Trying to avoid being too cliche: wedding colors

Knottie23898893 · October 2014

As I have become obsessed with searching the Internet for wedding ideas and pinning regularly on Pinterest, I am starting to question my choice of wedding colors. Is purple becoming too cliche? I ask this because I have even taken a different direction with my wedding gown to ensure it makes a statement and reflects my personal style based on inspiration from international designers. So far I have toyed with having two different shades of purple for my bridesmaids: putting my maids of honor in perhaps a violet color and my bridesmaids in lavender and lighting up the venue of the reception with several purple lights to cover every inch of the walls.
Ultimately, I am just wanting my wedding to be so unique that it will always be remembered and thought of fondly by my loved ones. My wedding is on August 1, 2015. I would love your input.

Thanks!

LittleWohlscheid · October 2014

I don't think it's too cliche. I haven't seen it used too much. I think it just depends on your personality and sense of style. The colored lighting I think would help make a statement.

MobKaz · October 2014

Knottie23898893 said:

As I have become obsessed with searching the Internet for wedding ideas and pinning regularly on Pinterest, I am starting to question my choice of wedding colors. Is purple becoming too cliche? I ask this because I have even taken a different direction with my wedding gown to ensure it makes a statement and reflects my personal style based on inspiration from international designers. So far I have toyed with having two different shades of purple for my bridesmaids: putting my maids of honor in perhaps a violet color and my bridesmaids in lavender and lighting up the venue of the reception with several purple lights to cover every inch of the walls.
Ultimately, I am just wanting my wedding to be so unique that it will always be remembered and thought of fondly by my loved ones. My wedding is on August 1, 2015. I would love your input.
Thanks!

Your wedding should be a reflection of you and your FI. If you are basing your ideas off Pinterest, then, no, it will not be universally unique. However, everything you do will be unique to you, your FI, and your guests. It will be thought of and remembered fondly because of the people at your event, not your color scheme.

Liatris2010 · October 2014

I've never been to a wedding and thought "these colors are cliche". Just pick the things you like and don't worry about the rest. Expressing your unique style and aesthetic is pretty much the least important thing about your wedding, so worry about it the least.

holyguacamole79 · October 2014

Ultimately, I am just wanting my wedding to be so unique that it will always be remembered and thought of fondly by my loved ones. My wedding is on August 1, 2015. I would love your input.
Thanks!

I attended 12 weddings in 2 years. Each wedding was memorable in its own way, and it had noting to do with the colors. For some it was the ceremony, and for others it was the fun dancing. I'm sure it still all be great.

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

No, purple isn't "cliche".

By the way, do you really want your full name and wedding website URL in your post? Please let me know if you want me to de-identify your post. Internet privacy and all.....

jynxiie · October 2014

It's you're wedding. Pick the colours YOU like.

peachy13 · October 2014

Agreeing with PPs to pick the colors you love, that's what makes your wedding memorable. In my opinion, weddings only enter "cliche" territory when the decorations, novelties, and other things echo Pinterest too much (there's a whole board on snarky brides regarding this), but I wouldn't worry about colors being cliche.

crackktheskyy · October 2014

This probably isn't all that helpful, but usually the only unique things I see at weddings are dear friends/family members getting married for the first time.

Honestly, I won't remember a wedding as being unique just because the color purple is used. As a guest, I hardly ever even remember the colors of the wedding.

If you like purple, do purple.

MandyMost · October 2014

Most weddings I've been to I remember things about. These are some of the good things I remember.... One wedding the groom rode in on a motorcycle (it was an outdoor wedding at a big old mansion). One wedding had parts of a hindu ceremony as well as a western ceremony; the cocktail hour food was indian food (which I love). One wedding I was handed a drink as soon as I walked in the door for the cocktail hour. One wedding I ate so much food during cocktail hour I thought I would burst. One wedding I dance the whole night.

