Did you know your proposal was coming?

esstee33 · November 2014

LadyMillil said:

houndpuppy1 said:

Ha! That was my thread

I have another friend who has a friend who basically told her fiance he was proposing, when he was doing it, and planned a vacation so he could do it on vacation. That's a little more crazy than my post on the E board. Note: This girl is NOT my friend. I was just told about her, lol.

Adding that I do know it's coming. I know my ring has been purchased. Just waiting for him to actually be in the states and decide when the time is right for him to do it.

ETA: I have casually browsed wedding dress sites, just because I like to look at them, but I have NOT done any sort of planning. It feels wrong and crazy to do that before being engaged.

BSC sis planned her entire wedding before she was engaged. She also bought her E ring and gave it to her BF with a proposal deadline.

Whoaaaaa, buddy. That's some crazy shit. I seriously wonder what's wrong with men who actually propose to crazy broads like this. Like, you really want to be married to this lunatic??

LadyMillil · November 2014

esstee33 said:

LadyMillil said:

houndpuppy1 said:

Ha! That was my thread

I have another friend who has a friend who basically told her fiance he was proposing, when he was doing it, and planned a vacation so he could do it on vacation. That's a little more crazy than my post on the E board. Note: This girl is NOT my friend. I was just told about her, lol.

Adding that I do know it's coming. I know my ring has been purchased. Just waiting for him to actually be in the states and decide when the time is right for him to do it.

ETA: I have casually browsed wedding dress sites, just because I like to look at them, but I have NOT done any sort of planning. It feels wrong and crazy to do that before being engaged.

BSC sis planned her entire wedding before she was engaged. She also bought her E ring and gave it to her BF with a proposal deadline.

Whoaaaaa, buddy. That's some crazy shit. I seriously wonder what's wrong with men who actually propose to crazy broads like this. Like, you really want to be married to this lunatic??

I'm pretty sure there was a lot of emotional manipulation involved. They've been married less than 2 months and are already having problems.

hikebikebemerry · November 2014

I had no idea that FI would be proposing. I had actually been talking with my sister 2 weeks earlier about how it would take him at least another year to pop the question. It's just his personality- he takes a long time to come to a decision, but once he makes the decision it's exactly what he wants to do.

I didn't know he had been looking at rings. His Mom had smuggled the diamond that he was going to be using to him with a bunch of mail when we met up with her for dinner.

He popped the question when we were out hiking, and it was perfect. I do wish that I could remember what he said, because I know that it was very sweet.

Nymeru · November 2014

I always knew he would ask, but had no clue that it was going to happen so early on. I remember him looking at me about two months into things and saying, "If things are anywhere close to as good as they are now, a year from now, you're getting a ring." So I knew that he'd be proposing around our anniversary/Christmas/New Year's. Wrong. Six months in, he randomly bear-hugged me and said, "I want to marry you so bad!" I responded, "I know. Me too. We will." And he apparently thought we were engaged. I simply thought it was one more of his, "I hope we get married someday" comments.

Three days later while we were in an old-timey candy store, he looked at me with this really weird expression on his face and asked why I wasn't acting excited. I looked around at the displays, confused, wondering if he thought I was supposed to be shrieking in glee at the thought of the sugar coma I'd shortly be inducing. "You know...about us getting married..." he prompted. I looked at him, feeling all sorts of bewildered, and replied that he hadn't actually ever asked me. He started to protest, then immediately spun around, grabbed a ring pop, opened it, and finally put in question form.

We still laugh about how I'm the only girl either of us know who didn't know she was being proposed to.

sophhabobopha · November 2014

Not surprised. We decided to be engaged and bought me a ring. Boom!

rnsoon · November 2014

LadyMillil said:

houndpuppy1 said:

Ha! That was my thread

I have another friend who has a friend who basically told her fiance he was proposing, when he was doing it, and planned a vacation so he could do it on vacation. That's a little more crazy than my post on the E board. Note: This girl is NOT my friend. I was just told about her, lol.

Adding that I do know it's coming. I know my ring has been purchased. Just waiting for him to actually be in the states and decide when the time is right for him to do it.

ETA: I have casually browsed wedding dress sites, just because I like to look at them, but I have NOT done any sort of planning. It feels wrong and crazy to do that before being engaged.

