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Practical vs Ideal (elope???)

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Re: Practical vs Ideal (elope???)

  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    geminimama16 said:
    Knew there would be at least one nay-sayer... guess what: different strokes for different folks. Personally I don't think I'll be doing that but the woman writing the article did. Her day, her choice. Like I said, that is what worked for her and her family. Big deal. Some people need to get off their high horses on this board - who cares what internet people who don't even know you think of your choices! I, for one, know that my family would rather that I didn't go into debt or save for YEARS to have a perfect, big dollar event. They have offered to help in any way that they can - including paying their transportation and lodging for my wedding! Honestly, if you have a wedding within driving distance do you offer to pay for gas for guests to get there? No! So why would it be a big deal to invite to a destination and not pay for airfare and hotel? 
    Slow your roll.  Nobody is saying that you have to pay for your guests' airfare and hotel.  What you do have to do is host your guests in a reception with food and drink appropriate to the time of day (i.e. meal if it overlaps a meal hour, or cake and punch etc. if it doesn't). 



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  • geminimama16geminimama16 member
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    I don't believe that I mentioned them not paying for cake and punch for guests... She said they would be at a restaurant. And yes, someone said you need to pay for them to go if you invite to a destination wedding. Seriously... 

    Also - just because I am engaged does not mean I haven't been around. Take another look, stalker, because I've been here on the knot for 4 years. I personally could care less what you think. Again, not about YOU, it's about this bride and her FI. Clearly you stand in the "it's all about the party and less about the couple and their marriage" party. Boo that. 
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  • geminimama16geminimama16 member
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    Thank you to the mod for actually reading my original post. I have not, nor will I be, doing exactly this for my wedding. All of this was from an article that I read. If you have family who care more about your marriage and wedding than $ then maybe it works for you. If not, then don't do it. No big deal. I will not lord over anyone telling them what is "horrendous!" and such. If anyone doesn't like what a couple decides to do for their day, then let them eat cake. I'm out, I gave a suggestion and a resource for "offbeat" wedding ideas if OP is interested. I'll not stick around for more pitchforking.
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  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    geminimama16 said:
    I don't believe that I mentioned them not paying for cake and punch for guests... She said they would be at a restaurant. And yes, someone said you need to pay for them to go if you invite to a destination wedding. Seriously... 

    Also - just because I am engaged does not mean I haven't been around. Take another look, stalker, because I've been here on the knot for 4 years. I personally could care less what you think. Again, not about YOU, it's about this bride and her FI. Clearly you stand in the "it's all about the party and less about the couple and their marriage" party. Boo that. 
     
    *SITB*
     
    When you invite people, it's not about you anymore. An elopement where you invite people isn't an elopement.  It's a small wedding.
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