What would you side eye on a Registry

JCbride2015 · September 2014

I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.

misshart00 · September 2014

JCbride2015 said:
I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.

Nope and nope. If you have like 10 registries, I'll side eye, but a few is nbd to me. And cramping gear is fine I think. I just wouldn't make it your whole registry as some people may want to buy more traditional gifts.

Edit: typo and I'm not fixing it because it's funny.

slothiegal · September 2014

JCbride2015 said:

I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.

SIB

We registered at Macy's (for a wide variety of things), Sur la Table (DH loves cooking, we got our fancier kitchen stuff there) and a few things at REI. We're huge outdoorsy people and all our guests knew that (we've been camping/hiking/climbing with a lot of them), so I think people were excited to contribute to that hobby of ours.

esstee33 · September 2014

JCbride2015 said:

I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.

***SITB***

Multiple registries is actually a really good idea so your guests have options when they're shopping for you. Like, if you only registered at one place, you risk that some of your guests might not have that store near them and would either have to order online, which lots of people don't like to do, get you something you didn't register for, which lots of people don't like to do, or just give you cash (which, you know, for a shower gift kinda misses the point).

I worked as a registry consultant for Macy's for several years and I saw quite a few very smart brides who registered for all their small electrics and things at another store (typically BBB) because Macy's doesn't let you use coupons on electrics. Food for thought!

ETA: Some people just flat-out refuse to shop at certain stores, too, so if you registered at one of those places, some people would be SOL.

southernbelle0915 · September 2014

JCbride2015 said:

I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.

No and No.

1) We registered at Macy's, Crate and Barrel, and Amazon. So we had a run of the mill department store, a higher-end specialty store, and the world wide web playground.

2) If people side-eye that stuff, then we got side-eyed. We registered for our backpacking tent, a car camping/tailgate grill, and other items to satisfy our outdoorsy hobbies. If people wanted to buy traditional registry items, they bought towels and dishes from Macy's.

JCbride2015 · September 2014

Thanks for the feedback @misshart00, @slothiegal, @esstee33, and @southernbelle0915! I thought we were in the clear but wanted to double check!

I was also thinking multiple registries would be more convenient. We almost considered Crate & Barrel instead of Macy's, but this is the Northeast so everybody is close to a Macy's. I didn't know about about the small electrics, though, thanks!

esstee33 · September 2014

Also, I'd be pumped as hell to buy a couple some camping stuff instead of boring housewares.

esstee33 · September 2014

Macy's has a really good registry system, honestly. ESPECIALLY completion, and especially if you shop at a particularly groovy store -- we'd let brides use it even on things they didn't register for. When I got married many moons ago, I registered at Target, Pier 1, and BBB, because I had never really shopped at Macy's before. Had it been an option at the time, I would've switched Target out for Macy's. Good choice.

lnl1015 · September 2014

rsbloom said:

Echoing PPs, I'd mostly side-eye things not for the couple, but there are other things, like disposable items, and things under $5-10 that I would side-eye as well.

I had a friend register for a plunger and bathroom cleaning supplies....why????? who is going to buy you Scrubbing Bubbles??

Same couple also registered for a new dog collar and leash and dog toys smh

I can across a registry recently that had several cleaning supplies on it. I found it more than a little weird. Other than that I'm on board with the case by case theory. A friend of mine has a $600 knife block on her registry. I know for a fact neither of them cook.

cupcait927 · September 2014

FI and I registered for upgrades on a lot of our kitchen stuff. I felt a little guilty about doing it, since we've both lived on our own for years now and combined things when we moved in together, but our stuff is shit. Like falling apart, rusted out, melted, stolen from the B&B we lived in shit. We may have gotten the side eye but I'm SO appreciative to have nice, new things to cook with in our kitchen. I put a kitchen-aid mixer on there, just so I can buy it with the completion discount.

jellybeann · September 2014

cupcait927 said:

FI and I registered for upgrades on a lot of our kitchen stuff. I felt a little guilty about doing it, since we've both lived on our own for years now and combined things when we moved in together, but our stuff is shit. Like falling apart, rusted out, melted, stolen from the B&B we lived in shit. We may have gotten the side eye but I'm SO appreciative to have nice, new things to cook with in our kitchen. I put a kitchen-aid mixer on there, just so I can buy it with the completion discount.

