effect of pregnancy. 0.o I'm pregnant!"  I use the diaphragm.  We both are not a fan (having to go put it in can be a mood killer), but I LOVE knowing every month that I'm not pregnant.

    Re: hating condoms.  Me too!  H and I both hate them.  In fact, H will even FOREGO SEX rather than have condom sex.  

    Re: oral. I'm exactly opposite.  Oral gets me off and just sex never ever does. Touching me plus sex does though and is great, but, TMI: best is oral plus fingers, because penetration does improve it.

    Re: toys.  We've only used one.  My cousin gave it to me at my bridal shower.  Basically it's a D-ring with a vibrating thing that's supposed to pleasure me (external).  H didn't like it because it limits some skin on skin, and also, he said it was uncomfortable and too tight.  We only used it once.

    Re: shower.  We've only been able to make it work once, and man was that once good.  He was surprised, didn't think I'd jump him in the shower.  He LOVED it.

    Re: anal. We've talked about it, but haven't even tried and I don't know if we ever will.

    Also, I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't orgasm from sex. It always takes waaaaaaay longer for me to get there then for him.  Always.  And just sex never ever ever has given me an orgasm. I have to have him touching me at the same time or giving oral or touching me without penetration.  And usually, even when he's touching me at the same time, he can't hold it in long enough for me to get there, so we rarely get to climax together.   

    Also, am I the only one who enjoys giving their guy oral?  I feel like I'm unusual in that regard, just from stuff I've read and heard.  I really really love doing it, although not all the way because my jaw gets too sore.
    I'm jumping in now too! this thread is fun haha.

    All of the bolded is the same for me, too! I was FH's first, so it took quite a while to get him to get the hang of having sex+still touching me at the same time. But we've never finished at the same time, which I would like, but it doesn't necessarily bother me.




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  • Regarding shower fun...DH is 6'2", I'm 5'5.5". We still manage to make it work, though there is some balancing on the balls of my feet involved.

    We only have the narrow tub shower (damn apartment living), so normally I'm a the "higher" end furthest from the shower head, while he's at the lower end. Activities normally involve me bent over facing away from him. (and yes, I've smacked my head into the plastic/fiberglass/whatever the hell tub showers are made of shower wall. In rhythm.)

    We've agreed that when we look for a new place, one of the requirements will be a standing shower, sans tub, particularly one we can place a bench or little step stool in.

    I know people with small children occasionally have to deal with little hands smacking on the door and yelling "mama, daddy, what are you DOING in there?" Us? We get to deal with the cats. One of our two furballs has separation anxiety issues and hates it when we do not allow her in the bedroom/kick her butt out. I have to hand it to DH, he has a talent for blocking out the noise of the pitiful meows and the sound of her throwing herself bodily against the door during secksy times.


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    Our dog believed H was hurting me for the longest time. We had to lock her out of the bedroom and then she'd whine SUPER loud on the other side of the door and when we were done, give H the hairy eyeball and cold shoulder for like a day. She's gotten used to it and just lays in her bed, but she still gets mad at H. 
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  • LOL when our dogs were in the same room with us, they'd both literally cover their eyes during seksytimes. One would put her paws over her face, the other would burrow his head in a blanket. Hilarious.

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  • Wow, guys!  I was with a friend yesterday and it looks like this thread has a life of its own!  Catching up now...
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  • Holy crap. How did I miss this? I have a lot of reading to do. 

    I've been on BC pills since I was a teenager. And I still sometimes forget to take them. And every month when my period shows up, I'm elated and say, "Praise JESUS!" (even though I'm not religious, and it seems weird to thank Jesus for my period), and then I do a happy dance. 

    Shower sex sucks. FI is 6'1" and I'm 5'1". Shower sex always hurts my back. Maybe I'm just an old lady. 

    My dog is a total creeper and will watch us having sex. At least now she stops jumping on the bed. 
  • Yep, our dog barks at us if we're getting too loud or he sees too much movement. 




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