And then the bad things....the wedding where we were seated around a corner and couldn't see anything; the wedding without assigned seating so we just kinda sat at a random table with people we didn't know because our friend table was full; the wedding with cash bar where we didn't have much cash on us; the wedding I was a bridesmaid at and had to sit sooooo awkwardly at a head table while my then-new-boyfriend (now fiance) sat at a table of strangers.

So in essence, the vast majority of the things people will remember are the stuff that directly affects them. People remember being comfortable, happy, full, and having fun. They also remember being uncomfortable, unhappy, hungry, and bored waiting for stuff to happen.

A purple wedding color scheme will likely not be remembered unless you do it so poorly that people are saying "remember I couldn't even see what I was eating because the lights were so purple! And all the pictures came out purple too!". And clearly you don't want to aim for that! So go for purple, and enjoy it. But if you want your guests to remember your wedding forever, put the most amount of you energy and budget into actually making it an enjoyable experience for them--food, drink, a good band or DJ, a convenient timeline and location (transportation, etc. as needed).

BlueBirdMB · October 2014

I can't think of any color schemes of any weddings that I've been to. I'm sure a lot were purple. I'm not going to remember the color, I am going to remember my experience. Don't stress.

Maggie0829 · October 2014

Well if purple is considered cliche then my wedding was super cliche since I used purple and lime green. But then my wedding was 3 years ago so maybe it wasn't cliche then but rather "unique"

atlastmrsg · October 2014

Radiant orchid was "the color of the year" for 2014. So there's going to be a lot of purple. Also, I think women tend to like purple. I love the color lavender--my April 2014 bridal shower was lavender theme even though my wedding wasn't. Lavender punch, lavender flowers on the cupcakes, lavender L'Occitane gifts for attendees... Do what makes you happy. So what if there's a lot of purple this year, and probably every year.

Knottie23898893 · October 2014

Thanks for your input. To some it may sound silly that I am worrying about color, but choosing the right color determines how your wedding will turn out and look in photos, etc. That's why I am being particular and making sure I don't regret the choices I made. As a huge picture fanatic, I know I will look at these pictures years from now and won't want to have the same negative feelings I have toward my senior pictures.

As for my information, I suppose you can take that off of there. It doesn't bother me because this isn't a controversial topic, but it probably wouldn't hurt.

wrigleyville · October 2014

I have removed your full name from your post and the comments that quoted it.

Purple is a lovely color and suits all seasons, depending on the shade. I think you can use purple and still be unique.

Maggie0829 · October 2014

Knottie23898893 said:

Thanks for your input. To some it may sound silly that I am worrying about color, but choosing the right color determines how your wedding will turn out and look in photos, etc. That's why I am being particular and making sure I don't regret the choices I made. As a huge picture fanatic, I know I will look at these pictures years from now and won't want to have the same negative feelings I have toward my senior pictures.
As for my information, I suppose you can take that off of there. It doesn't bother me because this isn't a controversial topic, but it probably wouldn't hurt.

You are over thinking this immensly.

Liatris2010 · October 2014

Knottie23898893 said:

Thanks for your input. To some it may sound silly that I am worrying about color, but choosing the right color determines how your wedding will turn out and look in photos, etc. That's why I am being particular and making sure I don't regret the choices I made. As a huge picture fanatic, I know I will look at these pictures years from now and won't want to have the same negative feelings I have toward my senior pictures.
As for my information, I suppose you can take that off of there. It doesn't bother me because this isn't a controversial topic, but it probably wouldn't hurt.

All the more reason to pick what you like and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. That being said, go look at wedding photos. With the exception of ones with the WP, can you be sure of the color scheme of most of them? I doubt it.

Maggie0829 · October 2014

Liatris2010 said:

Knottie23898893 said:

Thanks for your input. To some it may sound silly that I am worrying about color, but choosing the right color determines how your wedding will turn out and look in photos, etc. That's why I am being particular and making sure I don't regret the choices I made. As a huge picture fanatic, I know I will look at these pictures years from now and won't want to have the same negative feelings I have toward my senior pictures.
As for my information, I suppose you can take that off of there. It doesn't bother me because this isn't a controversial topic, but it probably wouldn't hurt.

