Invites

sarawifenow · October 2014

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!

I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".

My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

Thank you that actually sounds like a great idea I'll pass that along to my MOH

Cookie Pusher · October 2014

esstee33 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

It was the second comment

**SITB**

It's a picture in her signature, not part of her comment to you.

I was just reading the thread and was about to comment on that. The image is my signature, but it's also true. Don't treat people poorly and expect that they are going to think it's delightful. Even though you've seen it done, it doesn't mean that inviting guests to a shower but not the wedding isn't rude. I see people pick their noses in public all the time, that doesn't mean it isn't rude to do so. Look, these people are supposed to be people you love and care about. If you want to send the message that you only care enough to have them give you gifts but not see you get married, then you shouldn't be surprised if any of them are offended (and chances are, they will not tell you to your face because that would also be rude).

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

I didn't know you could have a signAture on here so that's why I said that ..it's my first day on here and don't know how everything all works. Thanx for the advice I get what you're implying.

sarawifenow · October 2014

Knottie42187851 said:

I didn't know you could have a signAture on here so that's why I said that ..it's my first day on here and don't know how everything all works. Thanx for the advice I get what you're implying.

Look, I know this advice seems harsh and blunt. We are just trying to stop you from making an etiquette mistake before it actually happens. I am all for having a "party" and not a "shower". Make sure there are no gifts, have some awesome wine, and have fun!

I would change your username to something that we can identify you with. There are a ton of "KnottieNumbers" and it makes it so it is hard for us to get to know you and your situation.

Also, hit the "quote" button under the posts (Next to "report" and "love it") so that people know who you are resonding to. It makes everything a little more concise. Stick around and we will help as much as we can. You just have to be willing to take advice.

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I didn't know you could have a signAture on here so that's why I said that ..it's my first day on here and don't know how everything all works. Thanx for the advice I get what you're implying.

Look, I know this advice seems harsh and blunt. We are just trying to stop you from making an etiquette mistake before it actually happens. I am all for having a "party" and not a "shower". Make sure there are no gifts, have some awesome wine, and have fun!

I would change your username to something that we can identify you with. There are a ton of "KnottieNumbers" and it makes it so it is hard for us to get to know you and your situation.

Also, hit the "quote" button under the posts (Next to "report" and "love it") so that people know who you are resonding to. It makes everything a little more concise. Stick around and we will help as much as we can. You just have to be willing to take advice.

Ok thank you! I thought when I was replying under the post it was going to that not just in no general area. I appreciate the advice! This is all very overwhelming for me and making my head spin trying to figure out things to do and all of that.

sarawifenow · October 2014

I understand that! When is your wedding?

OliveOilsMom · October 2014

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Someone needs to go find Kristen#s so she can lock down the etiquette on FL weddings. . .

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

I understand that! When is your wedding?

2/20/16 just trying to find a venue. I know with destination weddings things need to be done well in advance to give people a heads up and save if they choose to come

sarawifenow · October 2014

Knottie42187851 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

A little over-zealous on the quoting! I edited to only put one quote.

Ok, this is what I mean, you can't get all pissy because you are getting answers you don't like. I tried being nice to you and then you told me to "tone it down". That response was also several up. Ok, Knottienumberwhatever. You are on your own now. Have fun.

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie42187851 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

A little over-zealous on the quoting! I edited to only put one quote.

Ok, this is what I mean, you can't get all pissy because you are getting answers you don't like. I tried being nice to you and then you told me to "tone it down". That response was also several up. Ok, Knottienumberwhatever. You are on your own now. Have fun.

I have no ideas why this quoted you so many times. My page keeps freezing. I also had no clue how this worked until some one explained it. I'm taking people's advice do I like it all no can I have an opinion yes and so can everyone thought that was the point in this.

sarawifenow · October 2014

agenevieve22016 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie42187851 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

A little over-zealous on the quoting! I edited to only put one quote.

Ok, this is what I mean, you can't get all pissy because you are getting answers you don't like. I tried being nice to you and then you told me to "tone it down". That response was also several up. Ok, Knottienumberwhatever. You are on your own now. Have fun.

