This has been a ongoing issue I'm trying to resolve. My fiance and I don't want to have a big wedding party standing up there with us. We're only having 50-60 guests total so there's no need for many attendants.
We need to figure out how to include 4 nieces (will be ages 14, 12, 7, and 3) and 2 nephews (will be 11 and 3).
My original plan was to have the 14 and 12 yr old nieces as Jr.BM (with my sister being the MOH), and his 2 brothers as the groomsmen (one brother walking both nieces down together) and the 7 yr old and 3 yr old walk together as flower girls and the 11 yr old and 3 yr old nephews as ring bearers.
But I feel like I have to include my sister in law as a brides maid since we hang out all the time. So it's looking to be sister and SIL on my side and 2 brothers on his side. But I don't know how to include the 2 older nieces then. I've tried googling and it seems like the best idea is to have them as ushers to help seat people in the beginning (no programs to be handed out though) but this seems like such a silly job for them. I also read a lot about how ring bearers shouldn't be older than 8 -- so how should I use the 11 yr old nephew?
My fiance and I aren't very traditional people but we also don't want to offend anyone by not including them or by giving them roles designed for younger people or even roles of non-importance. I think I'm about ready to say no nieces and nephews in the wedding party at all but it would mean a lot to us if we can figure it out.