All the more reason to pick what you like and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. That being said, go look at wedding photos. With the exception of ones with the WP, can you be sure of the color scheme of most of them? I doubt it.

This. When I glance at my photos every now and then the only time you could see the color scheme was when you look at the wedding party pictures because all the girls are holding bouquets and are wearing green dresses while the guys are wearing dark purple vests. But the rest of my pictures? Are of the fun times at the reception and very few show the color scheme.

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

If you don't want your pictures to look dated, stay away from stuff like mason jars, mirrors, rhinestone studded vases, paper lanterns, burlap, mustaches, etc. Basically anything that came out and got really popular all of a sudden.

As far as colors looking dated, I think you just pick what you like. What's going to date your pictures are things like hair styles, clothing styles, trendy decor choices, etc.

00kim00 · October 2014

I agree with PPs that the colors are not going to be what makes your wedding memorable, unless you do something really weird or bad, like all the men in pink frilly tuxes or lighting so bad you can't see.

That said, every wedding I've been in (except my own) and the majority of weddings I've been to in my life have had purple as the primary color. Pink was the second most popular color. My wedding this past May was blue and orange, and oddly the wedding I went to in March and the one I'm going to this weekend both have that color scheme. The only wedding I remember because of the color was black, which looked nice, but is memorable because the invitation said that the groom kindly asks that all guest wear black attire so the bride stands out more. It was worded in a way that made it sound like he wanted his bride to shine, but now that I think back on it, it kinda seems like he needed a reminder of which girl he was marrying.

So go with whatever color you and your fiance like. The only people who are really going to care are the bridesmaids who have to buy and wear a dress that color. If you want unique, though, I've personally never been to a wedding with the primary color being yellow, orange, lime green, brown, white, or even red.

tammym1001 · October 2014

Knottie23898893 said:

Thanks for your input. To some it may sound silly that I am worrying about color, but choosing the right color determines how your wedding will turn out and look in photos, etc. That's why I am being particular and making sure I don't regret the choices I made. As a huge picture fanatic, I know I will look at these pictures years from now and won't want to have the same negative feelings I have toward my senior pictures.
As for my information, I suppose you can take that off of there. It doesn't bother me because this isn't a controversial topic, but it probably wouldn't hurt.

I was in a wedding in 2003 and the colors were purple and green so I don't think purple is a new or unique wedding color. If you don't want to regret your color choice then your best option would be to pick a color that you love rather than something that you think is unique. Colors can be trendy depending what you pair them up with, but if you pick colors you love then there won't be anything to regret. Honestly, if I went to a wedding that had purple uplighting and then one that had pink uplighting I wouldn't be like oh that last wedding was so much more memorable because they used purple which is so unique!

weddingcactus · October 2014

No, purple isn't cliche. It's just a color. If it's a color you love, then by all means, include it in you wedding planning. People will remember the parts of a wedding that stand out to them and it isn't going to be your colors. But I do think you're wise to consider how colors will impact your pictures. In my mind going overboard on matching or making every single thing everywhere be your "wedding colors" is going to look more cliche than anything. I think you want your wedding to look like you, not like Pinterest threw up on your wedding.

badbnagdway · October 2014

Most people will not remember a lot of your decor unless it is very bad. For example, I don't remember the centerpieces from most of the weddings I've been to. One of the big exceptions to that were the especially ugly centerpieces at a wedding I went to last year.

The things they will remember will be the way your wedding made them feel and only a rough sketch of how it actually looked.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

You have a confirmation bias. The more you search for purple wedding inspiration, the more you'll start to believe that all weddings are purple.

Choose things you like because you like them, not because you saw them on Pinterest. If you're worried about not liking purple someday, then have multi-colored bouquets and table arrangements. Or print your pictures in black and white or sepia tone.

selfieslob · October 2014

I only remember wedding colors when I am in a wedding (seeing as you're buying a particular color dress!) Otherwise, I think when you attend a wedding, the color scheme just sits in the background. If you like purple, do purple! I do as well so even though I haven't decided on a color scheme yet, I will probably incorporate purple somehow.

lyndausvi · October 2014

You are so overthinking this.

