How to nicely tell wedding guests [that] their phones aren't invited

ashley8918 · October 2014

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/15/how-to-nicely-tell-weddin_n_5990380.html

My personal favorite part:

"Some couples take more dramatic steps to get their guests to power down. Xochitl Gonzalez, co-founder of AaB Creates, an event design and planning firm based in New York City, said she has set up a phone-check station and collected phones before ceremonies. One couple that had a destination wedding in Maine asked guests to turn off their phones for the entire weekend."

KatieinBkln · October 2014

EWWWWWWW.

I don't even particularly care for the "collecting of the keys" from people who plan to drink (seen more often at house parties than weddings, but who knows what will happen via Pinterest these days). Collecting phones? Fuck you, bridezillas.

pinkcow13 · October 2014

OH hell no, no one is"collecting" my new iphone 6. I'm fucking 30 years old, I know how the silent feature works, and I know not to disturb a wedding with my phone.

This unplugged nonsense is so ridiculous to me.

thisismynickname2 · October 2014

I couldn't tell you if a single person was on their phone during my ceremony, because I was focused on DH and saying vows.

But alas, one person was. They took pictures. OMG! And those are the best and only non-pro photos I have of our ceremony as I anxiously wait out my 8 week professional photography waiting period.

Ef you bridezillas.

tammym1001 · October 2014

I don't believe that a bride and groom had guests who agreed to leave their phones turned off for an entire weekend!!! Are you kidding me?

KatWAG · October 2014

hahaha. No way I would hand over my phone. That is how nude-y pictures get leaked.

kmmssg · October 2014

ashley8918 said:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/15/how-to-nicely-tell-weddin_n_5990380.html

My personal favorite part:
"Some couples take more dramatic steps to get their guests to power down. Xochitl Gonzalez, co-founder of AaB Creates, an event design and planning firm based in New York City, said she has set up a phone-check station and collected phones before ceremonies. One couple that had a destination wedding in Maine asked guests to turn off their phones for the entire weekend."

SITB Edit: I just read and flipped my lid - sorry Ashley, if I would have noticed it was you I would have never thought I needed to respond to an "OP". I must really need a margarita...
Oh Hell no will I be handing my phone over at a phone check station or be asked to turn off my phone for an entire weekend. NO couple is that important or special.
OP - if you don't want phones at your wedding the only thing you can really do is ask your officiant to make an announcement before the start of the ceremony - and many don't think that is acceptable either. We did that at our girls' weddings but once things start you are really rather preoccupied and won't notice if someone is messing with their phone.
Check my phone? Hell no.

cupcait927 · October 2014

Nope, not gonna happen. You are not going to make me hand over my iPhone just because you're crazypants. And turn it off for an entire weekend? Fuck no!

I was SO friggin happy that people took pictures during my ceremony. I'm still waiting to get my pro pictures back and in the meantime, I love looking at the candid pictures people took and remembering how beautiful my ceremony was. Did I notice a single cell phone during that time? Nope. It really is true what everyone says - I was so focused on H and our officiant that I didn't notice anything else. It was like no one else was around us - very surreal.

feignducky · October 2014

Love thisismynickname's and cupcait927's posts.

We actually are encouraging phones to share the pictures (via an app, half already used for a previous wedding) we don't have a professional photographer.

Specific family and friends are to photograph specific things. Ex: An uncle is doing the professional type photos (used to own a photography studio), and a friend volunteered to take "getting ready" and engagement photos as their gifts. The rest of the famiy knows this, and would gladly help fill in the blanks (I don't take good posed pictures anyway).

steph861 · October 2014

I plan to use an electromagnetic pulse generator. It's the only way to ensure there are no phones. Or cameras. Or music. Totally worth it.

Cookie Pusher · October 2014

Taking away my phone is a good way to get stuck paying for my uneaten meal as I would totally peace out.

levioosa · October 2014

The audacity to try to claim phones for an entire weekend.....I just can't. What if people left kids at home with a babysitter to make the wedding? You're going to tell me I'm not allowed to have my phone on me in case of emergency? Try and wrest it from my cold, dead fingers, bitches.

Edited: because TK is weird and truncated my post.

beethery · October 2014

I can't get with this. Lord knows I appreciate a 'please silence your cell phones' from an officiant, but if you want me to give up my phone for the whole weekend, you got another thing coming. NOPE.

slothiegal · October 2014

KatWAG said:

hahaha. No way I would hand over my phone. That is how nude-y pictures get leaked.

Well that's your own fault. Only stupid sluts take naked pics, AMIRITE?!

Kidding. So obviously kidding.

ETA paragraphs.

hellohkb · October 2014

People are actually doing this?

Good God don't let this get on Pinterest.

tammym1001 · October 2014

levioosa said:

The audacity to try to claim phones for an entire weekend.....I just can't. What if people left kids at home with a babysitter to make the wedding? You're going to tell me I'm not allowed to have my phone on me in case of emergency? Try and wrest it from my cold, dead fingers, bitches.

