My fiancee have been engaged and planning a wedding since January (so 8 months now). His sister has been dating her current s/o for about the same length of time that my fiancee and I have been dating. Everyone is on good terms and speaking to each other, and everything, so obviously they are well aware of our wedding, the date we picked back in February, etc. Now, less than 3 weeks before our wedding, she sends me a text message reading "Please don't hate us but we're getting married in Vegas next week." Now every single one of his family members is going to be talking about HER WEDDING on OUR wedding day.
She has been married four times previously, I don't blame her for running to Vegas and having a wedding, but seriously, why now? This is my first (my fiancee's second) wedding, and I will never ever have another one. I feel like Monica in Friends running around and accusing her of "stealing my thunder" but if all they are doing is going to Vegas and having a quickie wedding, WHY NOW? Half of the party that we are spending thousands of dollars on is going to be focused on her, her brand new marraige and her one-year-old. I know I'm overreacting, but I feel like everyone in her family will sort of pat us on the back, thank us for the great party, and then go talk to her about getting married for the FIFTH TIME, and coo over the baby.
Yes, I'm jealous, Yes, I'm petty, I just don't know how to look at this in a way that this isn't going to draw attention away from my fiancee and me. Of course, I can't say this to her, and I responded to her text that I don't hate her and Congratulations, so outwardly (other than this post) I'm behaving myself, but that tiny little part of me deep down inside is throwing myself on the ground kicking and screaming like a two-year-old whose had her lollipop taken away. How do I get over feeling like this so I don't ruin my wedding for myself?