When I got engaged last year I asked 3 girls to be in my wedding party. My fiance also asked 3 men for his party. One of my bridesmaids, Lisa, passed away about one month after the engagement. I don't want to replace her. I plan on having a column at the front of the ceremony where her place would be, and my MOH will carry 2 bouquets, one for her, and will place that on the waist high column for her.
Recently, I've reconnected with an old best friend who is a tremendous help to me during all the planning. I want her to be in the wedding. She's doing so much for me, and I find myself running a lot of my ideas through her over my MOH. She recently had a wedding, so she knows what to look out for, what things she wishes would have been different, etc. We go back much further than my bridesmaid/MOH, with deeper veins.
Would it be wrong of me to add this friend? The sides would be 3/3. I feel that may read as though I'm replacing Lisa. Especially when it comes to the pictures of the wedding party.
I've asked my fiance to add someone else to his side, but there's really no one he wants to add. There's one guy he could ask, but he was the BM at a wedding we attended where my fiance was a GM, and the groom had to pay for this guy's hotel room & give him credit card points for him to show. Not exactly a good idea to tie him into our wedding now.
I know it's not unheard of to have more people on the bride's side than the groom's, but with one absent, it may not be the same idea.
Please give me some advice...