Same. FI has almost NO pots/pans, and mine are all hand-me-downs from my aunt. Our glassware is completely made up of glasses from a local brewery ($10 tastings+pint glass), I have plates that are either 1. 15 years old, or 2. plastic. So we registered for completely new stuff. We're currently getting by on everything that we have right now, but I seriously cannot wait to get rid of those pink plastic target plates.

thisismynickname2 · September 2014

I think the moral of the story is, to each their own! If they didn't want it, they wouldn't have registered for it (except the jerks who blatantly register just to exchange for cash).

You never know what people may really want. I've shared this story at least once, but a bridezilla coworker once blew a gasket at work when she checked her registry and no one was buying the towels. "We need fucking towels! Why isn't anyone buying towels!?!?!?!"

(Well, IMHO, towels are boring; but tell your momma so she can spread the word to your 400 guests.)

steph861 · September 2014

misshart00 said:

My cousin put Star Wars and batman twin sheets and 88 place settings on their registry. I side eyed.

WHO THE HELL HAS ENOUGH TABLE SPACE FOR 88 PLACE SETTINGS?!?!?!?!

slothiegal · September 2014

steph11814 said: misshart00 said: My cousin put Star Wars and batman twin sheets and 88 place settings on their registry. I side eyed. WHO THE HELL HAS ENOUGH TABLE SPACE FOR 88 PLACE SETTINGS?!?!?!?!

WHO THE HELL HAS ENOUGH SPACE IN THEIR HOUSE FOR 88 PLACE SETTINGS??

(I mean, I acknowledge I live in a space about the size of a postage stamp, but still.)

jellybeann · September 2014

thisismynickname said:

I think the moral of the story is, to each their own! If they didn't want it, they wouldn't have registered for it (except the jerks who blatantly register just to exchange for cash).

You never know what people may really want. I've shared this story at least once, but a bridezilla coworker once blew a gasket at work when she checked her registry and no one was buying the towels. "We need fucking towels! Why isn't anyone buying towels!?!?!?!"
(Well, IMHO, towels are boring; but tell your momma so she can spread the word to your 400 guests.)

To the first bolded: I never understood this... I thought you just got store credit? Do you really get cash? Like if I had hundreds of dollars to Macy's I'd probably buy the stuff I'm registered for, but maybe that's just me.

To the second bolded: omg I cannot wait for our plush, soft Hotel Collection towels I really want someone to buy them. So much better than the crappy towels I got as a high school graduation gift.

esstee33 · September 2014

cupcait927 said:

FI and I registered for upgrades on a lot of our kitchen stuff. I felt a little guilty about doing it, since we've both lived on our own for years now and combined things when we moved in together, but our stuff is shit. Like falling apart, rusted out, melted, stolen from the B&B we lived in shit. We may have gotten the side eye but I'm SO appreciative to have nice, new things to cook with in our kitchen. I put a kitchen-aid mixer on there, just so I can buy it with the completion discount.
**SITB**

This is THE BEST usage of a completion discount. And you never know, someone might actually buy it for you!

Signed,
A girl who will never shred chicken with two forks ever again.

misshart00 · September 2014

slothiegal said:

steph11814 said:

misshart00 said:

My cousin put Star Wars and batman twin sheets and 88 place settings on their registry. I side eyed.

WHO THE HELL HAS ENOUGH TABLE SPACE FOR 88 PLACE SETTINGS?!?!?!?!

WHO THE HELL HAS ENOUGH SPACE IN THEIR HOUSE FOR 88 PLACE SETTINGS??

(I mean, I acknowledge I live in a space about the size of a postage stamp, but still.)

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/842496/can-i-be-judgy-today#latest Enjoy!

lovesclimbing · September 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

chibiyui said:

Cheap stuff. I want to buy you something that will last for 30 years and feel really special, not a six pack of Corelle and a fuzzy toilet seat cover and Ikea glasses.
I respectfully disagree with the Corelle, as that shit can last FOREVER. But yeah, I'm not buying someone cheap ass cookware that's going to fall apart in a year.

We LOVE our Corelle. We're actually the third people to own our set, and it's still complete (none are broken or chipped at all). It's a really basic set so we have been able to just buy generic serving pieces to go with it for entertaining. I have 8-piece settings from Lenox that have never come out of the packaging in the 8ish years I've owned it, but the Corelle comes out every time we have food (guests or no guests).

My MIL owns a set of Corelle that came from an aunt and a sibling, and it's still in good condition and looks nice.

