Unwanted and Unasked for opinions.

Re: Unwanted and Unasked for opinions.

• lurkergirl member

  

  September 2014

  IrishPirate60 said:

  There are still people who get upset with couples who marry on 9/11. How COULD you? I wonder if there was that kind of reaction to 12/7 decades ago.

  I can see that being sensitive if you personally lost someone, but otherwise, I kind of see celebrating happiness on that day as a way of overcoming the sadness.  Like, we will rise above and still have love and happiness and turn around the negativity of that day.  'Merica.
  

  
  
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• LDay2014 member

  

  September 2014

  All FI ever hears from his work buddies is 'Oh man, she'll change after the wedding!  They all do!'

  
  

  I'm so tired of hearing that.  Why would I change?  Why would I spend the last three years being one person to make him love me then become someone completely different and end up divorced because I'm not who he thought I was?  What would be the point in that?

  
  

  I am who I am, we all evolve as we grow older but I have no intentions on 'changing' who I am just for shits and giggles.

  
  

  I also reminded him it goes both ways, and men are just as likely to change as women are.

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• beethery member

  

  September 2014

  lurkergirl said:

  IrishPirate60 said:

  There are still people who get upset with couples who marry on 9/11. How COULD you? I wonder if there was that kind of reaction to 12/7 decades ago.

  I can see that being sensitive if you personally lost someone, but otherwise, I kind of see celebrating happiness on that day as a way of overcoming the sadness.  Like, we will rise above and still have love and happiness and turn around the negativity of that day.  'Merica.
  

  My friend's kid was born on 9/11 while it was happening, like 20 minutes after the second tower fell. They lived in Queens at the time. His mother posted something on her birthday the other day, and it was very sweet. "As the world was falling down around us, and we had no idea what would come next, you were born. We knew that if anything, we'd do whatever we had to for you."

  
  

  You can respect a major date, but you can also continue to DO LIFE on those days. Apparently birthdays, holidays and major world events happen on any day.

  
  

  Some of those dates end up recurring on the weekend, and oh my god, PEOPLE GET MARRIED ON THOSE DAYS! What a fuckin' mind-blowing concept!

  
  

  FI's grandparents got married on Christmas Eve. Worked for them. Like I said before, you picked a date that works for you guys, if anyone has a problem with it, they can blow it out their ass.

  
  

  
  

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• chibiyui member

  

  September 2014

  LDay2014 said:

  All FI ever hears from his work buddies is 'Oh man, she'll change after the wedding!  They all do!'

  
  

  I'm so tired of hearing that.  Why would I change?  Why would I spend the last three years being one person to make him love me then become someone completely different and end up divorced because I'm not who he thought I was?  What would be the point in that?

  
  

  I am who I am, we all evolve as we grow older but I have no intentions on 'changing' who I am just for shits and giggles.

  
  

  I also reminded him it goes both ways, and men are just as likely to change as women are.

  Well, now that we're married I ask H to make me mudslides and get pouty faced if he makes one for himself and doesn't offer. Before the wedding I was all "DON'T TEMPT ME SATAN" when he made them.
  
  Mmm. Mudslide.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• bethsmiles member

  

  September 2014

  My parents were originally going to get married on my mom's birthday. My mom claims that they moved it up a week when my dad said "Oh well then I only have to get you one present!" but I don't really think that's why they moved the date.

  
  

  If you want to put candles on your wedding cake but don't want to make it seem too birthday like I saw a cute picture once where the couple put sparklers on their cake as the cake topper. 

  
  

  
  

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• falsara member

  

  September 2014 edited September 2014

  @LDay2014‌ my FI gets some of that same talk at work, mostly its more along the lines of " you're missing out on the other girls you can be banging".
  
  We are the first ones in our friend group to get married though, so none of the other guys understand that FI doesn't WANT to bang anyone else, and even if he was single he probably wouldn't be going out and getting lucky (his words).
  
  I mostly chalk this up to others immature and misinformed ideas of what relationships and marriage consist of.
  
  ETA: Spelling while watching the game is kind of hard.

                                             

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• LDay2014 member

  

  September 2014

  cwradford said:

  @LDay2014‌ my FI gets some of that same talk at work, mostly its more along the lines of " you're missing out on the other girls you can be banging". We are the first ones in our friend group to get married though, so none of the other guys understand that FI doesn't WANT to bang anyone else, and even if he was single he probably wouldn't be going out and getting lucky (his words). I mostly chalk this up to others immature and misinformed ideas of what relationships and marriage consist of. ETA: Spelling while watching the game is kind of hard.

  See, that's not an issue for us since we're swingers.  LOL.

  Yeah, they'll grow up eventually - but part of every man is still a juvenile horn dog.

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• Inkdancer member

  

  September 2014

  LDay2014 said:

  cwradford said:

  @LDay2014‌ my FI gets some of that same talk at work, mostly its more along the lines of " you're missing out on the other girls you can be banging". We are the first ones in our friend group to get married though, so none of the other guys understand that FI doesn't WANT to bang anyone else, and even if he was single he probably wouldn't be going out and getting lucky (his words). I mostly chalk this up to others immature and misinformed ideas of what relationships and marriage consist of. ETA: Spelling while watching the game is kind of hard.

  See, that's not an issue for us since we're swingers.  LOL.

  Yeah, they'll grow up eventually - but part of every man is still a juvenile horn dog.

  I disagree entirely. My H is a perfect gentleman. Honestly, I would be perfectly okay with a poly relationship, but he isn't into the idea. He is interested in me and only me.
  

  

  

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