I'm all about encouraging others to take precaution in life... when it comes to things like wearing seatbelts or choosing organic meats and produce. Never would I advise "don't trust your spouse with perfectly beautiful, natural pictures in case he chooses to engage in revenge porn."
Oh hey, I guess I can post a few of my pics since I'm not sure if FI will ever get to see them! Lol.
I did these with a photog that I did some modeling for in college. They didn't turn out that great because we only had like an hour to shoot, so we didn't get many great poses. It had been so long since I'd modeled that my face doesn't look relaxed in the pics. I did some implied topless too...my favorite pic was one of those, with some side boob showing...but I won't post that here.
I had a dear friend who was going through a nasty divorce. She arrived at her office one day to find that her soon-to-be-ex had taped her boudoir photos all over the office. I really don't think those pictures are a good idea. You never know what the future will bring. Also, I'm pretty sure that my DH's memory is more flattering than my body actually was!
That's a pretty ridiculous thing to plan ahead for. If we can't trust our spouses then what's the point of even being together? He could just as easily have taken naked pictures of her sleeping or in the shower if he wanted to be an unmitigated dickbag.
This is exactly my point! If you don't do the pictures, you won't need to worry. Divorce rate is near 50% in the USA, and many of those men turn out to be dickbags. Even if you are certain that you won't be one of these couples, the future brings surprises, and not idoing something that is potentially risky is wise.
It's not just men that turn into dickbags. It's amazing how people change during a divorce. DH's ex was desperate to marry him and have his kids. Then, during the divorce, she threatened to kill him in his sleep. She left him, BTW, for another man. He couldn't go back to his house without the police for his protection. So, yeah, not just men. Women are just as much of assholes.
The divorce rate sucks. I'm a part of that statistic. I personally would not let the divorce rate effect how I interact with my husband. i also wouldn't do something that I would fear someone may use against me later on. Boudoir photos do not fall into that category, but nude photos do for me.However, that's just ME and it has nothing to do with divorce. I also agree with others that if my DH were to use those photos against me, it reflects poorly on him, not me.
You hit the nail on the head. When a marirage ends in divorce, it isn't just men who can turn into bad people, women are just as likely to do this.
Omg guys I love this thread!! I just booked my boudoir photoshoot and I seriously cannot wait for it! I'm doing it at the beginning of December, right at the end of a twelve week fitness transformation program so MASSIVE INCENTIVE TO STICK WITH MY PROGRAM. *munches on carrots as I type*
My only problem is I can't stop impulse buying shoes and lingerie for it now! FI is in the navy and I desperately wish I could sneak his dress uniform jacket but there's no way because he lives four hours away and the photoshoot is supposed to be a surprise wedding present. He'd definitely raise a stink if I tried to sneak it out of his house sans explanation.
I met my photographer at an expo a few months ago and she's seriously sweet. I've got this insane B&B suite complete with giant antique couches and mirrors and a huge sexy bed...basically this is gonna be the sexiest thing that's happened in my whole damn life. I don't think I'll have problems with shyness
I also know that FI is going to die of happiness when I give them to him. I plan on putting together a little black book of my favs to give him as a wedding present, and then randomly leaving hard copies of the rest of them around the house in the months after the wedding...at least, if I can keep it a secret. I WANT TO TELL HIM SO BAD!!!
Beautiful! I hope your man loves them a lot! Are you giving a photo album or anything like that?
STUCK -
Yes, I ordered a little black book with about 8 other images in it, so I'm going to give those to him probably the night before the wedding. I also got a USB with the images on it and the copyright release.
Now I just have to wait a year and half to give them to him. Time to find a hiding place
ETA: @beethery and @lolo883 thanks for the compliments ladies, My self esteem has just skyrocketed.
Wow I can't believe I missed all those pics when they were first posted! All you girls look freaking amazing! You're all so amazingly hottttt! You guys totally inspired me to do these!
DAYUM girl! OK that's it--I gotta lose 50 pounds and take these pics for DH for our first anniversary.
Nobody needs to lose weight in order to take some sexy photos You're beautiful the way you are, right now.
QFT.
Double QFT
Word. I was 20 pounds heavier than I'd been before or have been since when I had mine (posted on page 5) done and I don't regret them at all. I admit I'd like to do it again now that I'm fit again, but those extra pounds don't ruin mine for me at all - at least my chest is bigger, which fiance prefers anyway.
DAYUM girl! OK that's it--I gotta lose 50 pounds and take these pics for DH for our first anniversary.
Nobody needs to lose weight in order to take some sexy photos You're beautiful the way you are, right now.
QFT.
Double QFT
Ha, thanks ladies. I'm currently not comfortable with myself and that discomfort comes through in photos. If my weight gain was out of my hands, I'd be more OK with it (a few years ago I gained a lot due to meds; I was eventually fine with that), but lately it's more of a result of laziness/lack of will power (food is just so YUMMY!), so I'm totally fine with holding off until I get myself back to a place I like.
Sexy pics will be a great reward for me! (Oh yeah, and slothieguy too, I guess...!)
Re: Let's talk about boudoir shoots
I'm the fuck out.
Ok guys, I'm sorry to unearth this thread but I wanted to post since I've been invited to share and I JUST GOT MY PICS!!!!!
Here Comes the AW!!!
I'm the fuck out.