Have any of you been to a cocktail reception wedding?! If so, how was it?
My SO & I have decided to have a city hall wedding with just our immediate family & handful of friends (the 4 that will be traveling from out-of-state & happen to be our bffs) in attendance. The following evening we're hosting a "cocktail reception" to celebrate our marriage with our friends (approx. 50-55 people). We plan on having heavy hors d'oeuvres, cocktails, & dancing. My SO & I love this idea (we've always thought the cocktail hour & dancing at weddings we've attended were the best parts!) and the few people we've shared our plans with seem to like this idea, too, but being a compulsive planner I want to get some idea of what the hiccups or issues could be so I can plan to avoid them. So please - weigh in!
- Our invites will specify "Join us to celebrate our marriage with hors d'oeuvres, cocktails, & dancing."
- Time: 8-11pm (so it's after the normal mealtime). 8-9:00pm standard cocktail hour; 9:00pm quick "thank you/love you," few words from best guy/girl friends; 9:05-11pm dancing!
- Passed hors d'oeuvres for 2 hours (8-10pm). They have a pretty diverse menu, so I'm thinking if I do a mix of hearty (sliders, kabobs, etc.) & lighter options - it'll be enough food.
- We could also do a stationary item, like a charcuterie board, but I don't know if that'll be necessary. I'm also contemplating having cake. Still not sure if I want to do cake AND an edible favor, or just an edible favor.
- Bar: selection of wines, beer & 2 signature cocktails. & obviously non-alcoholic selections.
- Instead of a dj which will take up space (& let's be honest, a dj set up isn't very aesthetically pleasing) we're leaning towards using an ipod. Since this is most like a party instead of an actual wedding, we're not doing bridal party or bride/groom introductions, first dances, parent/kid dances, bouquet toss, etc. we figured we could get away with not having a dj, who really helps with all those transitions. This is the part that I'm most worried could turn out badly...advice welcomed!
- We'll have small tables and seating for 1/2 of our guests. (98% of our guests are in their late 20s/early 30s & will be mingling or dancing, so we figure if we have seating for 1/2 of 'em, we'll be ok. There is a coat check, so people will have a place to hang coats/store purses if they choose.)
- Even though we're not doing the tradition wedding reception, I still think I want a guest book of sorts - maybe a signed globe or something to have to remember our friends who celebrated with us.
Alright - so how's this sound? Does this sound like a wedding celebration you'd want to attend & you'd have a great time at? Are you offended that you weren't invited to the city hall ceremony, which would require you to take time off work & would last just 12 minutes?
Thanks in advance for the feedback!