Okay I'm two weeks away from my RSVP deadline, so I'm not publicly bitching about this to anyone.. but let me explain one particular instance of frustration..
I have two sisters who were given up for adoption before I was born.. long story, blah blah.. we've all reconnected via the power of social media, and one of them (Michelle) is really close with me and my other siblings (and has a very similar personality). The other, Sarah, is friends with us all on FB and comments on a lot of stuff, but we've all been sort of in touch now for 5-6 years, and we've met up at various events (my mom's 50th, my college graduation, my sister's college graduation, etc), but Sarah has never made it to one of these things, so I've never met her in person. So when I got engaged and she was like, "whoa so awesome so happy for you can't wait!!" I thought it was a fair assumption that perhaps she would make the trip and all of us would FINALLY be in the same room. We've been engaged a year, sent out save the dates in April, wedding is next month.. so, lots of time to prep.
She has three kids and is recently married (courthouse, planning a PPD for next June--yay, not) so I understand she has a lot going on. However, a few of us have tried to sort of feel out the vibe here and see if she plans to come, and she never actually says yes or no but sort of says that she isn't sure she'll be able to come or she's super busy or something. I guess what bothers me is... quit worrying about hurting my feelings. Of course I'll be disappointed if you say no, but I will be MAD if you just avoid some perceived confrontation and don't send the RSVP at all. It's so easy. Check a box. Put it in the stamped, addressed envelope. Drop it in a mailbox. The end.
Cliff's notes version of this post--why is RSVPing so hard for some people?