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wedding planning challenges

Knottie78205185Knottie78205185 member
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I’ve been spending a lot of time wedding planning and I’m starting to feel overwhelmed with all that needs to be done. Am I doing something wrong here? What has been the most difficult part of the process for you and how did you manage?
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    It's only overwhelming if you allow it to be.  It took me years but I finally learned the wisdom in my now SIL's insistence during our planning that I stop stressing and start delegating or "hiring it out"... I only wish I'd have done it then!!!   For example, flowers, hire them out - give your florist a general idea of where you want to head with colors/blooms/details of your day, etc., give them your stack of money to work with that you feel comfortable spending on that detail (YOU dictate the budget - they dictate what you get for the money), and delegate it that they will get the job done for you, and stop stressing at that point. 

    Assume the attitude that "People plan funerals in sometimes less than 3 days" which involve many of the same vendors(though not all - but baker, florist, caterer, venue, church, etc.).  Make the decision, stick with your decision, and delegate.  Hire vendors you feel confident in.  It will cut your stress down greatly!!!  But most of all, DIY very rarely equals actual cost savings once you figure out the nickels, dimes, and pennies!


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  • janbride2015janbride2015 member
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    That whole long list of everything that needs to get done can be daunting.  Doing it in sections makes it way more manageable.  And like Scribe said, first is guest list, budge, date and venue.  Once I had those I moved onto my dress because everyone was so excited to help me find that.  We did the photographer, dj, and florist all right on top of each other.  That was hectic to say the least.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    hmonkey said:
    after a certain point, you just decide that you don't care about things like the color of toothpicks used in the whore derbs, and just make sure that every butt has a seat, and people have something to eat and drink.
    Oh AMEN!!!! 
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    The most difficult part for us was having to change venues about 6 months out due to some shady allegations about the owners of our original venue. I wasted time on some other stuff (the type of stuff hmonkey mentioned) and eventually said fuck it about those things. She is completely right. Don't let yourself get bogged down in stressing over the details. Save the stress for real issues if they happen to come up. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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