H and I registered for Pfaltzgraff, which is about double the cost of Corelle (depending on the set). It was heavy and seemed good quality. Well, never having dropped it, H was washing a plate in the sink, didn't clank it hard against the side or anything, and the rim of the plate broke off in his hand. No idea how it happened. Another plate has a chip in it. I grew up with Correlle, and it never chipped. Sure, lots broke when dropped, but any dish ware will unless it's plastic.

southernbelle0915 · September 2014

I do not judge people who register for super expensive stuff. It's common in my circle for the parents/close family to buy expensive gifts and for others to go in on gifts together.

I guess I do judge when it's stupid (IMO, obviously) expensive stuff. Like a $1,000 set of pots and pans when I know full well the B&G go out to eat for every meal and barely know how to boil water (true story). Even then, I kind of just roll my eyes and purchase something else. Who knows? Maybe one of them just enrolled in culinary school.....

plainjane0415 · September 2014

adk19 said:

Knottie43581280 said:

indianaalum said:

adk19 said:

I was staying with my cousins at their house over their wedding weekend. They opened some of the gifts in front of me. I mentioned about my judgy-pants regarding registries and how I was impressed that they didn't register for a gravy boat because I laugh at those things. We joked about how I'm now going to have a 'Wall Of Gravy Boats' in my house. I'm pretty sure they've remembered and will be buying me several gravy boats for my wedding. Because we like mockery in my family.

SITB:

Gravy boats are a normal item, though. am I missing sometthing? Gravy boats are used alot in my house and families house, esp at holidays

I love a good gravy boat! Our family uses them at holiday occasions especially.

Nothing at all wrong with a gravy boat. I'll just never buy one for you off your registry. It's not even something I really side-eye or judge on a registry, especially when it goes with the rest of the set. I just personally don't understand them, and therefore choose to buy something else. I think, for me, a gravy boat symbolizes unnecessary items on a registry because the couple went a little crazy with the registry gun. For example, my young cousin getting married, moving across the country to a "too small to host holidays" apartment NEEDS sheets and towels and plates and glasses and a coffee maker and blender and toaster and vacuum and over a hundred other things does NOT need a gravy boat. She neither has room nor need of one. So when she registers for one that isn't part of a fancy china set, I laugh under my breath and move along.

Haha! I would have to laugh at that as well. A random gravy boat not associated with China? Yeah, that's a little weird.

[Deleted User] · September 2014

lovesclimbing said:

Cookie Pusher said:

chibiyui said:

Cheap stuff. I want to buy you something that will last for 30 years and feel really special, not a six pack of Corelle and a fuzzy toilet seat cover and Ikea glasses.
I respectfully disagree with the Corelle, as that shit can last FOREVER. But yeah, I'm not buying someone cheap ass cookware that's going to fall apart in a year.

We LOVE our Corelle. We're actually the third people to own our set, and it's still complete (none are broken or chipped at all). It's a really basic set so we have been able to just buy generic serving pieces to go with it for entertaining. I have 8-piece settings from Lenox that have never come out of the packaging in the 8ish years I've owned it, but the Corelle comes out every time we have food (guests or no guests).

My MIL owns a set of Corelle that came from an aunt and a sibling, and it's still in good condition and looks nice.

H and I registered for Pfaltzgraff, which is about double the cost of Corelle (depending on the set). It was heavy and seemed good quality. Well, never having dropped it, H was washing a plate in the sink, didn't clank it hard against the side or anything, and the rim of the plate broke off in his hand. No idea how it happened. Another plate has a chip in it. I grew up with Correlle, and it never chipped. Sure, lots broke when dropped, but any dish ware will unless it's plastic.

UGH I've had the same problem with my Pfaltzgraff dishes. So annoying and they dont make my pattern anymore so it's hard to find replacements. On another note I'm glad know one took this thread to a lawyer because someone didn't like their gravy boat

Cookie Pusher · September 2014

I've actually dropped my Corelle - no breaks! Kind of surprising but hey, I'll take it. DH grew up with Lenox as their fancy holiday china, and it always held up well. When I chose my china pattern, I went for a pretty basic one from Lenox. DH and I prefer round, white plates that don't have any designs on the canvas. And we wanted something classic. We picked a line that had both simple and more ornate designs and are totally happy.

kitsunegari89 · September 2014

Wegl13 said:

I think it's interesting that on the last three pages of replies, there are people that side-eye cheap items ($5-10) and expensive items ($300+) and also not having items in a range of price points (presumably from $10-$300). Guess you can't win, huh? :-)
I don't side-eye much but I do make fun of people that register for expensive, single-use items that I know are going to collect dust on a shelf in your kitchen. Margarita machines. Hot dog makers. Popcorn maker. Etc.
Although I did register for an ice cream Kitchen Aid attachment, a Whirly-Pop, and an electric knife.... Actually now that I am looking at our registry there are a LOT of weird random things on there... And every single one of them was a FI pick.
Well I've learned a lesson! Ladies, don't side-eye the random crap. Our FH picked it out.