BSC sis planned her entire wedding before she was engaged. She also bought her E ring and gave it to her BF with a proposal deadline.

Oh my...I just can't even. With any of these BSC ladies.

KytchynWitche · November 2014

We had been talking about marriage, weighing up the pros and cons versus just getting a Cohabitation Agreement (which is what MIL wanted us to do), and we'd pretty much come to the conclusion that marriage was going to be the better option for us.

So basically, I knew that a proposal was somewhere in our future, but I didn't know that it would happen when it did. Because DH didn't know it would happen when it did.

I'm not gonna lie, I knew pretty much immediately when we started dating that he was the man I wanted to spend my life with, and when a co-worker asked me to help with research/planning for her wedding (because apparently my Googling skills are to be admired) I did save a couple of things off Pinterest etc that I thought might come in handy should the day ever come. And I knew more-or-less who was going to be on our guest list, mostly because we're not very out-there social people, so we don't have a whole heap of friends to invite. But I didn't all out plan, because that would be cuckoo pants.

auvb · November 2014

I had no idea. Although we had recently talked about our future, there was no hint of a proposal. We had even been to the Eiffel Tower in Paris a few months earlier, where I thought if it was going to happen it would happen then, but it didn't. He said it was too Cliché. Later we had planned to go to the BCS National Championship game. Unfortunately he was admitted into the hospital, where he was later diagnosed with cancer. We were able to watch the game from a room in the hospital, where he proposed at halftime. He had even invited our friends and family to watch the game with us, and little did I know, he had a plan. He has gone through chemo and surgery but is now cancer free!

carrie0924 · November 2014

I was completely surprised. FI is slow to make major life decisions. I was ready to get engaged after 2 years of dating. He kept dragging his feet. After about 3.5 years of dating, I started to get really irritated and pretty much our only fight that we kept having over and over was the "I want to know what my future holds!" fight. I had moved 700 miles and uprooted my entire life for this man!
In April of this year, we were taking a trip to my hometown to visit family and friends. I was hoping he might propose sometime during the trip. The day before we left for the trip, he was acting really weird. He told me he was going to stop by his sister's to help her with something after work. When I asked if I should join them for dinner, he acted annoyed and said no (super odd - I have fantastic relationship with FSIL). When he got home an hour later, I was ironing a shirt. He was impatient and asked when I would be finished (he is the most laid back guy - he never gets antsy or impatient!). I asked him what he had helped his sister with and he was very vague and said "Oh just some stuff" (also unusual). I walked to the bedroom to hang my shirts, and he followed me. He sat behind me on the bed, and when I turned around he said simply "We should get married." I was surprised and also scared that it was a joke so I didn't say anything. He opened up a hand, and there were 5 family rings. He started to tear up as he told me who they had belonged to, and asked me to choose one. The funny thing is, we had talked about rings a little bit, and he had mentioned he liked emerald cut. I said that was my least favorite cut. The ring I chose is a large, emerald cut white sapphire and I absolutely LOVE it! It belonged to his mother (who passed away when he was 21 - I've never met her) and before that, his father's mother.
The funniest part is he didn't even know he was going to be proposing that day. He had been thinking about it more and more, and he suddenly just asked himself "What AM I waiting for? I'll do it today." He didn't have a ring, so he called up his sister, went to his house after work, and picked up several rings because he couldn't decide which one to use. He did offer to buy me a ring of my choosing and just use the family ring as a "place holder", but the ring and the history and the meaning behind it mean way more than any store bought ring of my choosing could ever mean.

SBmini · November 2014

I did not, but I should have. However, husband knew that I would know so he did a lot of things to throw me off.

It didn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that proposing to me in a National Park was the best way to win me over. We went to Zion a year before he proposed and at the top of Angels Landing he didn't drop to one knee. I was sad for a day or two after that. Then, a few months before he proposed we went to Petrified National Forest and Lake Powell. We kayaked to a slot canyon. He considered proposing then but I learned later that he didn't have the ring, so he opted to wait.

Then, I announced that I wanted to hike to the bottom of the Grand Canyon. I made the plans. My husband kept trying to get me to find friends to go with us, and when I couldn't, he suggested we reschedule for a time when people could go with us. I was upset that he didn't want to go- so I didn't think he had anything planned. Then, when we didn't propose at sunset on the banks of Bright Angel Creek, I knew for sure he wouldn't propose, and I was at peace with that.

