Im going to try to keep this as much to the point as possible. My future Husband is wanting to elope.
We have been planning for a wedding next October. He is a police officer, and there was a recent shooting of a young officer that has him very disturbed. Last month I also had a close friends boyfriend taken from her in a crash, and he has seen her mourning.
He is afraid of dying before he becomes my husband. He is afraid of being on life support and his family not honoring what he and I have discussed. He is afraid of something happening and us losing our house, since it is in his name. And to be honest, I have all the same fears, especially lately as Ive had to approach death more realistically.
So the two options weve been discussing are Eloping, and just using the money we would be using towards a wedding to pay off our house and start a family sooner. or to take out a loan and get married in 6 months instead of 13.
I mean really, its just one day. a party really... should I really spend all that money?
then again, a wedding lets me walk down the aisle, and have the pictures, family to come to town, the memories, and as stupidly enough I really want to wear a wedding dress.
We have already decided on a living will and legally making me his POA, but we are pretty set on expediting this. What do you think? Is it dumb to take on a debt? should I suck it up and get eloped?
We had a discussion on it tonight, and he has left it to me to decide. We decided we would discuss it again in a few days when we have had the time to really weigh our options.