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KatWAG · November 2014

I am really annoyed with my work. I get that it is the holiday season, and employee giving campaigns are very common. But my company basically forces you to give to Charity XYZ if you want to move up in the company. Grrrrr. Stop spending my money.

My boss point blank told me that I needed to give at least 1% of my salary if a wanted to move up in this company. I am up for a big promotion in Jan and he told me that the higher ups would check me contributions before considering me.

I think giving to charities is a great thing. I just dont think it should be forces on its employess.

KatWAG · November 2014

Oh and my period decided to be 4 days late. I just had a baby a few months ago. I cannot handle another one right now. But no, I am not pregnant, my body just thought it would be fun to freak me out.

Sorry thats more of a vent.

smalfrie19 · November 2014

KatWAG said:

I am really annoyed with my work. I get that it is the holiday season, and employee giving campaigns are very common. But my company basically forces you to give to Charity XYZ if you want to move up in the company. Grrrrr. Stop spending my money.

My boss point blank told me that I needed to give at least 1% of my salary if a wanted to move up in this company. I am up for a big promotion in Jan and he told me that the higher ups would check me contributions before considering me.

I think giving to charities is a great thing. I just dont think it should be forces on its employess.

That is so fucked up in so many ways!!!! Why is that stuff even TRACKABLE!?!?!?!?!? JESUS!

chibiyui · November 2014

KatWAG said:
I am really annoyed with my work. I get that it is the holiday season, and employee giving campaigns are very common. But my company basically forces you to give to Charity XYZ if you want to move up in the company. Grrrrr. Stop spending my money.

My boss point blank told me that I needed to give at least 1% of my salary if a wanted to move up in this company. I am up for a big promotion in Jan and he told me that the higher ups would check me contributions before considering me.

I think giving to charities is a great thing. I just dont think it should be forces on its employess.

That's bullshit. And sketchey

luckya23 · November 2014

KatWAG said:

I am really annoyed with my work. I get that it is the holiday season, and employee giving campaigns are very common. But my company basically forces you to give to Charity XYZ if you want to move up in the company. Grrrrr. Stop spending my money.

My boss point blank told me that I needed to give at least 1% of my salary if a wanted to move up in this company. I am up for a big promotion in Jan and he told me that the higher ups would check me contributions before considering me.

I think giving to charities is a great thing. I just dont think it should be forces on its employess.

WHAT??????

KatWAG · November 2014

@smalfrie19 @chibiyui @luckya23 It makes my blood boil and the worst part is that its a charity that I would not normally give money to.

We have an entire (albeit small) department that organizes this charity effort, so yes it can be tracked. And not only that, but the "giving season" started yesterday and I was asked to have my donation in by yesterday morning.

So I am torn as to what to do. I want to stand up for myself and not give, save my money to give to a casue I actually care about. But it a big company and I could very easily get passed over for my promotion.

beethery · November 2014

KatWAG said:

@smalfrie19 @chibiyui @luckya23 It makes my blood boil and the worst part is that its a charity that I would not normally give money to.

We have an entire (albeit small) department that organizes this charity effort, so yes it can be tracked. And not only that, but the "giving season" started yesterday and I was asked to have my donation in by yesterday morning.

So I am torn as to what to do. I want to stand up for myself and not give, save my money to give to a casue I actually care about. But it a big company and I could very easily get passed over for my promotion.

That is so FUCKED.

holyguacamole79 · November 2014

@katwag, I would talk to HR. That sounds totally inappropriate.

lovegood90 · November 2014

KatWAG said:

@smalfrie19 @chibiyui @luckya23 It makes my blood boil and the worst part is that its a charity that I would not normally give money to.

We have an entire (albeit small) department that organizes this charity effort, so yes it can be tracked. And not only that, but the "giving season" started yesterday and I was asked to have my donation in by yesterday morning.

So I am torn as to what to do. I want to stand up for myself and not give, save my money to give to a casue I actually care about. But it a big company and I could very easily get passed over for my promotion.

Ugh! Are employers even allowed to do that? Is there a way to, I don't know, prosecute them legally some way if you can prove the only reason you are passed over for a promotion is because you didn't give to charity?

jenna8984 · November 2014

I'm so fucking annoyed that DH & I can't be on the same page with vacations. I had been to 25 countries and 35 states before I ever met him so clearly it's a passion of mine. He had been to 2 states before we met. Since we've been together, I've brought him to 4 countries and like 3 states and he pretty much bitches and complains that he doesn't care for it, he thinks old buildings and historic sites are a boring waste of his time and money, etc.

