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Got invited to a reception and not the ceremony that was months ago

mrstrevor3mrstrevor3 member
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edited September 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
My FI's friends invited us to a ppd next month. I have only met them a couple times. The invite says they got married a couple months ago and they want to celebrate with us. We are going to go, but I'm not sure what to wear. Do I wear a dress, or some nice pants with a blouse? It is at a nice banquet hall....

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Re: Got invited to a reception and not the ceremony that was months ago

  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Just wear whatever you would wear to a wedding. 




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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    They're being honest on the invitation so I might not assume PPD yet.  Just wear whatever you'd wear to a wedding at that location.
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  • SteffJaySteffJay member
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    what exactly makes this a PPD?

    ... a party after the wedding does not automatically make it a PPD.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Yeah, this sounds more like a party than a PPD.  They're being upfront about it being a "celebration" and they're upfront about the fact that they were married a few months ago.  


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  • mrstrevor3mrstrevor3 member
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    Well, I guess it's not technically a PPD it's just weird to me because they didn't have a destination wedding and now they are having a big party with everyone who wasn't invited to actually watch them get married. Just odd to me

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  • plainjane0415plainjane0415 member
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    If the couple is acknowledging the fact that they got married and this is a celebration of marriage party, then it's not a ppd.  If the couple or the invitation alluded to a "wedding" or "exchanging of vows" then yes I could understand, but from what you initially said, it's didn't say any of that so....

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  • lc07lc07 member
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    I would dress for the time of day and the formality of the venue.
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  • classyduckclassyduck member
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    My goodness. They were being honest about the nature of the event, and graciously invited to host you to celebrate their marriage with them -- wedding ceremony or not. I really do NOT understand why so many on this board take offense to this. It's like getting annoyed at people who don't host a birthday party exactly on their birthday.

    Whatever, I know I'm in the minority on these forums in this regard, but I couldn't resist making my case. I guess just be aware that there are very different opinions on etiquette here.

    As others have said, dress as you would to a party -- or even a wedding -- or to whichever formality the invitation indicates. If it isn't clear, then, you know, clarify, with the host or hostess.

    And have fun at the party! I'm sure that is what the couple who invited you, at their expense, to share in their happiness, would want.

    EDIT: I'm encouraged to see that many posters before me seem skeptical that this is a PPD. Apologies for assuming what the responses might be. You knotties are more level headed than I gave credit for.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Wear whatever you want.
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    mrstrevor3 said:
    Well, I guess it's not technically a PPD it's just weird to me because they didn't have a destination wedding and now they are having a big party with everyone who wasn't invited to actually watch them get married. Just odd to me

    Do you know any details of their wedding?  If they had a wedding with a guest list that exceeded a small, intimate, immediate family ceremony, I would look at this along the lines of a tiered reception. 
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    mrstrevor3 said:
    Well, I guess it's not technically a PPD it's just weird to me because they didn't have a destination wedding and now they are having a big party with everyone who wasn't invited to actually watch them get married. Just odd to me

    It's not a PPD.  This is an at "at home reception".  

    It's rude of them to invite people who weren't invited to the wedding, but it's not the crime of the century.  Dress for the formality of the event.
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  • badbnagdwaybadbnagdway member
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    classyduck I agree. 

    This doesn't sound like a PPD. It's the equivalent to having dinner to celebrate after the fact with people you couldn't invite to the wedding, whatever the reason. Maybe their families are religious and they didn't want to invite people to a dry wedding, maybe they had a destination wedding and didn't want to burden folks financially.

    The advice that PPDs are rude, but a good old fashioned celebration is fine, is frequently given out on this board. I'm not sure why the celebration is now being called rude. OP, you certainly don't have to go if you don't want to, but if you do just wear whatever is appropriate for the venue. 
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  • flantasticflantastic member
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    Yeah, sounds like they're perfectly within their rights to host this party, from the info we have. I do agree with PPs that I don't understand the AW aspect of AHRs. If I were going to have a DW, and my family demanded an AHR because they wanted to celebrate with us, I'd consider it, but I'd also fully understand if people like the OP were like "thanks, but no thanks, congrats on getting married a while back."

    Then again, no, I wouldn't consider having one even if my family asked for it, because I never want to plan a giant catered party again.

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