How long did you date before getting engaged?

huskypuppy14 · September 2014

10 years ago I was dating my high school boyfriend (we dated for 7 years). If we had gotten married I would surely be divorced by now.

Simky906 · September 2014

We got engaged after four years and nine months of dating. Our engagement was fifteen months long so we were married on our sixth anniversary.

happy2016 · September 2014

Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

lurkergirl · September 2014

Just over 6 years. We'll have been together about 7 and a half when we get married.

manillabar · September 2014

about 11 months. He started saying "I'm gonna marry you someday" after 2-3 months of dating and started seriously talking about marriage about 8 months in. By the time we get married, we'll have been together for about 2.5 years

steph861 · September 2014

Just over five years. We discussed marriage and having kids pretty early on, but we wanted to wait until we both graduated to actually get married.

slothiegal · September 2014

About two and a half years. We started seriously discussing marriage around....a year and a half? Perhaps? It was such a no-brainer when the "m" word was brought up.

He moved across the country at the two year mark for his dream job and I told him I would only follow him if I got a ring or a job (I didn't want to move out unless I had a way of supporting myself and/or we were taking that next step, just in case of the worst possible scenaior). I started looking for jobs with no luck, and on a visit to see him, he proposed. I moved out several months later.

We got some really negative comments, saying I had "pressured" him or he had only proposed because I had given him "an ultimatum". Needless to say, slothieguy simply repeated, "I always knew I was going to marry her. Circumstances just led to it happening sooner than we planned", and we cut those negative fuckwads from our life.

BreMR · September 2014

My Fi and I were together 12 years 2 months before he proposed, we will be together 13 1/2 years by the time we get married! We've been dating since we were 15, so I don't really think we should have gotten engaged before now

We're both 28 now.

holyguacamole79 · September 2014

Wow, it looks like I'm in the minority with our short dating timeframe (3 months).

BreMR · September 2014

sarahbear31 said:

Wow, it looks like I'm in the minority with our short dating timeframe (3 months).

when you know.. you know

holyguacamole79 · September 2014

BreMR said:

sarahbear31 said:

Wow, it looks like I'm in the minority with our short dating timeframe (3 months).

when you know.. you know

That was us 100%. And, H used to read my blog (which is about being Catholic, so he had some good insight to me already.)

WinstonsGirl · September 2014

We were about 11 months. Moved in at 6 months. Engaged for about 15 months, but that was to give people an extra year to save up to come to Hawaii, otherwise we would have done it 3-4 months after he proposed. Married 2.5 years now

bwy · September 2014

FI and I had been together 7 months when we started dating, and we'll have been together for 13 months when we get married.

lightningsnow · September 2014

happy2016 said:

Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

Would like to reiterate that I am not engaged yet.

BF stated that he did not want to propose/get engaged until after we have lived with each other first. We've living with each other in the condo for eight months now. He has told me that in the next couple of years he will propose. Unfortunately, we need to save our money to fix major mold issues in the condo before we even think about a ring and a wedding. I know he's the one and he knows that I'm the one. No need to rush it.

decembergrl2014 · September 2014

5 months. The Monday after our wedding we will be together for 2 years.

Inkdancer · September 2014

happy2016 said:

Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

I did not want to wait as long as we did. I knew he was the one as soon as I met him and would gladly have married him very early on. But H wanted to be responsible, have real grownup jobs and a house and stuff. So I respect that.

At about year 4 I got very antsy and upset that we weren't engaged yet, even though we were both done with school. He said something very smart, along the lines of "baby, we know it's gonna happen. I'm not going anywhere. You're not going anywhere. Why do you want the ring right away?" And then I had to sit and think about why I really wanted to be engaged at that time, and it was really because I felt like his family was trying to pull us apart. So a longer time of dating gave us a chance to work through some stuff.

We also had a very long engagement for basically the same reasons. We didn't want to go to the courthouse for a quick wedding and we didn't want to go into debt, so we took our time to make a decision that was financially right for us. And now, 7.5 years in, I am so glad to be married to my best friend and I don't regret that it took us so long to get here.

JennyColada · September 2014

sarahbear31 said:

Wow, it looks like I'm in the minority with our short dating timeframe (3 months).

Hey we were 5 months! I originally told him we should wait until 6 but he jumped the gun. I can't say that I'm upset with him about it though.

theartistformerlyknownas · September 2014

We started dating in September of '12, he first told me he wanted to marry me that December, moved in September of '13, got engaged that December (in the same place he had made that proclamation the year before), married this September (9 days ago!).

So far baby talk is leaning toward this December.

I told my BFF after our second date that I was going to marry him. He wanted to be together for a year and live together before getting engaged, but we're both in our 30s, have lived a lot of life, and knew right away that this was what we wanted.

Sugargirl1019 · September 2014

He proposed after dating for 5 years, married at 6 years!

BreMR · September 2014

happy2016 said:

Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

I definitely was getting a bit antsy the past 3 years, but much like @inkdancer's dh he wanted to wait until we established ourselves more financially. He didn't go into debt for my ring, he paid for it in full and we will not expect anyone to pay for our wedding. Also, since we were together since 10th grade there was a bit of understanding that we weren't going to get married 2-3 years in.

briscoe1031 · September 2014

Started dating fall '09. H proposed in January '13. So about 3.3 years Just got married this past July.

PrettyGirlLost · September 2014

11 years.

PrettyGirlLost · September 2014

happy2016 said:
Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

Yes. We met in college so we wanted to wait until we had graduated, FI finished grad school, and we actually had jobs and money.

wrigleyville · September 2014

Five years.

We were long-distance for the first two years, and even though we'd been talking marriage, we knew it was hard to truly get to know each other without living in the same city. We decided not to get engaged until we'd lived together for a while.

thesummersky · September 2014

He proposed at 2.5 years, we got married just past 3. It flew by, lemme tell ya!

KytchynWitche · September 2014

We met Oct '11, started dating Feb '12, moved in together within a couple of weeks purely because of our financial situations and the fact that his place was two blocks away from my office and mine was on the other side of town. Moved across the country together May '13, got engaged September '13. So a little over 18 months from first date to engagement, but I think we both knew pretty early on that we'd get married.

I won't say it was love at first sight, but there was very definitely something about him that grabbed me from all the way across the restaurant.

wandajune6 · September 2014

JennyColada said:

sarahbear31 said:

Wow, it looks like I'm in the minority with our short dating timeframe (3 months).

Hey we were 5 months! I originally told him we should wait until 6 but he jumped the gun. I can't say that I'm upset with him about it though.

7 for us. And we bought the ring together and started early stage wedding planning at around 5.5. He just held on to the ring for a while to tease me!

raissyrais · September 2014

happy2016 said:

Wow. I am amazed at the range in years - everything from 1 year to 6 to 11. For those of you who waited a a long time to get engaged, did both you and your significant other want to wait that long?

FI and I never had any idea of marriage, even after 4 years of dating. Then, something happened. After 5.5 years we started talking about it on and off and it suddenly started to materialise and I got more and more excited. I even made the Engagement Chicken for him. I knew exactly when he was going to propose, I had dreams about it. I have very clear, vivid dreams about the future sometimes. And lo and behold he proposed on the exact same date I had dreamed about. Got the ring I wanted a few weeks after as we bought it together.

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