Getting married? Enjoy learning how rude and inconsiderate EVERYONE YOU KNOW IS.

Cookie Pusher · September 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

We scheduled our wedding around college football. Our wedding was on a college campus in a city. We would have to be fucking idiots to schedule a wedding during a home game. Traffic is bad enough normally, but you add in all the extra game-day visitors and you'd be sitting in traffic for hours just to get off at any of the highway exits near the venue.

PrettyGirlLost · September 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

We scheduled our wedding around college football. Our wedding was on a college campus in a city. We would have to be fucking idiots to schedule a wedding during a home game. Traffic is bad enough normally, but you add in all the extra game-day visitors and you'd be sitting in traffic for hours just to get off at any of the highway exits near the venue.

That's totally different. You scheduled your wedding around college football due to very real logistics concerns, NOT due to ppl being unable to miss a game.

Maggie had her wedding and reception in a pro football stadium, I believe. She obviously had to schedule around the team to an extent too!

princessleia22 · September 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

My husband has actually told me that I can't ever go into labor when his team is playing (not like I would have any control over it)... he'll show up after the game is over. I'm about 90% sure he was joking. If he were there, he would likely be as supportive as possible while following the game on his phone. Luckily, we don't plan to have kids, so it's a moot point.

Funerals & weddings probably depend on how close he is to the person. If it were immediate family (parents, siblings, etc), he would PROBABLY skip the game. If it were a cousin or someone he wasn't that close to, he'd actually probably skip the wedding/funeral for the game. He's not big on funerals and weddings and would usually rather skip them anyway, even if it weren't football season.

But, he warned me about this obsession before we started dating and made it pretty clear that accepting his insanity and skewed priorities is a condition of being with him. He doesn't mind skipping any other games, just not his team. We have actually planned trips around football games. When visiting family for Christmas, we can't fly on Sunday because of the game. And he doesn't want to risk not being able to see the game wherever we are, so most out of town trips during football season are Monday-Saturday. Or if being there on Sunday is a must, he will research sports bars ahead of time and make sure he can go watch the game there. Yes, I will freely admit that his priorities are totally skewed.

princessleia22 · September 2014

casey8784 said:

simplyelise said:
I sympathize with the playoffs thing too. I'm a big sports fan, but we're in an SEC town and already planned around when the team was in town, I certainly can't accommodate for playoff baseball too.

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Luckily my Red Sox suck so badly this year that if they don't win 4 more games, they will have a worse record than the dreadful "black-hole-year" of Bobby Valentine...so I don't need to worry about any post-season.

We booked our date/venue without even thinking about football season, which could've been catastrophic since we're getting married on a Sunday, but we lucked out - the Pats have a 1 pm game and it's not a "big rivalry" game, and FI's Giants have a bye week. His cousins who are Jets fans, they're on their own and sucks to be them (We are jokingly thinking about adding a page to the welcome letter to let guests know what bars/restaurants are good sports-watching places since 99% of guests are OOT...)

I actually like the idea of letting guests know good nearby places to watch the game. If there was a nearby sports bar and game was before your wedding, so we could do both, we'd probably get dressed up and go watch the game before heading to the ceremony. I'm sure the die-hard football fans would appreciate it... and as long as it doesn't conflict with your timeline, who cares?

Or I have actually seen someone put TV at their wedding reception with the big game playing. Depending on the game and the mentality of the guests, this could be bad or good. If it were Superbowl or you have serious fans, you could have a lot of people skip the wedding for the game. Although, you don't really want a TV or sports game being the focus of your wedding day either. My sisters venue was a hotel and they had TV's in the lobby... a few of her guests did spend a large amount of her reception out there watching TV. But, since it was outside of the main reception room, it didn't really affect atmosphere of her wedding at all, so it was a good compromise.