He asked me the following morning, at sunrise, on the shores of the Colorado River before we started hiking back up.

High five, A+ proposal. I later learned that he hid the ring in his extra pair of socks. Which is why when I told him to change his socks on the way down once he started to get blistered, he refused. He dealt with blisters the whole hike back up as a result of that choice.

ChristinaS85 · November 2014

I knew my proposal was coming, for the simple fact that I overheard one of his friends talk about it over Xbox Live, lol.

Knottie30728405 · November 2014

I had no idea it was coming even though we had been together 5 years. We went away for a weekend to our favorite hotel and got the penthouse overlooking San Diego and Coronado. We were sitting on the balcony when all of a sudden he got down on one knee and said "I don't have the ring yet, but I can't live my life without you. Will you please do the honor of marrying me?" At that point, I didn't care if I had a ring or not (even though I was wearing a promise ring), I was just so surprised that he asked bc we never really discussed marriage bc he was so scared of it since he was engaged once before and she walked out him. I, of course, started crying and said "YES" right as the sun was setting over the skyline. It was perfect. However, that was in June and I'm still waiting on my ring. He's designing it and having it made so I guess I can be a little more patient

[Deleted User] · November 2014

I knew he wanted to, but was surprised when it happened. I thought I had another 6 months to wait! I managed to say "yes" before blurring out, "is this actually happening?!"

My favorite part of my proposal story is that it happened in "the square" (right outside of the studio we moved to a few months ago) and a bum in the park started clapping for us.

Eat your heart out Disney princesses. Ha ha!

FiancB · November 2014

I knew, which is top secret from him. I frequently used his computer and some weird messages popped up from a couple we're friends with that made it sound like they were going to help him pick something out.

We went on a big road trip in CA that included visiting my parents and one day when we were heading to the beach he asked me to get sunscreen from his bag, and I found the ring. I didn't look in the box, but I knew what it was. Then I also was in the bath one day, window cracked, and could hear him having a really long conversation with my dad. I couldn't make out what they were saying, but I was pretty sure he was asking permission. Also we went to a beach and when I said "this is my favorite beach" he was like WHAT? I thought (beach in OR that we were also headed to) was your favorite beach!?" So I was pretty sure his plan was to propose at my favorite beach, near my hometown.

He was super nervous the night before, and the morning of he was all weird. That morning my parents called from CA and asked if anything was new and when I said we were heading to the OR beach my mom was like "OH GOOD, LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES". It was cloudy that day and he kept saying he hoped it would clear up, when normally he wouldn't care. I packed a picnic and he blamed hunger on why he was being weird, but then he couldn't actually eat.

So yeah. I knew. He tried so hard to surprise me though that I didn't have the heart to tell him he didn't. It was still really sweet.

JaniV123 · November 2014

I knew he had the ring, but never in a million years did i think he would propose when he did. I even bitched at him the whole day and the day before because I had to study and he had all these plans haha. We also had been going through a rough patch weeks/months before so a proposal was the last thing on my mind. I was shocked and I cried because i didnt think it was really happening. fast forward to 11 months after and everything is going good so far.

ETA: "when he did"

ETA2: i forgot the best part. I was sitting in a sail boat at night with a grgeous long dress he'd bought me and I still kept telling myself it was crazy and it wouldnt be possible. hence i was shocked when he actually started talking... i was shaking

redheadbride15 · November 2014

Har har. Surprised? Not at all.

My fiancee is many, many, wonderful things (sweet, gentle, adorably silly, loyal, intelligent, responsible, hard-working...) but spontaneous and traditionally romantic are not among his fine qualities. We decided to get married at least a year and a half before the proposal. Then I was starting to get impatient and found out that I had to actually tell him how to propose (buy a ring, ask me...). Then I had to find the jewelry stores to go to, set a budget, pick out the exact ring I wanted (down to the specific diamond). I then told him that the rest was up to him, and to give him credit he did actually buy the ring himself and picked the time for the proposal.

However, the timing was fairly predictable (we were away on vacation in a beautiful spot ~1 month after we picked the ring). Sweet, silly man didn't even have the ring on him when he proposed - he just said "I brought something special for you on this vacation, but first I have a question to ask you - will you marry me?" And then he had to admit that he would give me the ring later that evening.

I'm still the happiest girl in the world

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