I have an air popper for popcorn, and it's gotten tons of use (popcorn with butter and nutritional yeast is our favorite snack), but I know what you're talking about with the silly, single-use countertop-cluttering appliances. I saw a cake pop maker on a list once, and I LOL'd, but didn't side-eye. I guess I am slow to judge people.

I also registered for a ton of weird stuff (DH registered for a small bar cart, and drink mixing supplies, and a hammock and lawn chair set), but TBH, I got tons of compliments on the online Amazon registry. People had nothing but good things to say about it, and I was even commended for registering for canning supplies by the hub's grandma (who bought them all for me). Some people joked that they had a fun time looking at it because there were so many silly items on there, and everyone thanked me for the wide range of prices. I will side-eye a registry that asks for money or only has high-priced items. That's about it. Everything else is fair game.

People like what they like. If I know a person, chances are good that nothing on their registry will shock me... even the one friend who registered for emergency supplies and freeze-dried food. I registered for two-way radios to use in the event of a hurricane as well as several battery-operated weather radios. I got all of them.

Wegl13 · September 2014

We put fancy china, napkins, napkin rings, and salt and pepper shakers on our registry. Part of me felt dumb, because I was like "yeah we'll get that out when we have friends over.... And put it on the card table in the dining room because we haven't bought furniture for that room yet. Klassy." So I hope people don't side eye that. We've never been much to entertain but I would love to have something nice for when friends or family come over.

esstee33 · September 2014

See, I have zero issues with people registering for things they can't immediately use. You're registering for the things you need to set up a home for your lives together. Your life together doesn't just consist of the moment you're in RIGHT NOW. Maybe you're just starting out in your first apartment and the fine china will sit in storage for a while, but that's OK. You'll have it when you're ready for it, and it lasts forever!

Jen4948 · September 2014

JCbride2015 said:

I have two related questions.

1) Do you side-eye multiple registries? We are thinking of Macy's (where we will register for a wide variety of price ranges), West Elm for a few higher-end home decor items, and filling in some gaps with an Amazon registry. Is that too many-- should we choose just two?

I think it depends on how many registries there are. If there are, oh, three or less, I'm fine with that. More than that and I think it starts to look greedy. That's me though; other people probably draw the line at other numbers.
2) Would you side-eye camping and hiking gear? This is an activity we enjoy together and I think most of our friends and family know that.
I wouldn't. If those are things you like doing, I don't see any reason not to register for them.

chibiyui · September 2014

@RachelLee83 Have you checked replacements.com? They have like, EVERYTHING.

[Deleted User] · September 2014

OMG! I think I saw Beyonce the rooster at a Homegoods the other day, but I was too distracted by my search for drapes for my new house to take a picture. I should go back and see if I can afford a giant metal rooster.

lovesclimbing · September 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

I've actually dropped my Corelle - no breaks! Kind of surprising but hey, I'll take it. DH grew up with Lenox as their fancy holiday china, and it always held up well. When I chose my china pattern, I went for a pretty basic one from Lenox. DH and I prefer round, white plates that don't have any designs on the canvas. And we wanted something classic. We picked a line that had both simple and more ornate designs and are totally happy.

Me too! My siblings and I dropped so much growing up. And we had tile floors. Like the hard clay-type stuff, not linoleum. It usually survived the first drop or two just fine, and after that, it would break on the second or third drop.

Cookie Pusher · September 2014

lovesclimbing said:

Cookie Pusher said:

I've actually dropped my Corelle - no breaks! Kind of surprising but hey, I'll take it. DH grew up with Lenox as their fancy holiday china, and it always held up well. When I chose my china pattern, I went for a pretty basic one from Lenox. DH and I prefer round, white plates that don't have any designs on the canvas. And we wanted something classic. We picked a line that had both simple and more ornate designs and are totally happy.

Me too! My siblings and I dropped so much growing up. And we had tile floors. Like the hard clay-type stuff, not linoleum. It usually survived the first drop or two just fine, and after that, it would break on the second or third drop.

We have linoleum in the kitchen and hardwood elsewhere. We've only ever dropped a couple of pieces (we're pretty careful since food-splatter is annoying to clean up), but they totally held up. Like I said, we're the third owners of our set (we've had them over 10 years!). The designs haven't even scratched off or anything!

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