So we're trying to plan one last big trip for March before we start TTC. We have talked about how we can do domastic/ beach/ easy trips once we have a family but this is basically the only chance for several years to do international/ city/ walking.

I researched the shit out of everything and found perfect hotels and flights for 4 nights London, 4 nights Reykjavik in our set budget. And he's arguing that he has no interest in that and would rather go to the Caribbean (which we just went to 2 months ago for honeymoon) or CA coast. Like sure, there's nothing wrong with CA but to me it doesn't compare to my option AND it's something much easier to do once we have kids. He says that I can just book the one I want, but I feel like a bitch always chosing what I want and making him sacrifice. (of our 6 trips, he disliked 2 of them so it's not my way all the time but I still feel bad about him disliking any) Uuugh, what do I do?!

amelisha · November 2014

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

KatWAG · November 2014

holyguacamole79 said:

@katwag, I would talk to HR. That sounds totally inappropriate.

haha silly you and your logic. This is our CEOs most prized initative. The pressue to give comes directly from our CEO every year. The charity is a huge national charity. And our decent (but not huge) company is its largest single donation each year because of this 'giving campaign.' So I seriously douby talking to HR would get me anywhere, becasue they get the same pressures.

Actually, because of the level I am currently and the level that the promotion would put my at, it was suggested to me that I give $5k and become a member of the Captain's club, or whatever stupid name they gave it. All it means is since you gave an insane amount of money, you get to attend a lunch with the CEO. Yippee...

FWIW, $5k is way way way more than 1% of my total salary. I said hell no to that request.

KatWAG · November 2014

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.

climbingsingle · November 2014

jenna8984 said:

I'm so fucking annoyed that DH & I can't be on the same page with vacations. I had been to 25 countries and 35 states before I ever met him so clearly it's a passion of mine. He had been to 2 states before we met. Since we've been together, I've brought him to 4 countries and like 3 states and he pretty much bitches and complains that he doesn't care for it, he thinks old buildings and historic sites are a boring waste of his time and money, etc.
So we're trying to plan one last big trip for March before we start TTC. We have talked about how we can do domastic/ beach/ easy trips once we have a family but this is basically the only chance for several years to do international/ city/ walking.
I researched the shit out of everything and found perfect hotels and flights for 4 nights London, 4 nights Reykjavik in our set budget. And he's arguing that he has no interest in that and would rather go to the Caribbean (which we just went to 2 months ago for honeymoon) or CA coast. Like sure, there's nothing wrong with CA but to me it doesn't compare to my option AND it's something much easier to do once we have kids. He says that I can just book the one I want, but I feel like a bitch always chosing what I want and making him sacrifice. (of our 6 trips, he disliked 2 of them so it's not my way all the time but I still feel bad about him disliking any) Uuugh, what do I do?!

Screw him. I'll go with you.

beethery · November 2014

KatWAG said:

holyguacamole79 said:

@katwag, I would talk to HR. That sounds totally inappropriate.

haha silly you and your logic. This is our CEOs most prized initative. The pressue to give comes directly from our CEO every year. The charity is a huge national charity. And our decent (but not huge) company is its largest single donation each year because of this 'giving campaign.' So I seriously douby talking to HR would get me anywhere, becasue they get the same pressures.

Actually, because of the level I am currently and the level that the promotion would put my at, it was suggested to me that I give $5k and become a member of the Captain's club, or whatever stupid name they gave it. All it means is since you gave an insane amount of money, you get to attend a lunch with the CEO. Yippee...

FWIW, $5k is way way way more than 1% of my total salary. I said hell no to that request.

FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS??????

Five thousand whole dollars. They are fucking high.

amelisha · November 2014

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.

That's a terrible situation. Honestly, it would probably give me second thoughts about even staying with the company (which I know is way easier said than done because jobs don't really grow on trees especially now, but sheesh.)

dolewhipper · November 2014

kat1114 said:

lolo883 said:

holyguacamole79 said:

I just found out that we have off Dec 24 & 25 for work. Which is great - yay Christmas. BUT it means that I have to take Dec 26 off if I want a long weekend. My former employer gave us Christmas + the day before or after. So, if CHristmas fell on a Tuesday or Thursday, you'd get the Monday or Friday off to give people a long weekend.

Grrr...

Ewwww. Work for the auto industry - we're off 12/24-1/2.

Or the aviation industry. We're also off those days.

Today my stomach is pissing me off. My lower right abdomen has been hurting constantly for over 3 years. I've been to several doctors, done lots of tests, and they can't seem to figure it out. Sometimes it hurts less than others, but it always hurts. It seemed like it was at least getting manageable for a while, but it has come back with a vengeance this week. Having stomach issues at work is so incredibly uncomfortable.

