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@larrygaga said in her thread about body love and struggles that she sometimes feels better after saying 10 good things about her body. Many of us responded that based on her ephotos we could EASILY say 10 good things about her body because she's gorgeous and shouldn't feel bad. But also many of us said we struggle with our own devastating body issues. This got me thinking... maybe part of the image problem women struggle with is that we're so quick to snark, criticize, and make negative comments, but we're not so quick to compliment. I can personally say I'm guilty of this.
A lot of times, someone walks past me at work and I think "wow she looks so good in yellow" or "damn her hair looks amazing today" but I don't say it out loud. Why? I think women should focus less on tearing each other down and focus more on pointing out each others' positives. (Tina Fey-esque)
@larrygaga, you have inspired me. For the next 24 hours, I'm going to compliment 10 people. Honest, genuine compliments. Whether it's women at work, someone on facebook, the lady next to me at the super market, or my fellow Knotties.
I'm constantly trying to work on myself, do some self-reflection, and strive to be a decent person. I have many flaws. I've said before, I do shit wrong all the time, and I don't always like the person I am. But I am going to love this mission. My goal is to make 10 people smile, or feel a little better about themselves, or at the very least just appreciate the compliment for a moment. At the very best, maybe they'll feel inclined to also go and honestly compliment someone.
I am so excited about this!
Re: The 10 Compliments Mission, Spinoff of larrygaga's body love thread!
I don't mean to seem stalker-ish cuz I already said something similar to this in the body love thread, but I feel like an ass for not saying it right off the bat since I was thinking it. You put your wedding photos as your siggy (or whatever it's called) and I think you look fucking amazing. I'm so so jealous of your gorgeous hair, and you look curvy and beautiful!
@Ic07, I did something similar recently--I wrote to thank a colleague for her amazing dilligence and thoughtfulness in the workplace after an event for which such a comment was appropriate. She's someone who is easily overlooked. I copied her supervisor on the email. Her supervisor chose to respond to the missive and not only offered further encouragement to her, but he copied the human resources department on the full thread, including all my specific examples.
--William Shakespeare (Sonnet 25)
Y'all are fuckin' killing me today. I ain't the queen of no damn thing (sighs of relief from around the world) but I appreciate everything you all said. I am only as rad as you motherfuckers are, which says a lot about all of us. I have learned a LOT from y'all, and stolen approximately ten billion gifs.
I'm the fuck out.
Also @Jells2dot0 for being such an elegant and strong lady. You could have wallowed in self-pity, but you kept your head up and fought back, and I hope I can be as graceful in the face of trouble.
@lacqueredlover for being the best newbie ever. You came in without silly snowflake drama or selfish rudeness. So glad to have you here!
@MagicInk for being the classiest feminist I know. You keep people accountable for the stupid crap they say without ever berating them or putting them down. I have a massive brain-crush on how smart you are!
@lolo883 for being a beautiful, kind, excellent person inside and out.
@emmaaa You are excellent. I want to be your friend.
I can't list everyone but these are the ones that came immediately to mind. All my Knotties are lovely ladies and I think you're incredible.