My Aunt threw me an engagement party and 3 of the people I wanted to ask to be in my wedding party didn't show. One of them apologized and offered to throw a mini breakfast party to make up for it, and then ended up canceling it. But at least she tried... We have been friends the longest but only ever see each other when we need to rally for the other friends in our little group (throwing baby showers, birthdays... though come to think of it I was one of 3 people that went out for her last birthday, but she did not come out for mine...)
The other never said a word about it. I texted her and told her I was really bummed she didn't come and she never acknowledged it and pretended like it never happened. She is the only one of the 3 that I see on a regular basis, and the person I know would be the most there for me in all the planning. I am her child's godmother and go to all her baby stuff even though it's really painful for me because I am fertility challenged!
The third is my half sister, we are each others only siblings. She told my aunt she had to work, even though was told about the party 3 months in advance. The week before the party she was having car issues (which were fixed before the party) and I got up at 4 o'clock in the morning twice that week (not a morning person! and I don't have to be to work until 9!) to drive her to work, lent her my car when I could. The party was in June and I have only seen her once since and only talked to her a handful of times. I would feel really bad not asking her to be in the wedding and I never said anything to her about the missing the party, but it really upset me! I feel like I should be asking the people who did show up to the party instead of people that totally blew it off. I go over and above for those people and I have 5 other people who were there that would be more than honored to be part of the wedding party. But now I have all this wedding party guilt. HELP! If I decide to have them all I will have 5 bridesmaids, a maid of honor, a man of honor, and my step daughter who is going to be party of the ceremony but is going to stand with my maid of honor. I discussed it with my fiancé and he said its fine and to have as many people as I want. That's kind of how I feel about it. I curious to see what other brides think! Sorry this is so long! and thank you!