I'm on a budget, (aren't most of us??) and there is major differences between our two families.
Let's start with most of my FI's family doesn't speak English. Like at all. We're having to hire a translator for the ceremony.
We live in Austin TX and the theme across town is "keep Austin weird"
The theme to our wedding, as a dear friend put it is "keep Austin weird, but not too weird. We have Catholics".
Color scheme: red and black (think deep red) with a splash of white. My dress will be white, he will be in either a white and red tux or black on black tux. His boys will be in black and red. All the men will be in J's (the shoe brand) as the groom has a collection of them and is something short of obsessed. My girls will be in knee length black flow-y dresses of which they have several options to pick from and I want them to all be different styles. MOH will have red heels with myself, the rest in black.
On our tables, we will have betta fish centerpieces. To start, we have fish tanks. A 125 gallon saltwater, a 75 gallon saltwater, a 30 gallon saltwater clown breeder tank, a 40 gallon goldfish/cichlid tank, and a 1000 gallon koi pond. We have had betta off and on for the last 3 years. Fish are what people know us by. Fish are what we do on weekends. Fish are our life other than our 2 year old son. Betta fish are something everyone will smile at when they sit down and say "I should have guessed". Since FI has a large family full of nieces and nephews, we will give bettas away as gifts if someone wants one. Otherwise, we won't mind adding them to our watery home.
Another thought we have is instead of a photobooth, a friend will do characature drawings for a few hours during reception. A friend of a friend is willing to come out and it'll cost us a 3rd of the price than a photo booth.
We have a DJ that will be able to do both Mexican music and American. Our wedding song will be Prince Royce's version of "Stand By Me".
I have two goddaughters that will be flower girls, in red tutus. My son will be ring bearer in a little red suit.
Apps will be a chips and salsa bar, with agua frescas and beer and fruit cups con chile.
Dinner will be more American styled with asparagus and salads and chicken max n cheese mashed potatoes.
FI wants to see everyone squirm with the cakes. He says he wants a tres leches mexican flag cake for the groom's cake and the wedding cake to be a subtle navy red and cream white cake. I say no.
My question is this: is this too eclectic? Are we turning our wedding into a gaudy experience?