I just had a lovely weekend with my bridesmaids, 2 out of three of them are from out of town so we had the bachelorette party on Friday and the shower on Sunday. Overall, I have a fantastic group of girls, but I apparently chose one rotten egg. I'm not sure what to do, I know it's considered bad to ask a bridesmaid to 'step down' but I'm looking for tips on dealing with this one. She spent the whole weekend complaining, and when she wasn't complaining she was saying passive aggressive things about me, or just not participating at all. For example, at one point she said, "Rachel didn't get along with anyone in the dorms, she didn't like anyone". I'm Rachel, the bride. And that wasn't even true, in fact it might have been true about my bridesmaid, but not me. At another point she said I was 'faking' being nice. At my shower we asked guests to bring recipe's, she brought a card that gave me the page numbers of her favorite recipes in Gwenyth Paltrow's book. So I thought, okay, her gift must be the book. Nope, she didn't give me the book and in fact joked to one of my other bridesmaids that now I would have to buy the book.
I decided to have my bridesmaids pick their own dresses, we picked a designer together and I chose the color and fabric, I asked them each individually if the cost was okay for them. This particular bridesmaid is plus sized, she would have to pay extra for extra fabric. I asked her a couple of times if this was do-able for her. If not we could do a different designer or david's bridal or something more affordable. She said it was a go. We picked up her dress on Sunday before the shower and she told us she didn't order the extra fabric. She ordered a dress that was too small for her, and the bridal store made her sign forms releasing them from responsibility for the size of the dress. After the shower she tries the dress on and it's at least two sizes too small. The gap in the zipper is at least five inches, maybe more. And she's tall, so there isn't much fabric at the hem to use for a panel. I'm getting married in a little over a month, there isn't time to order another dress.
I'm just so disgusted and upset with her I don't know what to do. When I asked her to be a bridesmaid she acted real disappointed that I didn't ask her to be a maid of honor, so disappointed in fact that I asked her if she even wanted to be in the wedding party at all and she said she wanted to. But the way she acted this weekend I don't feel it. My mom keeps telling me to kick her out, and I don't want to do that. But I need some help on the best approach. I feel terrible too, because one of my girls that came out this weekend I would have loved to have as a bridesmaid, but the numbers didn't work. I just wish I'd made different decisions.