PrettyGirlLost · September 2014

nicoann said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

My husband has actually told me that I can't ever go into labor when his team is playing (not like I would have any control over it)... he'll show up after the game is over. I'm about 90% sure he was joking. If he were there, he would likely be as supportive as possible while following the game on his phone. Luckily, we don't plan to have kids, so it's a moot point.
Funerals & weddings probably depend on how close he is to the person. If it were immediate family (parents, siblings, etc), he would PROBABLY skip the game. If it were a cousin or someone he wasn't that close to, he'd actually probably skip the wedding/funeral for the game. He's not big on funerals and weddings and would usually rather skip them anyway, even if it weren't football season.
But, he warned me about this obsession before we started dating and made it pretty clear that accepting his insanity and skewed priorities is a condition of being with him. He doesn't mind skipping any other games, just not his team. We have actually planned trips around football games. When visiting family for Christmas, we can't fly on Sunday because of the game. And he doesn't want to risk not being able to see the game wherever we are, so most out of town trips during football season are Monday-Saturday. Or if being there on Sunday is a must, he will research sports bars ahead of time and make sure he can go watch the game there. Yes, I will freely admit that his priorities are totally skewed.

This sounds exhausting, ugh.

jenijoyk · September 2014

FI and his friends are all obsessed college football fans, and we went to a wedding a few years ago where a game was playing on the tv at the bar during the reception. Bride went into a tizzy and asked them to the game off. Which I totally understood. But the guys flipped out. I felt terrible for her. She should have preemptively asked the bar to keep the TVs off if that's what she wanted.

Siiiiiigh. You guys have all made me feel better about the zaniness that is wedding guests.

steph861 · September 2014

kitsunegari89 said:

My cousin who was also a BM threw a hissy fit because my parents would not shell out big bucks for an extravagant bridal party "spa day" as well as other needless extravagances in the days leading up to the wedding including hair and makeup and earrings that she wanted for everyone (and herself). She also wanted me to plan and finance an expensive bachelorette party for her to enjoy. She thought I was made of money. So glad that's over and we can both go back to pretending the other doesn't exist.

Wait... was this her wedding or yours?

ShesSoCold · September 2014

We planned our wedding in the summer to avoid hockey and football seasons. We're both big hockey fans and I'm a season ticket holder for our football team.

But we're weird. Like a PP, we plan trips around sports, and typically involve them. We didn't want to take our honeymoon until after football season, but waiting until after hockey season was too late in the year to go to FL. So we're going to FL at the end of February because that's when our hockey team plays a FL team and we can go to the game.

Come to think of it, I've only gone on two vacations in my entire life that were not related to sports. My sister and I try to go to one out of town bears game every season. We're going to try to go to the Winter Classic in DC. We're going to KC for a Chiefs game in a few weeks....

Ndelible · September 2014

I got a letter from my brother, who's in federal penitentiary, saying he wanted one of his daughters and one of his sons to come to my wedding and a not so subtle plea for me to send them money for the trip. We're talking ratchet folks all. Yeah, um... no?

Cookie Pusher · September 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

Cookie Pusher said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

We scheduled our wedding around college football. Our wedding was on a college campus in a city. We would have to be fucking idiots to schedule a wedding during a home game. Traffic is bad enough normally, but you add in all the extra game-day visitors and you'd be sitting in traffic for hours just to get off at any of the highway exits near the venue.

That's totally different. You scheduled your wedding around college football due to very real logistics concerns, NOT due to ppl being unable to miss a game.

Maggie had her wedding and reception in a pro football stadium, I believe. She obviously had to schedule around the team to an extent too!

I didn't mention that we're both huge fans so would have been too busy watching the game if there was one on! We tried as best we could to schedule our wedding around college football, Stanley Cup, and basketball playoffs. Unfortunately, since we booked so far out, we hadn't anticipated World Cup. We pushed all of our toasts and such back a few minutes because the semi-final game went to PKs, and we were all crowded around cell phones watching.

hellosweetie1015 · September 2014

See, I intend to plan my wedding around SEC football. The place that means the most to me and FI is our university, whose football team has recently excelled (if you excuse the 2012 season... ugh, such a disaster). I'm likely having a small, earlyish (10 AM?) ceremony with a brunch-type reception for the guests, and then a separate tailgate with TVs after because why the hell not? I think I've worked out the kinks in most of the plan and I am gleeful.

I have had a couple of cousins on my dad's side indicate that they're expecting invites. We've limited our guest list on my side to my best friend, my immediate family (+ any SOs, despite REALLY wishing I could exclude the only current SO involved), and my two grandmothers because I just don't want my mom's side there... Family politics FTW. We're too far out for any more heinousness than that though, thankfully, and hopefully it won't get any more heinous the closer we get.

huskypuppy14 · September 2014

No one could ever get married if they had to schedule around all sports.

