My older sister is one of my bridesmaids and I love her dearly, and she has always been the most supportive person in my life, until my wedding. She has been upset with every decision I have made and now won't return my calls or emails. There was never a fight, just her telling me she was upset. Here are the details, I would love your suggestions on how to handle this:
1 - She is furious that I am not inviting her two best friends to my bachelorette weekend. It would make my weekend with 12 girls total and I don't want that many. Also these two friends (a female couple) caused some drama at my little sisters bachelorette weekend, and I am not that close with them. She told me several times I need to call them and tell them they aren't invited. I never invited them in the first place.
2 - She is upset with me because we aren't having children at the wedding, the same couple mentioned above have a son together that she is the God Mother of and she wants him there. I am not caving on the no children, it comes down to numbers. If we have kids than there is a whole group of adults I can't afford to invite, and it was the decision my fiancé and I made together. Everyone who has children I have personally called and they are ok with it, some thrilled for a weekend away even.
3 - She told me before she would wear a dress if I wanted her too. I know she is uncomfortable in one so I found a nice pant suit for her. She complained to my mother that they look too tight and she wont wear them. They are straight leg pants. She is very petite but prefers to wear mens pants because they are more comfortable. But this is my wedding, don't I get to pick an outfit? I am not putting her in a dress. I want her to be happy but I also want my party to look nice and tailored.
With all of this my feeling are hurt from her constant complaining but she is my older sister and I don't want to fight with her. I would appreciate anyone else's point of view.