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the last few days

Well I probably should have found words to post this earlier and then maybe last night wouldn't have happened.

On Thursday, my grandma had a heart attack in the morning and died that evening. They couldn't stabilize her heart. She is the second person close to me that had passed and I don't know how to deal with grief.

I went to work Friday, mostly because I have no family in the area and didn't want to sit alone. I went out with some newer friends last night, still hadn't cried about grandma. But, as I rarely do since I don't drink much, I got trashed. Like can't stand up drunk. Which is super abnormal for me. The guys in my group made sure I got home but I cried all the way home. And I cried about everything but my grandma, though I know all of the crying was actually about her. If that makes sense?

Well, nothing terrible happened. I'm sure I was obnoxious. But this morning I'm more than paying for it. I can't stop throwing up, though at this point there is nothing left to throw up. Painful dry heaves for the win.

I leave Monday for her funeral. I don't know how I'm going to handle that, but ok. Mostly I'm still in shock.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss!
    My dad passed away in August and he has a way of sneaking up on me. 

    Everyone deals with grief differently. There is no right or wrong way. 

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  • I'm so sorry.  There is no right way to deal with grief and I don't think anybody really "knows" how to deal with the passing of a loved one.

    Sending warm thoughts to you and your family.  This is going to be a difficult time, but hopefully being together with your family and honoring your grandma can be a peaceful experience.
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  • I'm sorry to hear of your loss.    

       I  do not always cry right away when someone dies.  Especially when I'm far away.  However, once I see someone like a direct family member I'm a mess.  Then I'm fine again.  

    People mourn differently.   Hope you feel better.  I feel like Sprite or 7up works for me when I have a hangover.  Also RIGHT after I dry heave I eat a cracker or something.  It helps settle my stomach.  It has to be right after I get sick.  It doesn't work if I'm sitting around feeling like I'm going to get sick. I have to get sick first then eat directly after.






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  • Thanks ladies. It will be nice to see my parents and aunts/uncles and grieve with them. I do know that all of our funerals end with open bar parties at the Elks club. So I will be driving and not drinking but I will see a lot of trashed family and family friends. Tuesday will be interesting.

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  • lyndausvi said:

    I'm sorry to hear of your loss.    


       I  do not always cry right away when someone dies.  Especially when I'm far away.  However, once I see someone like a direct family member I'm a mess.  Then I'm fine again.  

    People mourn differently.   Hope you feel better.  I feel like Sprite or 7up works for me when I have a hangover.  Also RIGHT after I dry heave I eat a cracker or something.  It helps settle my stomach.  It has to be right after I get sick.  It doesn't work if I'm sitting around feeling like I'm going to get sick. I have to get sick first then eat directly after.
    Good tip thanks. I do get sick easy and have yet to figure out a trick that works. I'll have to try that

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  • Thanks ladies. It will be nice to see my parents and aunts/uncles and grieve with them. I do know that all of our funerals end with open bar parties at the Elks club. So I will be driving and not drinking but I will see a lot of trashed family and family friends. Tuesday will be interesting.
    Our's do too!!






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • lyndausvi said:



    Thanks ladies. It will be nice to see my parents and aunts/uncles and grieve with them. I do know that all of our funerals end with open bar parties at the Elks club. So I will be driving and not drinking but I will see a lot of trashed family and family friends. Tuesday will be interesting.

    Our's do too!!

    I think it is because my grandpa was Irish.

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  • Thanks ladies. It will be nice to see my parents and aunts/uncles and grieve with them. I do know that all of our funerals end with open bar parties at the Elks club. So I will be driving and not drinking but I will see a lot of trashed family and family friends. Tuesday will be interesting.
    Our's do too!!
    I think it is because my grandpa was Irish.
    I know it's because all my grandpas and grandmas are of 100% Irish decent.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. :( If you are in a state where it is legal, marijuana is simply the best medicine when you can't stop throwing up. 
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  • @Sbmini I'm not and kind of I work with law enforcement, so I don't like to push my luck. I have to keep everything legal. :(

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  • Yeah, understandable. I hope you feel better soon. Try and get some fluids in you- dehydration is not your friend. 
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  • *hugs* I'm sorry you're going through this.

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    I find greasy food works best for me when I'm hungover. Especially breakfast sandwiches.
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  • chibiyui said:

    *hugs* I'm sorry you're going through this.

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    I find greasy food works best for me when I'm hungover. Especially breakfast sandwiches.
    Thanks. Yea, I can't eat greasy food sober and healthy, the thought hurts my stomach. So I'll have to pass on that! Pbandj is what I normally eat. Don't have bread now. :(

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  • Deepest condolences for the loss of your grandmother.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss :( safe travels to be with your family and friends!

     







  • Sorry for your loss. Vibes that you are able to handle your grief and heal as quickly as possible.
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  • I'm sorry for your loss, and sorry for the hangover.
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  • I am so so sorry. My heart hurts for you. 
    No wisdomosity, just hugs.

    (Fresh Banana milkshakes. The only thing I can stand hungover. A miracle cure.)
  • I'm so sorry anout your grandmother and. I hope you feel better by now.
  • I do feel much better now ladies. Groggy and tired, but have eaten a meal and headed to the kitchen for my second. Thanks for your well wishes. I really appreciate them. I've been busy cleaning my apartment, arranging flights for the funeral, and reading letters my grandma wrote me for holidays.  It is going to take time to heal, but at least I got my drunk night out the way. 

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    I am late to this convo, but from the deepest corner of my heart I offer my condolences.  Please look after yourself.  Grief is different for everyone so please do not think you feel the need to compare what you are feeling to what you 'should' be feeling.  Thinking of you.
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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

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  • Glad you are feeling better! Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you, too. *hugs*
  • steph861steph861 member
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    I'm so sorry. It's dreadful losing somebody close, especially when it's sudden.

    I lost both paternal grandparents suddenly last year. My grandma died the day before my birthday. It was heartbreaking, as I'm sure this is for you.

    I'm giving you all of the hugs. You'll get through this. Everybody grieves differently.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any wisdom to offer but lots of internet hugs.
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  • My deepest sympathies. You get all the hugs.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. 
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  • I'm so sorry! I will be thinking about you.
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