I just got engaged last weekend. Yay! I have never been so happy, but at the same time I now feel very overwhelmed with the idea of planning a wedding. No one in my family has ever planned a wedding before and we are not sure where to start. My parents have a very limited budget, they said max 20k. My fiance and I, made a rough draft of our guest list and right now it is at about 110 (including the maybes). We are also Jewish and want to have a very basic Jewish ceremony. My initial ideas on saving cost was to do something like a Sunday brunch or luncheon. We definitely do not want a dry wedding so I can't really cut costs very much in that department. I can forgo a florist and decor type stuff. I just want to marry the man of my dreams and at the same time have all the people we love the most be there to witness it and celebrate with us. I have only ever been to "over the top" hotel style weddings. I wish I had a big backyard to throw some type of backyard bbq style wedding... but we dont. I am looking for any and all suggestions and ideas. Venues, music options, wedding planner... etc. I want this to be simple. There has to be a way to make it that way, I just haven't figured it out yet. Please please someone help!