Hey ladies! So I used to frequent this site years ago when I was planning my own wedding, but I haven't been on since.....I'm posting only bc I'm kinda offended and annoyed about my cousins upcoming wedding and wondered if you ladies agreed.
So basically (long story kinda short) her and her FI were secretly married over a year ago (I only found out bc my sister lives with her sister and slipped up one day, but made it known it was a secret and no one else knew they were already married). So to start off, this is a PPD.
Next, the "real wedding" is in a different state this weekend, and the reception is the following weekend here in town. She didn't invite any real family to the ceremony, she said it is "immediate family only", however I found out from the same sister noted above (clearly she can't keep secrets) that there are 45 people invited to this "immediate family only' ceremony!! Come to find out, she did not invite any cousins, uncles, grandparents etc, but has invited all of her friends. Ok, its her day, so I guess she can invite whoever she wants.....BUT of course all her family was invited to the wedding shower. So I am not good enough to invite to the ceremony (to see her basically renew her vows bc she is already married) but I AM good enough to buy her a shower gift.....which to make it even worse, she specified on the shower invite she wanted gift cards only.
So the reception here is the week following the "real ceremony" and will start with a "renewing of vows" (yet again!) for her family and then a reception following that. I personally think renewing of vows a week after you said them is the dumbest thing I've ever heard (especially knowing it will be a SECOND renewing of vows since she was already married over a year ago!) AND if you wanted your family to see you say your vows, then invite them to the real ceremony in the first place!! Right??
Am I the only one who thinks this whole "wedding" is going against EVERY rule of etiquette ever?! Am I wrong to be annoyed?