So I'm new here. I need a place I can talk because well my bridal party sucks and I have no one left to vent my frustrations to. So part of this is about showers and bachelorette party but the rest is my frustrations. I feel like everyone has bailed on me. I know people have busy lives and I have gotten zero help with my total diy wedding except from my mom and mil. Because people offer and then when I need something they bail. I needed a paper cutter for wedding invites. So I asked my BM who has one for scrap booking. Yeah a month later I had to buy one myself because she just kept ignoring me. I was supposed to have a bachelorette party this weekend. Actually we had planned a trip to a local amusement park because we have underage maids. Then EVERYONE backed out 2 weeks ago. Now they just keep saying oh we can do something whenever you want! I don't feel like I'm supposed to plan this myself and I've already tried and it failed and I tried again and that failed. Because we make a plan and then they say "oh I can't now" so this is me giving up on that idea.
I asked them last night if they would like to plan a bridal shower. I know I shouldn't just ask like that but well I did. I have 7 weeks until my wedding. I said I'd help pay for stuff all that but no the response I got was "I can't because of work" and I can't because my life is to hectic. These are the same girls that keep telling me if I ever need anything to let them know. WHY? Everytime I ask or need something they tell me they can't. I'm a stay at home mom to 2 kids under the age of 4. I've planned and done every detail myself. 1 because I'm that person that needs to plan and account for everything and 2 because people justs keep saying oh I can help but actually I really won't. My own grandma said if I need anytthing just ask but that she's super busy right now so might not be able to. Just why offer of your going to say something like that. I know I'm just ranting now and im sorry if I come across and whiney or shallow or something like that. I don't want the gifts or really the attention but I wanted sometthing to celebrate me for once. That does sound petty, sorry. I just only plan on getting married once I wanted the experience of these things.
This frustration all really stems from the fact that my moh, who's been my best friend since elementary school backed out of my wedding 3 months before the wedding. That really hurt. I didn't even get an I'm sorry and I haven't heard a word from her since.
So now question. Is it wrong of me to still want a shower? Or something like that. I'm not having the bachelorette party. My mil wanted to help is it wrong to ask her to do it. If i don't get one I'll live but I was just looking forward to it I guess.