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AlPacina · November 2014

So this is the space. Sorry for the random crap in the picture. It actually makes the wall look a lot smaller than it is. I feel like boxy things like photo frames wouldn't do much to help. It needs some shape added. The dining room table is between me and the wall.

We used to have a different picture, shifted to the left, and then just kept our wall calendar next to it on the right. This new picture is super heavy, so it has to hang exactly where it is right now.

Does this help give anyone any ideas? BF isn't keen on painting the wall, unfortunately. Our house is tiny and he thinks that painting the walls at all will make it seem even smaller..... Don't even get me started, haha.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

@CocoBellaF -Eat the cheesy stuff!

@Peaseblossom55 -I'm about to fabo stalk you for those pictures!

@phira - lots of hugs!!

@Ms Sparky -Our voting place was empty too...it's right next to my neighborhood and it's deserted.

@Goldenpenguin -YAY!!!

lmcooper86 · November 2014

@GoldenPenguin - YAY!!!

@AlPacina - I think some medium/smaller frames could work fine, you probably have enough space to make a small collage. If you did the photos in black and white or sepia they wouldn't compete with the painting. Other ideas might be metal brackets with plants (real or fake) or maybe a long thin side table to run underneath the painting.

AlPacina · November 2014

lmcooper86 said:

@AlPacina - I think some medium/smaller frames could work fine, you probably have enough space to make a small collage. If you did the photos in black and white or sepia they wouldn't compete with the painting. Other ideas might be metal brackets with plants (real or fake) or maybe a long thin side table to run underneath the painting.

@lmcooper86- OMG, this such a great idea. Man, I hope I have room for it! I would really like some metal brackets or sconces, and I'm definitely considering fake plants too. I just didn't have any luck finding any that I liked yesterday. But I will keep searching!

@GoldenPenguin - That is such great news!! I bet you wish it was tomorrow already!

Peaseblossom55 · November 2014

@southernpeach89 I just found the photo and tagged myself & H in it a few minutes ago.

phira · November 2014

Thanks, everyone. I'll try to keep the backstory short.

I've been estranged from my father for 8 of the past 10 years. The best/fastest/easiest way to explain is to suggest that you look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder. My two siblings still have a relationship with him, and it's been difficult for all three of us that I don't. But it is what it is; the 2 years we were reconciled were not better or easier, and there's no question in my mind that I do not want a relationship with him.

Since my parents split 11 years ago, my paternal grandparents have not put a lot of effort into reaching out to the three of us. They've put in even less effort with me since the estrangement. When I'm invited to family stuff and (inevitably) decline because my father will be there, I always follow up with an invitation to get dinner or lunch or something with my grandparents. Over the past ten years, they've accepted a handful of times; the last time was a few years ago. They've met J three times and they've never met his family.

They did not RSVP to the wedding; J called them a few days after the deadline, because I was too scared to call them myself. They told him that they were definitely coming to the ceremony, but that they weren't sure they would stay for the reception. The next day, they called him and said they weren't coming to the reception. They also RSVPed to J's dad saying they weren't coming to the rehearsal lunch.

We're seating grandparents during our ceremony's processional, and we needed to know if they wanted to walk down the aisle or not during the ceremony. I decided to be an adult and call them, and they (well, my grandmother) called me back late this morning while I was at work.

I got a lot of, "Well, of course we wouldn't miss your wedding!!" and, "Whatever you'd like us to do because we don't want to ruin your special day." But most of it was about how difficult this is for them, and how they aren't coming to the rehearsal lunch because my grandmother and mother don't want them there and they haven't even met J's family (I asked if they wanted to meet J's family before the wedding but my grandmother didn't answer me). And how I rejected my father and the whole family, so it's hard for them to come to the wedding.

She asked what time they should be at the wedding, and I said that we were doing photos before the ceremony and we were signing our ketubah about 15 minutes beforehand. I said that it might be easier on them to come early so we could do photos then instead of after the ceremony during cocktail hour (so they could leave as planned), and she said that she didn't understand why they would be in photos, and that it seemed inappropriate.

So anyway. My grandparents are in their early eighties, and I know they're sad about the fact that I'm estranged from their son, but at this point, what would be easiest on me emotionally would have been if they had just declined the invitation.

beanbot2002 · November 2014

GoldenPenguin said:

@southernpeach89 - I am DYING at your costume!! You know how much I love penguins.

I've been MIA lately because of work. So many things.

Last weekend we beat our biggest rivals TWICE in hockey. They were up at the top of the national rankings, so it was extra sweet. It made for a long weekend, and I didn't get to hang out with my favorites (@swazzle, @csousa1, @buddysmom80, & @hummingbird125), but at least I didn't miss out on all the fun to watch us get our asses kicked, which is what I had originally predicted.

FI & I are supposed to close on our house tomorrow - but we got a letter from our attorney saying that they still haven't gotten the clear to close from the lender. They'd better do that today, or I'm going to be pissed.

Other than that... @swazzle is picking up her bridesmaid dress today!! YAY!!

There's this little outfit combo at Babies R Us that has a penguin on it, and I consider getting it each time just so that I can take a picture of No-Uh in it and send it to you. lol I'm a giant dork

[Deleted User] · November 2014

@Peaseblossom55 -I saw it lol!!! I wanted to Like it but I didn't want your friend to think I was creepy lol.