My husband is a huge sports fan. If there is a wedding during March Madness it would be questionable if my husband would go. The joke is that we can't ever have kids in March or early April.

Our wedding was the day after the Stanley cup ended (our team wasn't in it thankfully) and during the World Cup. I never even thought about the World Cup, but it wasn't really an issue.

There is always a baseball game on between April-October, which is when most weddings are around here, so nothing you can do about that.

My husband's family always jokes how during his brother's bar mitzvah my husband kept going out to the car to check the score when the Red Sox were in the playoffs (late 90s before smart phones.)

XrebeccaX · September 2014

We had a destination wedding and had lots of people just tell us (or my parents) "Oh I'm coming! I've been looking for an excuse to go there!" Hm ok well you've not been invited yet sooooo. There was also some nonsense surrounding the wedding food, because my mom hates to feel as though she's "offended" people and apparently if you pick a food that you know someone attending the wedding doesn't like, that is offensive. Probably the most obnoxious thing that happened was the day before the wedding when 2 guests informed us they'd be joining us for dinner THAT night...a dinner I'd given a headcount for more than a week prior. So I called the venue and arranged it all only to then get a call from them announcing oh no, sorry, we won't be joining you after all! For me the "OVER THIS" period began about 2-3 weeks prior to the wedding. I was beyond excited to marry my husband but after you talk about/plan/think about an event for more than a year you get pretty tired of it.

Lewis345 · September 2014

My FH goes to the UP in Michigan for hunting and I was told very strongly that even our wedding will NOT detour him from going.... Ugh. We marry on 10/2 and hunting starts 11/10. Yuck!

short+sassy · September 2014

NWR so excuse me for a moment, but all the talk about sports and playoffs reminds of me of when a good friend of mine backed out of plans to see a big show in town the DAY BEFORE. Because our NBA team had made the playoffs and another friend had invited her to go to the game with him. We had made our plans one month ahead of time. She said she felt bad cancelling, but, "oh, he had already bought her expensive ticket" (rolling eyes). Um, yeah. More like a classic example of "something better came along so now I am going to back out on you in the 11th hour." Oh! And a few of you that have metioned hunting season. The coworker I share an office with is always super annoyed when he is invited to a wedding during deer season, lol.

holyguacamole79 · September 2014

DH is a die-hard NBA fan, and the priest who officiated at our wedding has Rockets season tickets. That said, we got married in February, which is the most boring month for sports. Nothing is really good at that point. The timing of everything just worked out that way in our favor.

princessleia22 · September 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Cookie Pusher said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Yeah, no.

It's already hard enough to schedule a wedding around the availability of VIPs, the churches, and the reception venues because you have to compete with everyone else trying to get married for a date.

No way in hell I'd schedule a once in a life time event around any sport. . . and our NFL team is arguably one of the most popular, if not the most popular, team in the country. Which is not saying they are having a good year, but at this point and with how many SuperBowl rings we have, who cares? ;-)

I mean what do these people do if they have to attend a funeral during Monday Night football or on a Thursday or Saturday?

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

We scheduled our wedding around college football. Our wedding was on a college campus in a city. We would have to be fucking idiots to schedule a wedding during a home game. Traffic is bad enough normally, but you add in all the extra game-day visitors and you'd be sitting in traffic for hours just to get off at any of the highway exits near the venue.

That's totally different. You scheduled your wedding around college football due to very real logistics concerns, NOT due to ppl being unable to miss a game.

Maggie had her wedding and reception in a pro football stadium, I believe. She obviously had to schedule around the team to an extent too!

I didn't mention that we're both huge fans so would have been too busy watching the game if there was one on! We tried as best we could to schedule our wedding around college football, Stanley Cup, and basketball playoffs. Unfortunately, since we booked so far out, we hadn't anticipated World Cup. We pushed all of our toasts and such back a few minutes because the semi-final game went to PKs, and we were all crowded around cell phones watching.

Yeah, I hadn't even thought about World Cup, since we aren't really soccer fans, but we also got married during World Cup. And USA played that day, too. DH has a cousin who is a very, very big soccer fan. Luckily, our wedding was in the morning and didn't conflict with the USA match, so he went to a sports bar to watch the game after our wedding.

