hi all, i need some outside opinions..... or probably just some reassurance/reality checks from people who don't know me personally.
soooooo i've had this one friend for almost 8 years, 4 of which we lived together. we've always been close, supportive of each other, etc. she's always the first to remember important stuff, stand up for me, volunteer to help, bla bla bla.
but since major changes started happening in my life (i moved out 4 years ago and in with my now-fiance a few miles away, i lost 70 pounds, i got my doctorate, got engaged, and am now getting married in hawaii and honeymooning in japan - ok my life is rad) she's become really kinda a bitch. our mutual friends know she's always been difficult, but a few years ago one pointed out that she's especially combative with me. i'm a mellow person, i don't like conflict, and honestly for most of the time i lived with her i was believing that i was the crazy one.
flash forward til now..... i am not having a bridal party, but she is of course invited to the wedding. my fiancé and i asked her to play guitar at our ceremony (she's a musician) and she agreed. then she shit on all our song suggestions and got mad at me for picking things that are too hard to play. so i relieved her of that duty.
she volunteered to come with me to find a gown.... which she did, was very supportive, excited, etc. more recently she got wishy washy about helping me learn how to bustle, etc. i've always been profuse in my thank-yous.
for my bachelorette, she wanted to plan a weekend away in vegas (we live in LA) and wanted to invite all kinds of people who aren't invited to the wedding....so pretty much an excuse to go to vegas. when that didn't happen, a few of us went out in hollywood, and she bitched the whole time about spending money.
mind you, this entire time, she's been bitching to me about everything, how much this and that costs, finding a place to stay, etc. NO ONE ELSE has said anything negative about this entire process.
sooooo here's me working with my planner in hawaii to put together welcome bags for the out of town visitors to be waiting for them at their hotels/vacation rentals... i wanted hers to be extra special since her birthday is happening the day she flies in. i asked her to give me the name and contact number of the person she rented the vacation rental from and she FLIPPED OUT..... totally shouted at me for being a demanding bitch, making her life difficult, being super self-centered, etc.
has any of you dealt with any of this kind of drama? i'm pretty much writing it off that she's jealous, insecure, stressed about other stuff, i asked her about the gift bag at the wrong time, etc. do you have similar experiences? am i being crazy? even my planner says i'm a super chill bride.... but this is serio getting to me.