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Totally silly rant. [wedding-related-ish]

JennyColadaJennyColada member
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So I bought some nice wedding announcements. I'm super excited to send them out because, well, I'll be married! So sending out announcements is kind of the like the last "final" thing about being married, you know? I asked my mom to get me a few address and she's sent me a few (old family friends, relatives that won't be coming to the wedding, etc.). When I asked my FMIL her response is "we've already told all the relatives, so they know that you two are getting married, so they don't need an announcement." I'm sure that she's trying to use amicable and helpful, but I'm kind of bummed and a little hurt. This is something that I'm really EXCITED about and she just...isn't. I get that she isn't going to be as excited about my wedding as I am (no one is), but...I dunno. I guess I just wish that she was excited to tell family that her only son is marrying me. :/ But Fi is cooking my favorite pasta for dinner and we'll be having all the snuggles tonight. :)
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Just forget her negativity. Send them to YOUR friends and family and be as excited as you want.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    I'm sorry to be the asshole, but I kind of agree with your mom. I think announcements are very AW for people who aren't invited and pointless for people who were. 
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    I would be offended to be honest... If I got an announcement yet wasn't invited to the wedding. But that's just me... If I wanted people to know I got married maybe I'd send Christmas cards at Christmas and say like "Love Mr and Mrs ____"
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  • mrsmagicgeekmrsmagicgeek member
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    I sent announcements after we got married (and ended up in the hospital for my troubles, but that's another story) I was excited to send them too so I know how you feel. DH only gave me two addresses, so that's all I sent to his side.

    We pretty much eloped, though, so maybe that's just me. (Not sure what the OP did)
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  • Sugargirl1019Sugargirl1019 member
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    mrsmagicgeek said:

    I sent announcements after we got married (and ended up in the hospital for my troubles, but that's another story) I was excited to send them too so I know how you feel. DH only gave me two addresses, so that's all I sent to his side.

    We pretty much eloped, though, so maybe that's just me. (Not sure what the OP did)

    You made me curious - if this is something you can share, please do!

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    Sugargirl1019 said:

    mrsmagicgeek said:

    I sent announcements after we got married (and ended up in the hospital for my troubles, but that's another story) I was excited to send them too so I know how you feel. DH only gave me two addresses, so that's all I sent to his side.

    We pretty much eloped, though, so maybe that's just me. (Not sure what the OP did)

    You made me curious - if this is something you can share, please do!
    DH ended up taking me to the ER because we thought I was having a heart attack. I wasn't. I had been addressing wedding announcements at the time so their next thought was panic attack. The next day, I was (still) filling out announcements when the same symptoms started up again: severe nausea, abdominal pain, sweating.

    Turns out I am allergic to something in the adhesive on the envelopes. Yes, my life is a Seinfeld episode. :P
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  • larrygagalarrygaga member
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    Honestly, I would send them out anyway. Pretend you didn't know they she told them all. 

    Also, I am marrying an only son and you would be really surprised how much hate that brings out of a mother.
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  • ElcaBElcaB member
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    I'm not on board with wedding announcements, but I'm sorry your mom is hurting your feelings. 

    Eat ALLLLLLLLLLLLLL the pasta :)
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  • bekt14bekt14 member
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    That's exactly how my FMIL is acting about our wedding. I made a nice Knot website with lots of wedding details and wanted to send it to all our guests that we will be inviting. (We did not send STDs because we're getting married 4 months after engagement- plus trying to save money and sending invites early). Most of our guests live out of state, so they would need to buy airline tickets and book our reserved hotels. 

    So, it was really important to me to send out our website with all the info as early as possible. I wrote out this really nice email with the website URL, explaining why we weren't sending STDs, and how I was really looking forward to seeing everyone.. blah blah. I forwarded the email to FMIL so she could send it to her guests, and I got no response. A week later I asked FI if she sent it, and he said no. A week after that, I kindly explained to FMIL that I think she should send the email so all her guests will know our wedding details and can book hotels, see our registry, etc. and she refused.  

    She seems soooo unenthusiastic about the whole thing. I asked FI why she didn't seem excited and he said " I guess weddings just aren't her thing..." OOOkkkk... 

     Although, maybe he's right because I want to put pictures of our parents & grandparent's weddings, and she literally didn't have any pictures of her wedding (they are still married- so it's not like they divorced and she burned them). After asking several times, she reluctantly went through the house to find an old container with family pictures. She found a few blurry small pictures of their wedding, but they aren't framed or anything. It's weird. I guess she just really doesn't see any significance in weddings. It's like she doesn't think it's a big deal. 
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    mrsmagicgeek said:



    We pretty much eloped, though, so maybe that's just me. (Not sure what the OP did)

    We're having a very intimate wedding, only 4 guests. So the announcements are really the only way that I can feel like the extended family is included.
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