Pick the color you want and stop overthinking this. My sister got married 20 years ago. She choose pretty simple classic dresses in maroon. But boy does our hair style date us in the pictures - LOL. If it's not the dress it's the color. If it's not the color its hair styles. If it's not hair it's the GM's suit style.

Purple is my favorite color. I say go for it.

jimandpam87 · October 2014

southernbelle0915 said:

If you don't want your pictures to look dated, stay away from stuff like mason jars, mirrors, rhinestone studded vases, paper lanterns, burlap, mustaches, etc. Basically anything that came out and got really popular all of a sudden.

As far as colors looking dated, I think you just pick what you like. What's going to date your pictures are things like hair styles, clothing styles, trendy decor choices, etc.

i.e. If you want a unique wedding, stay off of pinterest

MandyMost · October 2014

The things that are going to look dated and/or risk you not liking them years down the road in the photos are the things that will really stand out as individual items/colors. If someone asks you to describe your wedding decor and you can easily answer in a few words, i.e. "Purple and Green" or "Mason jars and burlap" or "Peacocks" or "rhinestones and mirrors", then your wedding is going to be something you may wish you had reconsidered in a few years time. If you go with something more subtle, it's more likely to stand the test of time.

Nymeru · October 2014

Knottie23898893 said:

As I have become obsessed with searching the Internet for wedding ideas and pinning regularly on Pinterest, I am starting to question my choice of wedding colors. Is purple becoming too cliche? I ask this because I have even taken a different direction with my wedding gown to ensure it makes a statement and reflects my personal style based on inspiration from international designers. So far I have toyed with having two different shades of purple for my bridesmaids: putting my maids of honor in perhaps a violet color and my bridesmaids in lavender and lighting up the venue of the reception with several purple lights to cover every inch of the walls.
Ultimately, I am just wanting my wedding to be so unique that it will always be remembered and thought of fondly by my loved ones. My wedding is on August 1, 2015. I would love your input.
Thanks!

Be careful with the uplighting! Make sure you've got some yellow/white light as well. I've been to three purple up-lit weddings and I hated it each time because the room was so dim. It made me feel like I was in a club, and not in a good way. Something about dim, colorful light gives me a headache. Throw in an AW DJ, and I'm ready to go home long before I'd normally want to.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

Nymeru said:

Knottie23898893 said:

As I have become obsessed with searching the Internet for wedding ideas and pinning regularly on Pinterest, I am starting to question my choice of wedding colors. Is purple becoming too cliche? I ask this because I have even taken a different direction with my wedding gown to ensure it makes a statement and reflects my personal style based on inspiration from international designers. So far I have toyed with having two different shades of purple for my bridesmaids: putting my maids of honor in perhaps a violet color and my bridesmaids in lavender and lighting up the venue of the reception with several purple lights to cover every inch of the walls.
Ultimately, I am just wanting my wedding to be so unique that it will always be remembered and thought of fondly by my loved ones. My wedding is on August 1, 2015. I would love your input.
Thanks!

Be careful with the uplighting! Make sure you've got some yellow/white light as well. I've been to three purple up-lit weddings and I hated it each time because the room was so dim. It made me feel like I was in a club, and not in a good way. Something about dim, colorful light gives me a headache. Throw in an AW DJ, and I'm ready to go home long before I'd normally want to.

I would also do lots of candles on the tables if you want to have colored uplighting. It'll give people's eyes a break from the purple, and I need to be able to see my food in its intended colors. Purple chicken is not appetizing and you can't see if it's been cooked properly.

atoz101015 · November 2014

I am planning an October 2015 wedding and have purposefully told very few people the color scheme simply because everyone is going to have an opinion and they shouldn't talk you out of what you and your FI want to do! If you love purple go for purple! Personally I've been to four weddings in the last year most of them were royal blue (one was purple) but the point is even if they're the same color the decorations and shades of the colors etc. they're going to be different.

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