Bouquet and Garter Toss - Yes or No?

[Deleted User] · October 2014

southernbelle0915 · October 2014

I voted No. The bouquet toss doesn't bother me, but the garter hunt and toss is straight up gross IMO. The dude puts is face up his brides dress and pulls off lingerie with his teeth? All in front of her family? And tosses it into a crowd of family and friends? Nope nope nope.

Then, in some circles, the garter catcher puts the garter bouquet catcher. That crosses the nice from gross to borderline sexual assault. All around NOPE!

climbingsingle · October 2014

I hate both.

theartistformerlyknownas · October 2014

I always hated the bouquet toss just because I didn't want to be at all in the spotlight, especially for being single. It doesn't offend me though. I didn't do it at my wedding.

Garter hunt/toss is all kinds of wrong. And putting it in someone else is awful.

cafarrie · October 2014

I don't mind the bouquet toss, but my in girlfriend group we're mostly married so it didn't make sense for our wedding. My DH really wanted to do the garter toss but that was one thing I was not willing to compromise on. I think it's gross and embarrassing. We did not do either.

ETF: grammar

Almie425 · October 2014

I skipped them both, I think it's outdated and don't think anyone really enjoys it.

[Deleted User] · October 2014

Thanks for the comments! We were leaning towards no for both and you confirmed we're making the right choice!

chibiyui · October 2014

I voted yes, because if you don't do the sleazy garter hunt or the creepy putting it on whoever caught the bouquet, they can be fun.

Also don't single out single people.

But definitely don't do them if you don't want to.

AddieCake · October 2014

I hate them both.

LittleWohlscheid · October 2014

I voted yes. I always have thought they're a fun tradition. I've never seen the garter get put on the bouquet catcher, but it sounds kind of creepy. If you're not comfortable, there's no reason to do it. I think it's kind of fun though.

hellohkb · October 2014

No. They're so boring to sit through.

pswed2015 · October 2014

I voted no, because I won't be doing either. But to each their own.

KatWAG · October 2014

I dont mind either. But I certainly dont miss either of them when they are skipped.

atlastmrsg · October 2014

Instead of tossing bouquet, I took a moment at reception to walk bouquet over to a guest who had just gotten engaged and wish her well in her wedding planning. It was more sincere than tossing it to whoever, and there weren't a lot of single ladies in my crowd.

I think the whole garter thing is just uncomfortable for everyone involved--those who have to participate, watch, or receive it.

bahamabride2015 · October 2014

I voted no but say "sure" to the bouquet toss and no to the garter.

I won't be doing either.

vulpiepop · October 2014

I don't mind the bouquet toss. My mom is insisting on it and I don't care enough to say no, but the garter toss is inappropriate in my opinion. In both my and my FI's cultures, it's downright rude to subject your guests to something like that; but if I were attending a wedding where they did one, I wouldn't say anything or side-eye it. I'd be really uncomfortable watching that though and I'd probably turn away or excuse myself to the bathroom or something.

Maggie0829 · October 2014

Anything that interrupts the party is a no for me.

ElcaB · October 2014

We had a fun spin on the bouquet/garter toss, but then decided to skip it. It wasn't missed!

[Deleted User] · October 2014

atlastmrsg said:

Instead of tossing bouquet, I took a moment at reception to walk bouquet over to a guest who had just gotten engaged and wish her well in her wedding planning. It was more sincere than tossing it to whoever, and there weren't a lot of single ladies in my crowd.

I think the whole garter thing is just uncomfortable for everyone involved--those who have to participate, watch, or receive it.

I love this idea! Will definitely be doing it, and I already have a friend in mind!!!

Nymeru · October 2014

No to the garter toss, but yes to doing something nice with your bouquet. I don't love the toss idea unless you have the right crowd for it, but gifting the bouquet to an engaged person or to a happily married person is a very nice thing to do.

chibiyui · November 2014

pswed2015 said:

I voted no, because I won't be doing either. But to each their own.

@pswed2015 paging you just to say I love your siggy. Fucking love it.

ahyatt87 · November 2014

I voted yes. At our wedding we had all men (married or single) participate in the garter toss and all women (married or single) participate in the bouquet toss. And no, DH did not stick his face up my dress. And no, the person who caught the garter did not put it on the person who caught the bouquet.

Oh! And to add incentive to participate, we attached scratch lottery tickets to the bouquet and the garter. Literally, all our guests participated, so it worked!

spglsp · November 2014

A friend of mine who got married several years back gave her bouquet to her mother. I thought this was beautiful and will be incorporating it into my own wedding. I have no inherent issue with the bouquet toss (I've caught a bouquet myself a long time back) but we don't have many single female friends or family members so it could get awkward shining a spotlight on the unmarrieds

mrsk616 · November 2014

we are not doing either because of most of our friends are either married or not single. we are doing an anniversary dance a nicer way to put those out there.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

I think it's a matter of knowing your crowd too. Are you going to have a large number of single people there? And I think age of the single people can make a difference. I know when my husband and I got married (me 39 & him 45) we didn't have very many single people there. In fact it was about 7. My friends who were in their 30's asked if we were doing it & I said no & they said thank you. But I just went to a wedding where the couple was in their mid 20's and had lots of singles guests in their 20's and it was a big hit.

wrigleyville · November 2014

jlemmo89 said:

we are not doing either because of most of our friends are either married or not single. we are doing an anniversary dance a nicer way to put those out there.

Anniversary dances still leave people out, though. We skipped anything related to single/married entirely.

Jen4948 · November 2014

I woudn't toss either the bouquet or the garter (not sure I'd even wear one) but I also wouldn't do an anniversary dance out of fairness to those who aren't married or in relationships. I'll probably skip both-my brother and SIL did. And the garter toss creeps me out.

amb1062 · November 2014

I agree. If you want to do them, it is fine. But I don't feel like I missed out if they are omitted.

emkayc · November 2014

My MOH, who is also FSIL, just got engaged last night. I had already thought I might hand it to her as the alternate to the toss, but now she really is the next one, so it works out perfectly!

No to anyone even seeing the garter. Gross.

hutchsl · November 2014

I wasnt going to but my MIL wanted the bouquet toss and the place doing my bouquet did a free toss bouquet. As far as the garter we threw it but that was the end - no putting it on the bouquet catcher. Turns out a friend getting married the next month caught thebouquet. The friend that caught the garter got married 2 yeras later and they used the garter in their wedding and my DH was a groomsman.

VanillaWolf · November 2014

I attended a wedding when I was a child, where the bride broke up her bouquet and handed flowers to all the children (and young adults) who were at the reception. I thought this was an amazing gesture from the bride, especially since kids aren't tall enough to catch the bouquet, next to the adults.

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