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Call it Eloping...

whitneyaceewhitneyacee member
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So my fiancé and I plan to get married next month. Neither one of us want a big ole wedding ceremony. We prefer to have a big party as a reception, or a cookout, but we're saving up for that.

Anyway we plan to get married at a courthouse then spend the weekend at a nice hotel and casino.

My only thing is how my family will feel, especially my parents. I told my mom were getting married next month and the courthouse and she's not feeling the courthouse idea. My parents and his parents were married in the courthouse. Plus the wedding is a NO because his fan is from Mississippi where as mine is from Texas.

Anyway, I just want it to be a special weekend for he and I.

How should I go about this with my parents?

Thanks in advance for your help!
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  • Tchavon1984Tchavon1984 member
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    In all honesty, at the end of the day it's about you two. you arent getting married to please your family. So why should you do anything other then what you want for your big day. It's not about them. So do what you want to do and dont let anyone try to take over. (bcuz when its something they do not want trust me they will try) They will come around. Every wedding is beautiful Courthouse or a 20,000 wedding. If I knew back then what I know now I would have gone to the courthouse too. Good luck with everything
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  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    I agree you do what makes you both happy.. Parents will come around once they see thats what you really wanted.. Or and this is just a notation... You could do something small and intimate like at a church or someones back yard/park and invite your closest family and then you both can go honeymoon at the hotel.. I mean at that point they cant complain about not being there and blah blah blah.. but it will include them some kind of way.. Hope this helps...

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  • LeciaBLeciaB member
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    @whitneyacee.. is there any way that you could tell mom that your plan is to do the courthouse then do the reception later and that you guys are just saving up for that?

    I am its your day and I understand parents are super important.. my suggestion is to be open and honest with the parents the whole way so they dont feel like you are going behind their backs or leaving them out.

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    whitneyacee said:
    So my fiancé and I plan to get married next month. Neither one of us want a big ole wedding ceremony. We prefer to have a big party as a reception, or a cookout, but we're saving up for that. Anyway we plan to get married at a courthouse then spend the weekend at a nice hotel and casino. My only thing is how my family will feel, especially my parents. I told my mom were getting married next month and the courthouse and she's not feeling the courthouse idea. My parents and his parents were married in the courthouse. Plus the wedding is a NO because his fan is from Mississippi where as mine is from Texas. Anyway, I just want it to be a special weekend for he and I. How should I go about this with my parents? Thanks in advance for your help!
    We can't say it any better than you have lovie.  ;-)   I get why she's in her feelings though.  Both sets of parents got married in a courthouse, she and possibly even your FMIL want to have the whole kit and kaboodle.  Maybe acknowledge that to her then reemphasize what's important to you and FH.  Good luck!

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  • whitneyaceewhitneyacee member
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    Thanks everyone for your input. I plan to have a sit down with my mom and dad and let them know. As for his parents, they're cool with the idea because it saves money. I am currently in the planning stages of the small reception that will follow within 3 to 4 weeks after the elopement and Pinterest has been giving us ideas on invitations. :-) At the end of the day, it is what makes me happy. My mom wonders why the rush, when really there isn't a rush. We've been together for almost 5 years and we feel it is time. :-)
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  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    whitneyacee definitely keep us updated.. and yes Pinterest has been my go to guide for my baby shower i love that site..

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  • whitneyaceewhitneyacee member
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    Update! We're married...we saved money and had a great time in Arkansas, Mississippi (where he's from), and Tennessee. :-)

    The courthouse ceremony was quick but we still got teary-eyed just knowing that we got married. I'm happy!!!!
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  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    whitneyacee... Congrats on your marriage.. im soo happy for you and your new hubby.. God bless your union with joy, happiness and lots of love

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  • mrsdweavermrsdweaver member
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    Congrats @whitneyacee!! I hope that your marriage is filled with love and peace! :)
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  • footballwife77footballwife77 member
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    awww!!! CONGRATS MRS!
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