Did they check diverticulitis? Sounds like it adds up to that. You can try going on a low fod map diet and see if it helps. It's hella restrictive, but helps me a ton.

ashley8918 hugs

ashley8918 · November 2014

Thank you everyone. Cancer can just get fucked.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

jenna8984 said:

I'm so fucking annoyed that DH & I can't be on the same page with vacations. I had been to 25 countries and 35 states before I ever met him so clearly it's a passion of mine. He had been to 2 states before we met. Since we've been together, I've brought him to 4 countries and like 3 states and he pretty much bitches and complains that he doesn't care for it, he thinks old buildings and historic sites are a boring waste of his time and money, etc.
So we're trying to plan one last big trip for March before we start TTC. We have talked about how we can do domastic/ beach/ easy trips once we have a family but this is basically the only chance for several years to do international/ city/ walking.
I researched the shit out of everything and found perfect hotels and flights for 4 nights London, 4 nights Reykjavik in our set budget. And he's arguing that he has no interest in that and would rather go to the Caribbean (which we just went to 2 months ago for honeymoon) or CA coast. Like sure, there's nothing wrong with CA but to me it doesn't compare to my option AND it's something much easier to do once we have kids. He says that I can just book the one I want, but I feel like a bitch always chosing what I want and making him sacrifice. (of our 6 trips, he disliked 2 of them so it's not my way all the time but I still feel bad about him disliking any) Uuugh, what do I do?!

Ew. Withhold sex til he comes around? (pun intended)

IDK. Honestly, he needs to see how much you're trying to compromise with him. You want international experience and historical appeal, he wants a low language barrier. Your plan IS a good compromise! The Caribbean is not. If this isn't his idea of meeting you in the middle, he needs to offer a better one. You could go to Rio and have beaches and fancy drinks... and people speaking Portuguese. Same with the south of France, etc.

Out of this whole damn globe, you should be able to find something that meets each of your top priority, as long as that priority doesn't change from day to day. Which is more important - the language or the beach? Stick to it, find something.

lyndausvi · November 2014

Sorry for your loss Ashley.

Our dishwasher has been broken for over a month. That isn't horrible, but the repair guy is suppose to come today. Between 8-5 pm. What the fuck kind of time frame is that?

My parents and aunt are coming on Monday. I have no idea what to do with them. It's suppose to rain and well my mom is not in the best of health.

I'm also trying to figure out what to get them for xmas. They are going to Hawaii with my sister so I was thinking of an activity of some sort. But my sister is such the super planner everything has already been planned.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

And @Ashley8918 I'm so sorry.

HUGS

KatWAG · November 2014

amelisha said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.
That's a terrible situation. Honestly, it would probably give me second thoughts about even staying with the company (which I know is way easier said than done because jobs don't really grow on trees especially now, but sheesh.)

Oh no. I am staying here until they kick me out. My benefits are amazing. I work at a privately held company and have a pension. Do you know how rare that is? I have great health insurance and so many vacation days sometimes I have trouble issuing all of them. My company actually turned my blackberry off while I was on maternity leave so that no one would bother me.

Yes, this strong arming sucks, a lot. But I will deal with it because of all the other perks of my job. It is just annoying me right now because I have to fork over the money soon. I am just trying to figure out exactly how much money i am going to part with.

esstee33 · November 2014

@Ashley8918 I'm so sorry for your loss. Cancer can get fucked.

chibiyui · November 2014

@ashley8918‌ hugs

ashley8918 · November 2014

Thank you ladies. We weren't close, but I am feeling very melancholy about it.

Though, the hearty debates today were a nice distraction

Keep em' comin'!

novella1186 · November 2014

@Ashley8918 I'm so sorry

novella1186 · November 2014

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.
That's a terrible situation. Honestly, it would probably give me second thoughts about even staying with the company (which I know is way easier said than done because jobs don't really grow on trees especially now, but sheesh.)

Oh no. I am staying here until they kick me out. My benefits are amazing. I work at a privately held company and have a pension. Do you know how rare that is? I have great health insurance and so many vacation days sometimes I have trouble issuing all of them. My company actually turned my blackberry off while I was on maternity leave so that no one would bother me.

Yes, this strong arming sucks, a lot. But I will deal with it because of all the other perks of my job. It is just annoying me right now because I have to fork over the money soon. I am just trying to figure out exactly how much money i am going to part with.

My company does --what I think is-- kind of a shady thing like that. Our admin said she was bringing around forms for us in case we want to donate to the company's favorite charity. I was actually kind of excited to donate (maybe like $25). The form had 2 choices; select the amount you want DEDUCTED FROM YOUR PAY CHECK EVERY MONTH that will go straight to this charity automatically, or give a one-time gift of $1,000; $2,000 or $5,000. Well then, no, you get nothing.