PhoneCardLady · September 2014

When I first got engaged, I was talking to my BFF that because I am an older bride, I would just tell my bridesmaids what colors I would like, and they could buy a dress/suit. Mind you, I had not asked my friend to be a bridesmaid. Well I was completely shocked when she said that she couldn't afford to buy anything (she was unemployed at the time) and that she didn't wear dresses! On top of that, she told me that she would be pissed if I made the other BFF the MOH.

I knew that there have been great outfits that can be found at the Salvation Army or other consignment shops that would be a lot less than trying to get something from a bridal shop. I did not think I was being a bridezilla by asking for them to wear a certain color and it be a dress/suit/skirt and blouse. I was allowing them to choose what they felt comfortable in within these guidelines.

I wonder why she can't suck it up. When she got married, I was unemployed and had to pay for my dress and other items/events related to her wedding. She never asked me for a budget or what I could comfortably spend.

Sorry for the vent. I just didn't think I was asking a lot from any bridesmaids I might have chosen.

novella1186 · September 2014

bethsmiles said:

I would tell the baseball people you need to know if they are coming by X date and can't wait until 2 days before the wedding due to finances and the caterer. It's really not acceptable for them to be that rude and you don't need to turn a blind eye to their rudeness. Call them out on it.

For some reason when I first read this I thought you were advising to contact the baseball team. I was like "damn this chick doesn't mess around." Lol. Haven't had my coffee yet.

lmcooper86 · September 2014

flantastic said:

nicoann said:

casey8784 said:

simplyelise said:
I sympathize with the playoffs thing too. I'm a big sports fan, but we're in an SEC town and already planned around when the team was in town, I certainly can't accommodate for playoff baseball too.

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Luckily my Red Sox suck so badly this year that if they don't win 4 more games, they will have a worse record than the dreadful "black-hole-year" of Bobby Valentine...so I don't need to worry about any post-season.

We booked our date/venue without even thinking about football season, which could've been catastrophic since we're getting married on a Sunday, but we lucked out - the Pats have a 1 pm game and it's not a "big rivalry" game, and FI's Giants have a bye week. His cousins who are Jets fans, they're on their own and sucks to be them (We are jokingly thinking about adding a page to the welcome letter to let guests know what bars/restaurants are good sports-watching places since 99% of guests are OOT...)

I actually like the idea of letting guests know good nearby places to watch the game. If there was a nearby sports bar and game was before your wedding, so we could do both, we'd probably get dressed up and go watch the game before heading to the ceremony. I'm sure the die-hard football fans would appreciate it... and as long as it doesn't conflict with your timeline, who cares?
Or I have actually seen someone put TV at their wedding reception with the big game playing. Depending on the game and the mentality of the guests, this could be bad or good. If it were Superbowl or you have serious fans, you could have a lot of people skip the wedding for the game. Although, you don't really want a TV or sports game being the focus of your wedding day either. My sisters venue was a hotel and they had TV's in the lobby... a few of her guests did spend a large amount of her reception out there watching TV. But, since it was outside of the main reception room, it didn't really affect atmosphere of her wedding at all, so it was a good compromise.

This will be us. I'm a big fan of my alma mater but could do to ignore the one game on my wedding day, but we'd be fools to think that others won't be wondering how they're going to watch it when they're OOT guests.
That said, everyone is choosing to come to our wedding, not traveling to the damn game.
I do have an aunt and uncle missing the wedding for a different college football game, but it's because their son (my cousin) is starting for the team this season and they promised to be at every game. So... that's where their priorities are. I don't really blame them.

My FI is a diehard hockey fan. I will spend the end of the season rooting against our team because I do not want there to be a playoff game on our wedding day. Sorrynotsorry. I do not want my FI and his groomsmen and our other friends spending the reception checking the score and trying to watch the game on their phones.

Editted because quoting was majorly wonky.

[Deleted User] · September 2014

My mother's side of the family was just not going to come to my wedding. It didn't matter when I scheduled it. My first choice was turkey season, my second was grouse and rabbit, if I moved it way up I hit walleye, in between was deer, etc etc.