Edited: because TK is weird and truncated my post.

You know people had to leave their kids at home for these weddings because OMG special snowflake bride can't have kids screaming during her wedding vows and running around ruining her reception.

raissyrais · October 2014

I ain't handing my phone over to you for a WHOLE weekend because you're cray cray crazypants. I will refrain from taking pictures/silencing it blablabla if the officiant mentions it before the ceremony but I'll keep my damn phone thank you very much.

sophhabobopha · October 2014

If I was at a wedding like this you bet your ass I'd be candy crushin the whole damn time.

wajohnson09 · October 2014

ZOMG obviously this lady has never been on Pinterest! She just needs to have a little kid carry a "hilarious" sign or make up a cutesy poem!

novella1186 · October 2014

wajohnson09 said:

ZOMG obviously this lady has never been on Pinterest! She just needs to have a little kid carry a "hilarious" sign or make up a cutesy poem!

If I was the parent of these children, this would not fucking happen. How degrading for them. And how stupid.

sarahufl · October 2014

novella1186 said:

wajohnson09 said:

ZOMG obviously this lady has never been on Pinterest! She just needs to have a little kid carry a "hilarious" sign or make up a cutesy poem!

If I was the parent of these children, this would not fucking happen. How degrading for them. And how stupid.

I'm so with you. I cannot stand using cute children as a bitchy prop. The shame.

jacques27 · October 2014

I'm fairly anti-cell phone. I have one, I spend a little time checking Twitter or using my Kindle app while standing in line at the grocery store, and I'll check my email. I don't feel the need to constantly be connected or need it to entertain me - people managed to track each other down and handle emergencies before cell phones became de rigeur. I really hate when my friends have it out while we go out to dinner or when we're walking two blocks to get coffee (you really can't go without it for five minutes?).

But even I think this is crazy. Even though I'm rarely even in the same room as my cell I wouldn't hand it over for a weekend. Either trust me enough to be a polite adult who won't be disruptive with my phone and turn the ringer off when needed or just don't invite me. I would totally be cool with not being invited to the wedding of a crazy controlling person. Really.

canadianhearts · October 2014

Just another case of bridezillas treating their guests as children. One of the biggest things I keep telling myself while planning is that adults don't need rigid rules and stupid signs to attend a wedding. If they don't know how to properly conduct themselves at such an event, then it's on them - not on you.

levioosa · October 2014

I had three different friends post this article on their facebook pages this past week with the anthem that they are requiring an unplugged wedding. Ugh.

ashley8918 · October 2014

levioosa said:

I had three different friends post this article on their facebook pages this past week with the anthem that they are requiring an unplugged wedding. Ugh.

EWWWWWW!

levioosa · October 2014

ashley8918 said:

levioosa said:

I had three different friends post this article on their facebook pages this past week with the anthem that they are requiring an unplugged wedding. Ugh.

EWWWWWW!

I foresee a poem. One of the posts was accompanied with, "Better to capture the moment in your hearts than in a screen."

luckysnorkel · October 2014

Ugh, I just don't get this trend. I never will.

Lurker brides, I assure you, IT WILL NOT MATTER if some guests are on their phones. You won't even notice! I was so focused on my groom, and on trying not to cry, that I had to make a conscious effort to even pay attention to what the officiant was saying.

And to expect guests to hand over their phones for an entire weekend?! I'm not your grounded 16-year-old daughter.

APDSS22 · October 2014

levioosa said:

I had three different friends post this article on their facebook pages this past week with the anthem that they are requiring an unplugged wedding. Ugh.

I guess you can't bring your cyborg to those weddings. (Hate it when that happens).

I was talking to a coworker a couple months ago and she was telling me about her 50 year old (soon to be ex) husband playing with his phone DURING A FUNERAL. He left the ringer on and his phone went off every couple minutes during the service. There is just nothing you can do to stop some people from playing with phones when they shouldn't.

wrigleyville · October 2014

I don't have kids, and I'm still not handing my phone over for an entire weekend. What if something happened to my parents/siblings/friends and someone needed to get a hold of me? What if our apartment caught on fire and our landlord was trying to call? No way.

Our guests took lots of cell phone pictures and video, and I was so grateful. It was awesome to have pictures before the pro pics were finished, and having video was nice because we didn't hire a videographer. My brother was sitting in the front row, and I didn't even notice he was recording the entire thing. I was completely focused on breathing, looking at H, and listening to the officiant.

pswed2015 · October 2014

I don't want phones out during the ceremony... Then again, I trust my guests to be adults and put their phones away for that 20 - 30 minutes. After that, who cares.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

One cell phone went off during my ceremony... belonging to my SIL/BM and being held in BIL/GM's pocket. Nothing would have stopped that since those messages are all directed at the guests! I think I deserve a re-do wedding. All attendants will be strip searched this time.

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