Peaseblossom55 · November 2014

No problems you can like it or not Glad you saw it @southernpeach89

GoldenPenguin · November 2014

@beanbot2002 - DOOOO ITTTTTT!!!

[Deleted User] · November 2014

Hi everybody...this is going to be a post & run because both today and yesterday are sort of just totally insane. It's rainy and gross today and I'm super exhausted, so hopefully I'll come home tonight and catch up on everybody's lives while I enjoy a glass of wine and listen to election coverage (SUPER hopeful about our governor's race this year).

Yesterday, I had a super-proud moment, when I installed a new ceiling fan in my bedroom ALL BY MYSELF, including the wiring and everything. The light in my bedroom had gone out a few months ago and I've just basically been dealing with it...and then the time changed and I just got fed up, so I quit waiting for my brother to take care of it and did it myself. It took me 3 hours, and I had to start over, and I yelled a lot, but I did it!

Today, like I said, is gray and gross. There's a realtor coming to show my house in about an hour, so i'm going to pack up and take the dog over to my parents and maybe try to go for a run and go get a gingerbread latte. Other than that, I need to try to contact some libraries that have dissertation sources that I need...trying to make some appointments fro Christmas break.

KeptInStitches · November 2014

Blech. That exam could have gone a lot better.

I could do 50% of it, could make an assumption (for something I should have been able to solve for ...) and do another 30%, and couldn't do 20%. Boy do I feel smart today. [/sarcasm]

speakeasy14 · November 2014

@phira *hugs* At least they are coming for your ceremony. Hopefully no more tears happen, well only happy tears.

KeptInStitches · November 2014

Ok, now I have a minute to sit down and read:

@southernpeach89, those photos are awesome.

@ollie08, I've done the eye-twitch thing too! Do you find it happens more when you're tired?

@lmcooper86, chicken with broccoli cheddar sauce and rice sounds awesome.

@peaseblossom55, glad the work is coming along!

@minskat30, my arm was sore from the flu shot for about a day this year. Did you get it in your dominant arm or nondominant?

@goldenpenguin - CONGRATS HOMEOWNER!!

@speakeasy14, lovely kitchen! Can you get tile samples and bring them home? When my mom did hers, that helped a lot.

@phira, hugs. I'm sorry.

@beanbot2002, do it!

@futuremrshistorian, ok fine. You've motivated me. I'll do my ceiling fan in the basement bathroom as soon as I have time. Or I'll make FI do it.

Blue & White · November 2014

@ollie08 right? Which repub or reformed repub do you like the best? Aaaaaagh. Half cent for schools though here and we need ac so up go the sales taxes hopefully lol

@goldenpenguin yay closing!!! Get ready to sign your name a lot!!

@lavenderfields13‌ haha I also vote with my vagina and my feelings that people can love whomever they want except for pedophilia (there was an svu episode once that was like oh pedophilia is treated like homosexuality. Nope nope nope. Pedophilia is a no go guys)

I've been busy!! So busy that I don't even know where to start soooo yea. We went to Halloween horror nights this weekend and it was super fun. And cold! You know it's serious when I break out the ear warmers in Florida (but seriously, H and I were the only ones prepared for the temps cause apparently our Floridian friends aren't very good at dealing with cold temps)

Our house is awesome sauce. We are redoing our bedroom but it's taking forever cause a) wallpaper and b) we haven't been home on a weekend since like...sept 18?

I'm also playing in the community band here and having a blast. We had my first concert last week and I'm so excited to get the new music for our holiday concert tonight (don't worry- I voted early!!)

But I miss you guys!! I need to lurk more

Blue & White · November 2014

@KeptInStitches‌ make sure you turn off the power before installing the ceiling fan. I accidentally electrocuted H because I didn't turn the power all the way off lol. Oops. He still loves me. @futuremrshistorian obviously you did a good job if you didn't get electrocuted!

speakeasy14 · November 2014

KeptInStitches that's a good idea, I didn't even think of getting tile samples. Looks like I have some shopping to do (and apparently some waking up since I had at least 3 spelling errors)

minskat30 · November 2014

@KeptinStitches - The nondominate one. Why? Does it make a huge difference? I know you are supposed to move it around a bit so I lifted weights that day with both arms. I'm not sure if that helped or hurt.

KeptInStitches · November 2014

@minskat30, I did my nondominant arm too. I've heard it makes a difference, but I think deep down that it's really how miserable you're willing to be. I'm right-handed and I think it would hurt much worse for much longer if I did my right arm simply because it would be moving so much more.

AlPacina · November 2014

@KeptInStitches & @minskat30- The point is to keep the arm with the shot moving so that the muscle can work the injection out of it quicker and keep blood flowing. The less you move the arm with the shot, the more it's going to hurt when you finally do move it. It can also feel more achey/throbbing. So by doing it in your dominant arm, you're increasing the circulation to the area with the shot, distributing it and reducing the pain more quickly.

I typically spend the whole day after I get my shot moving my arm in big circles with my elbow bent. It keeps it feeling better overall, even if it is uncomfortable during the motions. Anything to assist blood circulation in that area will help.

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