I have no ideas why this quoted you so many times. My page keeps freezing. I also had no clue how this worked until some one explained it. I'm taking people's advice do I like it all no can I have an opinion yes and so can everyone thought that was the point in this.

Right. I was the one who explained it.

If your wedding is so far away, you definitely have time to plan everything you need. Sounds like you have an idea of what you are going to do (party instead of shower). I'm sure your wedding will be great.

agenevieve22016 · October 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

agenevieve22016 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie42187851 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

A little over-zealous on the quoting! I edited to only put one quote.

Ok, this is what I mean, you can't get all pissy because you are getting answers you don't like. I tried being nice to you and then you told me to "tone it down". That response was also several up. Ok, Knottienumberwhatever. You are on your own now. Have fun.

I have no ideas why this quoted you so many times. My page keeps freezing. I also had no clue how this worked until some one explained it. I'm taking people's advice do I like it all no can I have an opinion yes and so can everyone thought that was the point in this.

Right. I was the one who explained it.

If your wedding is so far away, you definitely have time to plan everything you need. Sounds like you have an idea of what you are going to do (party instead of shower). I'm sure your wedding will be great.

Sorry it gets confusing to see who's posting what. I'm learning how this works better now and thank you for the advice I wasn't trying to bite anyone's head off! I appreciate all the tips

lyndausvi · October 2014

OliveOilsMom said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it
Someone needs to go find Kristen#s so she can lock down the etiquette on FL weddings. . .

She is really slipping in her duties ugh? If she only knew her pearls would be clinched in her fists right now.

sarawifenow · October 2014

agenevieve22016 said:

I have no ideas why this quoted you so many times. My page keeps freezing. I also had no clue how this worked until some one explained it. I'm taking people's advice do I like it all no can I have an opinion yes and so can everyone thought that was the point in this.

Right. I was the one who explained it.

If your wedding is so far away, you definitely have time to plan everything you need. Sounds like you have an idea of what you are going to do (party instead of shower). I'm sure your wedding will be great.

Sorry it gets confusing to see who's posting what. I'm learning how this works better now and thank you for the advice I wasn't trying to bite anyone's head off! I appreciate all the tips

NYCMercedes · October 2014

@OliveOilsMom‌ Look for Kristennumbers in the fifties.

RebeccaB88 · October 2014

agenevieve22016 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie42187851 said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

adk19 said:

Knottie42187851 said:

I've actually been to and been in numerous weddings And I have seen people invited to showers and not a weddings. So asking these things to me isn't rude. People have intimate weddings . I've been to two destination weddings and they both hAd huge showers and everyone wasn't invited to the destination. People do things differently these days and when it's not a traditional wedding I've seen it more so. I just wanted some input I don't need Novel over it

Just because you've seen it, doesn't make it polite. How about you be the first one in your circle of friends to have a perfectly polite wedding, and don't do these things that people on the etiquette board are telling you is rude? You've gotten the input you've requested. Looks like you're going to ignore it. Have fun.

This!
I would be pissed if I attended a shower and wasn't invited to the wedding. It would feel like the bride was saying, "you're good enough to help me celebrate BEFORE the wedding, but you aren't good enough to actually be invited".
My original questions stands, what was the point of posting this if you are going to do what you want no matter what?

I already said I wasn't doing whatever I want I was simply getting advice so take it down a notch. Obviously I get the clue that it's not proper and that's why the one person who said have a party instead I thought was a good idea and I'd pass it along to my Moh

A little over-zealous on the quoting! I edited to only put one quote.

Ok, this is what I mean, you can't get all pissy because you are getting answers you don't like. I tried being nice to you and then you told me to "tone it down". That response was also several up. Ok, Knottienumberwhatever. You are on your own now. Have fun.

I have no ideas why this quoted you so many times. My page keeps freezing. I also had no clue how this worked until some one explained it. I'm taking people's advice do I like it all no can I have an opinion yes and so can everyone thought that was the point in this.

The site can be really glitchy too, so it can go wrong even if you do it right. That being said, don't use TK for things like your wedding website, guest list manager, RSVP tracking, etc, because that stuff is even more glitchy and many people have lost everything using it.

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