It's very important that my fiancee and I are married in a catholic church. A catholic priest will only marry us in a church and it's very hard to convince him and the bishop to marry us outside the church. it would be important to me and my family that I stay with Catholic tradition. But we also have dreamed of an outdoor wedding and found a beautiful venue for that. We were thinking of doing a small intimate church wedding in the evening before the wedding for those that wanted to be a part of it (maybe no bridal or grooms parties to make it simple) and then do the rehearsal dinner and the next day have our outdoor wedding for all of our family and friends with the big reception afterwards. Has anyone done this before? What would I wear to the church wedding? I know it has to be appropriate for church but I don't want it to be the same dress I wear for the outdoor wedding. I want the church dress to be simple and respectful and the outdoor one to be "the first look" kind of dress that wows me. I would love to hear that someone else had to go through this too!
Re: Church and an Outdoor Wedding?
This is so inappropriate. You either care more about a Catholic wedding or more about an outdoor wedding. Which is it? If I were Catholic, I think this kind of thing would really offend me.
I also thought about having a small, separate ceremony on a different day from the big reception but when I talked to some of my guests about this idea they seemed very disappointed that they would not be able to witness the exchange of vows - that this was a really important part of the wedding for them. So you may want to take that into consideration.
As for the dress, have you looked into the possibility of using a "wow first look" type of dress that can be covered up somewhat for the church? There are many options that have add-on jackets, necklines, or sheaths. I suppose you could get two dresses... but it may not be necessary.
You need to decide if a dream or your faith is more important. @AddieCake is correct. Prioritizing a venue first over a sacrament is offensive. You also would no longer require a rehearsal dinner, because there would no longer be anything for which to rehearse.
This is so inappropriate. You either care more about a Catholic wedding or more about an outdoor wedding. Which is it? If I were Catholic, I think this kind of thing would really offend me.
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As a Catholic, I do find this offensive. Your church wedding is wedding enough.
as a non-pacticing Catholic who did want a beach wedding I find it offensive.
Immature is wanting a PPD the NEXT DAY because the Catholic ceremony isn't enough for you, because an over the top dress and outdoor locale is so important that you want to put on a show for guests.
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