I got married on opening day of Doe hunting season, which apparently, you have to be put in a lottery to get a license. Doom on me.

jenijoyk · September 2014

novella1186 said:

bethsmiles said:

I would tell the baseball people you need to know if they are coming by X date and can't wait until 2 days before the wedding due to finances and the caterer. It's really not acceptable for them to be that rude and you don't need to turn a blind eye to their rudeness. Call them out on it.

For some reason when I first read this I thought you were advising to contact the baseball team. I was like "damn this chick doesn't mess around." Lol. Haven't had my coffee yet.

This made my laugh really hard! Next step: Contact the MFing Angels. ON IT.

arrippa · September 2014

lmcooper86 said:

flantastic said:

nicoann said:

casey8784 said:

simplyelise said:
I sympathize with the playoffs thing too. I'm a big sports fan, but we're in an SEC town and already planned around when the team was in town, I certainly can't accommodate for playoff baseball too.

nicoann said:

Football season was one of the scheduling factors for our wedding. My DH has NEVER missed watching his favorite NFL team... well, except one game because he had to have emergency surgery (although, I'm sure he probably tried to get them to wait). So, our wedding definitely couldn't be scheduled anytime between Aug.-Feb., so as not to conflict with NFL games. And I could see him skipping a wedding over a football game, or if it was really close family member he may attend, but would probably be streaming the game to his phone during the wedding. And FYI, his team sucks. For some of my family, college football could be a conflict during that time frame also. They probably wouldn't skip the wedding, but would probably complain a lot.
If the game is more important than the wedding, then just skip the wedding. You aren't required to go. But, unless is somebody distant, wedding should probably be higher on the priority list.

Luckily my Red Sox suck so badly this year that if they don't win 4 more games, they will have a worse record than the dreadful "black-hole-year" of Bobby Valentine...so I don't need to worry about any post-season.

We booked our date/venue without even thinking about football season, which could've been catastrophic since we're getting married on a Sunday, but we lucked out - the Pats have a 1 pm game and it's not a "big rivalry" game, and FI's Giants have a bye week. His cousins who are Jets fans, they're on their own and sucks to be them (We are jokingly thinking about adding a page to the welcome letter to let guests know what bars/restaurants are good sports-watching places since 99% of guests are OOT...)

I actually like the idea of letting guests know good nearby places to watch the game. If there was a nearby sports bar and game was before your wedding, so we could do both, we'd probably get dressed up and go watch the game before heading to the ceremony. I'm sure the die-hard football fans would appreciate it... and as long as it doesn't conflict with your timeline, who cares?
Or I have actually seen someone put TV at their wedding reception with the big game playing. Depending on the game and the mentality of the guests, this could be bad or good. If it were Superbowl or you have serious fans, you could have a lot of people skip the wedding for the game. Although, you don't really want a TV or sports game being the focus of your wedding day either. My sisters venue was a hotel and they had TV's in the lobby... a few of her guests did spend a large amount of her reception out there watching TV. But, since it was outside of the main reception room, it didn't really affect atmosphere of her wedding at all, so it was a good compromise.

This will be us. I'm a big fan of my alma mater but could do to ignore the one game on my wedding day, but we'd be fools to think that others won't be wondering how they're going to watch it when they're OOT guests.
That said, everyone is choosing to come to our wedding, not traveling to the damn game.
I do have an aunt and uncle missing the wedding for a different college football game, but it's because their son (my cousin) is starting for the team this season and they promised to be at every game. So... that's where their priorities are. I don't really blame them.

My FI is a diehard hockey fan. I will spend the end of the season rooting against our team because I do not want there to be a playoff game on our wedding day. Sorrynotsorry. I do not want my FI and his groomsmen and our other friends spending the reception checking the score and trying to watch the game on their phones.
Editted because quoting was majorly wonky.

As long as your FI is not a Bruins fan, I can support this.

tigersgirlgv · September 2014

thisismynickname said:

OP it would be awesome if you told them that if a baseball playoff, which happens every year, is more important than a once in a lifetime event for you, to just say no now. Don't come, at all. Etiquette would frown on that but people are assholes.

Mostly playing devil's advocate here, but that's not necessarily true, especially for baseball, where not very many teams make the playoffs. Until a few years ago, the Tigers, had not made a playoff appearance in my lifetime, so when they did it was a huge deal. I'm not saying that it would have made me miss a close friend or family member's wedding, but an acquaintance, maybe. I wouldn't be so rude as to tell you I had to wait to know about my RSVP until 2 days out, but I might decline.