I can't afford that shit. Now I understand why and how the company brags so much that it makes such a huge contribution to this charity every year; cuz they take it straight out of the employees' pockets. And when you donate the highest amounts, your name gets added to a list and blah blah blah. There's definitely some pretty overt pressure, but nowhere near the level of what you described. That's just bullshit.

theartistformerlyknownas · November 2014

novella1186 said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.
That's a terrible situation. Honestly, it would probably give me second thoughts about even staying with the company (which I know is way easier said than done because jobs don't really grow on trees especially now, but sheesh.)

Oh no. I am staying here until they kick me out. My benefits are amazing. I work at a privately held company and have a pension. Do you know how rare that is? I have great health insurance and so many vacation days sometimes I have trouble issuing all of them. My company actually turned my blackberry off while I was on maternity leave so that no one would bother me.

Yes, this strong arming sucks, a lot. But I will deal with it because of all the other perks of my job. It is just annoying me right now because I have to fork over the money soon. I am just trying to figure out exactly how much money i am going to part with.

My company does --what I think is-- kind of a shady thing like that. Our admin said she was bringing around forms for us in case we want to donate to the company's favorite charity. I was actually kind of excited to donate (maybe like $25). The form had 2 choices; select the amount you want DEDUCTED FROM YOUR PAY CHECK EVERY MONTH that will go straight to this charity automatically, or give a one-time gift of $1,000; $2,000 or $5,000. Well then, no, you get nothing.

I can't afford that shit. Now I understand why and how the company brags so much that it makes such a huge contribution to this charity every year; cuz they take it straight out of the employees' pockets. And when you donate the highest amounts, your name gets added to a list and blah blah blah. There's definitely some pretty overt pressure, but nowhere near the level of what you described. That's just bullshit.

My couple-jobs-ago job did that too. I wanted to be like "super! $1 per paycheck" but that wasn't an option. :-p You could also donate like $50 or something and "buy" half a vacation day. Yeah, my salary was worth more than that... but I'll keep my $50, thanks.

cafarrie · November 2014

novella1186 said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

KatWAG said:

amelisha said:

I can't believe that's even legal. Laaaaaaaaaame.

Well they arent technically forcing me, it is just a suggestion. No matter how pushy. And I could never prove, if I got passed over for my promotion.
That's a terrible situation. Honestly, it would probably give me second thoughts about even staying with the company (which I know is way easier said than done because jobs don't really grow on trees especially now, but sheesh.)

Oh no. I am staying here until they kick me out. My benefits are amazing. I work at a privately held company and have a pension. Do you know how rare that is? I have great health insurance and so many vacation days sometimes I have trouble issuing all of them. My company actually turned my blackberry off while I was on maternity leave so that no one would bother me.

Yes, this strong arming sucks, a lot. But I will deal with it because of all the other perks of my job. It is just annoying me right now because I have to fork over the money soon. I am just trying to figure out exactly how much money i am going to part with.

My company does --what I think is-- kind of a shady thing like that. Our admin said she was bringing around forms for us in case we want to donate to the company's favorite charity. I was actually kind of excited to donate (maybe like $25). The form had 2 choices; select the amount you want DEDUCTED FROM YOUR PAY CHECK EVERY MONTH that will go straight to this charity automatically, or give a one-time gift of $1,000; $2,000 or $5,000. Well then, no, you get nothing.

I can't afford that shit. Now I understand why and how the company brags so much that it makes such a huge contribution to this charity every year; cuz they take it straight out of the employees' pockets. And when you donate the highest amounts, your name gets added to a list and blah blah blah. There's definitely some pretty overt pressure, but nowhere near the level of what you described. That's just bullshit.

My company does something similar. I work for a not-for-profit hospital system. It's not even an appeal for a true charity (i mean, it kind of is because of the nature of our business) but rather, appealing to all employees to donate money that they are paid BY the company, back TO the company that in turn uses it for scholarship funds, hospital renovations, etc. I feel offended every year, but then feel bad that I'm getting offended and donate anyway. I would feel better if I knew funds were directly affecting patient care, but they are SO not.

Irritating.

jenna8984 · November 2014

@lolo883 exactly!!! He doesn't see me compromising but England is a huge compromise for me. If he had no limitations I would not go there, I'd be choosing like Italy, Czech, Bali. I came up with Azores because its beachy/ nature non-stress like he wants but it's international for me. You know what his veto was? That he doesn't eat Portuguese food. What are you even talking about?! I'm sure they have burgers and fries and rice you big baby!!

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