A couple of years ago, my grandma's 90th birthday party was the same night as a Tigers home World Series game that we had tickets to. It pained us greatly to miss the game, but we did, because obviously we had to be a grandma's party (Lots of running to the bar and checking scores on phones was going on amongst the whole party . But, we said that that the once in a lifetime party for Grandma was about all we would have missed the World Series for!

Wegl13 · September 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

What are they going to do if God forbid their wives go into labor during a game? "I can't take you to the hospital until half time babe, do you think you can just hold it?"

PRIORITIES!!!!

True story: my parents were on their way to a wedding (funny enough) when my mom went into labor (that would be a reason to be sorrynotsorry for being a no show at a wedding!). Anyways, they get to the hospital about the same time the Alabama-Tennessee game is starting. MOM claims that Dad spent the entire labor process watching the game. DAD claims that the doctor kept turning the game on when he came in. I wasn't there yet so I can't comment, but I can't say I blame him lol.

Edited to fix boxes.

jenijoyk · September 2014

tigersgirlgv said:

thisismynickname said:

OP it would be awesome if you told them that if a baseball playoff, which happens every year, is more important than a once in a lifetime event for you, to just say no now. Don't come, at all. Etiquette would frown on that but people are assholes.

Mostly playing devil's advocate here, but that's not necessarily true, especially for baseball, where not very many teams make the playoffs. Until a few years ago, the Tigers, had not made a playoff appearance in my lifetime, so when they did it was a huge deal. I'm not saying that it would have made me miss a close friend or family member's wedding, but an acquaintance, maybe. I wouldn't be so rude as to tell you I had to wait to know about my RSVP until 2 days out, but I might decline.
A couple of years ago, my grandma's 90th birthday party was the same night as a Tigers home World Series game that we had tickets to. It pained us greatly to miss the game, but we did, because obviously we had to be a grandma's party (Lots of running to the bar and checking scores on phones was going on amongst the whole party . But, we said that that the once in a lifetime party for Grandma was about all we would have missed the World Series for!

Exactly. Decline away! It's not even the declining that annoys me.... it's the, "I'll let you know four days before your wedding if I'll be there! Uggghhh!

Luckily we've worked out the tables where this specific person won't mess things up if they come or don't come. So I've stopped caring.

Seriously, the last three weeks have got to be the worst. Right??? I have had a tension headache for the last three days straight and have been breaking out like never before. I need to freaking spend the next two weeks at some sort of meditation retreat. Where I have no access to cell phones or email.

JellyBean52513 · September 2014

I will definitely plan my wedding around sports. I have my team's logos tattooed on me (little charms on my charm bracelet tattoo around my ankle). My SO jokes that I'm more of a guy than he is when it comes to sports. At his niece's 6th birthday party, I sat in the living room & streamed my alma mater's March Madness game on my phone. I would love to get married on Superbowl Sunday and have the reception be a viewing party. That being said, I would never wait til 2 days before a wedding to RSVP. My personal passions & hobbies do not preclude me from being a decent human being with respect and consideration for others. If I were attending a wedding on the night of a big game, yes I'd be following along on my phone.

wandajune6 · September 2014

acaton5 said:
We are from a college town and getting married on a gameday and have heard plenty of sh*t about it. Boo to those people. And, for what it's worth, the game is Iowa v. Indiana. "Oh man, I'm so sorry you won't be able to watch mediocre team vs. terrible team because of my wedding. What a loss!"

I did undergrad at of those schools and masters degree at the other. You're killing me!

acaton5 · September 2014

wandajune6 said:

We are from a college town and getting married on a gameday and have heard plenty of sh*t about it. Boo to those people. And, for what it's worth, the game is Iowa v. Indiana. "Oh man, I'm so sorry you won't be able to watch mediocre team vs. terrible team because of my wedding. What a loss!"
I did undergrad at of those schools and masters degree at the other. You're killing me!

I work for and go to grad school at Iowa, although I am not a native. Sometimes, you gotta call it like it is!

lmcooper86 · September 2014

SITB!? How???
@arrippa - Oh no. No no no. We do not have anything nice to say about Boston. They knocked us (Toronto) out of the playoffs a couple years ago and it's STILL a sore spot lol

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